I had a similar problem in Winter last year. In the end I wore some cream coloured pants and a white "hoodie" with a white t-shirt underneath. I'm not sure whether it was a no-no or not but during the meditation I actually had the hood on because it was so cold and as you can see from my profile picture, I have very short hair. No one seemed to think there was any problem with anything and earlier correspondence with the abbot suggested that comfort and practicality was as much a criteria as anything else... make sure you're warm, he said.
"Do not force others, including children, by any means whatsoever, to adopt your views, whether by authority, threat, money, propaganda, or even education." - Ven. Thich Nhat Hanh
"The uprooting of identity is seen by the noble ones as pleasurable; but this contradicts what the whole world sees." (Snp 3.12)
“One to whom it might occur, ‘I’m a woman’ or ‘I’m a man’. Or ‘I’m anything at all’— Is fit for Mara to address.” (SN 5.2)