Let's make this forum more Buddhist!

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Re: Let's make this forum more Buddhist!

Post by L.N. » Wed Dec 13, 2017 4:25 pm

retrofuturist wrote:
Wed Dec 13, 2017 12:04 am
Greetings,

I really like this topic. My personal objective remains to give members this space, free of coersion, and not telling people what they ought to do with it. Therefore, it's refreshing to see people wanting to take some personal ownership of what they want this forum to be, and leading themselves in that direction, instead of expecting to be lead by someone else.

:thumbsup:

To support that, staff will maintain the parameters for the environment (e.g. ToS definition and adherence) but it is members who will ultimately decide what they want to do within that environment. If there's anything I or David can do, by tweaking those parameters to help you achieve what you want to achieve, please let me know and we can start the discussion.

Metta,
Paul. :)
Excellent. I hope we all can be much more mindful of the following TOS provision:
Members are expected to self-moderate, being mindful of the adage that 'behaviour breeds behaviour'. Mutual respect and friendliness should be the basis of all interactions.
How about we all agree on the intention of posting with "mutual respect" and in "friendliness." This would go a long way toward creating a more Buddhist forum.
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Re: Let's make this forum more Buddhist!

Post by binocular » Wed Dec 13, 2017 5:12 pm

SDC wrote:
Tue Dec 12, 2017 10:26 pm
One thing that I used to really enjoy about this forum was that we seemed to have ordinary members here who wielded as much or more influence than the staff, almost solely based on their knowledge of Dhamma. Sadly that is no longer what carries any weight around here - at all. The most impressive attribute now seems to be one's willingness to aggressively take up an issue regardless of its relation to the Dhamma. And this trend started long before the "News" section arrived. I think people realized they weren't getting noticed based on Dhamma knowledge, in Dhammic topics, and were longing for more easily accessible accolades. Hunt down some of the older lounge threads and you'll see precisely what I mean. Members from all over the political spectrum were responsible for making that worldly direction and attitude a significant part of what we discuss here and how we discuss it.
I think the proverbial testosterone could be playing a major part in this. Get enough men together for long enough, and they'll find something to fight about. (And thus set the tone of the establishment for everyone else who happens to come by.)

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Re: Let's make this forum more Buddhist!

Post by aflatun » Wed Dec 13, 2017 5:49 pm

binocular wrote:
Wed Dec 13, 2017 5:12 pm
SDC wrote:
Tue Dec 12, 2017 10:26 pm
One thing that I used to really enjoy about this forum was that we seemed to have ordinary members here who wielded as much or more influence than the staff, almost solely based on their knowledge of Dhamma. Sadly that is no longer what carries any weight around here - at all. The most impressive attribute now seems to be one's willingness to aggressively take up an issue regardless of its relation to the Dhamma. And this trend started long before the "News" section arrived. I think people realized they weren't getting noticed based on Dhamma knowledge, in Dhammic topics, and were longing for more easily accessible accolades. Hunt down some of the older lounge threads and you'll see precisely what I mean. Members from all over the political spectrum were responsible for making that worldly direction and attitude a significant part of what we discuss here and how we discuss it.
I think the proverbial testosterone could be playing a major part in this. Get enough men together for long enough, and they'll find something to fight about. (And thus set the tone of the establishment for everyone else who happens to come by.)
When did you become so sexist? I'm feeling very oppressed right now, I don't know how I'm going to make it through the day :tongue:
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Senses and the Thought-1, 42:53

"Those who create constructs about the Buddha,
Who is beyond construction and without exhaustion,
Are thereby damaged by their constructs;
They fail to see the Thus-Gone.

That which is the nature of the Thus-Gone
Is also the nature of this world.
There is no nature of the Thus-Gone.
There is no nature of the world."

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Re: Let's make this forum more Buddhist!

Post by Sam Vara » Wed Dec 13, 2017 7:10 pm

binocular wrote:
Wed Dec 13, 2017 5:12 pm

I think the proverbial testosterone could be playing a major part in this.
Surely this is playing the balls rather than the man?

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Re: Let's make this forum more Buddhist!

Post by Justsit » Wed Dec 13, 2017 7:18 pm

When I saw the topic of this thread, I wondered if perhaps there was a suggestion that only "Buddhists who have actually taken refuge in the Triple Gem" should be allowed to post, not just anyone who wants to discuss Buddhism. :smile:

Any idea how many posters here have done so? Has there ever been a poll on Taking Refuge/Precepts?

Just curious, not advocating any litmus test or change on DW.

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Re: Let's make this forum more Buddhist!

Post by Justsit » Wed Dec 13, 2017 7:19 pm

Sam Vara wrote:
Wed Dec 13, 2017 7:10 pm
binocular wrote:
Wed Dec 13, 2017 5:12 pm

I think the proverbial testosterone could be playing a major part in this.
Surely this is playing the balls rather than the man?
:rofl:

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Re: Let's make this forum more Buddhist!

Post by aflatun » Wed Dec 13, 2017 7:36 pm

Sam Vara wrote:
Wed Dec 13, 2017 7:10 pm
binocular wrote:
Wed Dec 13, 2017 5:12 pm

I think the proverbial testosterone could be playing a major part in this.
Surely this is playing the balls rather than the man?

Well done sir ! :tongue:
"People often get too quick to say 'there's no self. There's no self...no self...no self.' There is self, there is focal point, its not yours. That's what not self is."

Ninoslav Ñāṇamoli
Senses and the Thought-1, 42:53

"Those who create constructs about the Buddha,
Who is beyond construction and without exhaustion,
Are thereby damaged by their constructs;
They fail to see the Thus-Gone.

That which is the nature of the Thus-Gone
Is also the nature of this world.
There is no nature of the Thus-Gone.
There is no nature of the world."

Nagarjuna
MMK XXII.15-16

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Re: Let's make this forum more Buddhist!

Post by SDC » Wed Dec 13, 2017 11:52 pm

binocular wrote:
Wed Dec 13, 2017 5:12 pm
SDC wrote:
Tue Dec 12, 2017 10:26 pm
One thing that I used to really enjoy about this forum was that we seemed to have ordinary members here who wielded as much or more influence than the staff, almost solely based on their knowledge of Dhamma. Sadly that is no longer what carries any weight around here - at all. The most impressive attribute now seems to be one's willingness to aggressively take up an issue regardless of its relation to the Dhamma. And this trend started long before the "News" section arrived. I think people realized they weren't getting noticed based on Dhamma knowledge, in Dhammic topics, and were longing for more easily accessible accolades. Hunt down some of the older lounge threads and you'll see precisely what I mean. Members from all over the political spectrum were responsible for making that worldly direction and attitude a significant part of what we discuss here and how we discuss it.
I think the proverbial testosterone could be playing a major part in this. Get enough men together for long enough, and they'll find something to fight about. (And thus set the tone of the establishment for everyone else who happens to come by.)
There is likely a good deal of truth to this. I do not mind friendly competition, but that is not at all what I find on DW these days. In order for debates/discussions to be fundamentally friendly, participants must be united under a rather obvious common goal, whereby even one's failure to competently present their position would still result in a rewarding and fun exchange for all parties involved. What we have on this forum are people with such fundamentally different modes of operation that disunity is just a matter of fact, and that lack of commonality is grounds enough for some to settle for blood when knowledge does not seem viable. Yes, "Dhamma of the Theravada" is the theme of this forum, but we have seen over the years that there are various ways to utilize the Dhamma. Out of respect for this diversity, we seem to have distanced ourselves from reaching a consensus on that issue. People can literally both be talking about the Dhamma but have zero grounds for agreement.

I think it will only get more complicated - if we aren't careful. The tendency to explore and develop ideas can, if not understood, run contrary to discernment of things as they are. Exploration, in many cases, is a creative process, and leaves "new" ground in its wake, i.e. there is a lack of discernment. And a return to that ground only fortifies it further if one is not careful. Ultimately the Dhamma aims to discuss such things in a fundamental manner, but when people prefer the glory of superficiality, i.e. "my ideas", any approach to commonality is sabotaged and people become disinterested in connecting - realizing quickly that connecting is no less than forfeiture of one's position for another. Again, if there were a shared goal, forfeit would be a means rather than an end, but that additional step is rarely taken. It represents failure and concession especially when emotion is running high.

Yadda, yadda...

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Re: Let's make this forum more Buddhist!

Post by retrofuturist » Thu Dec 14, 2017 12:04 am

Greetings SDC,
SDC wrote:
Wed Dec 13, 2017 11:52 pm
What we have on this forum are people with such fundamentally different modes of operation that disunity is just a matter of fact, and that lack of commonality is grounds enough for some to settle for blood when knowledge does not seem viable. Yes, "Dhamma of the Theravada" is the theme of this forum, but we have seen over the years that there are various ways to utilize the Dhamma. Out of respect for this diversity, we seem to have distanced ourselves from reaching a consensus on that issue. People can literally both be talking about the Dhamma but have zero grounds for agreement.
Personally, I don't see this as a problem. If I came to a forum and said, "This is how I see things", and everybody responded by saying, "I agree", "I concur", "Yes, you're right"... it might feel nice - like a group hug or a hot chocolate with a marshmallow on top...

:coffee: :group:

... but would anyone actually learn anything new? Would we be able to test our understandings, and refine them based on feedback, and indeed criticism from others? Would we be able to improve our practice, based upon learnings? Would people share links to suttas and other resources which might challenge or significantly expand our existing perspectives? Do we seek the truth, or do we really just seek personal validation?...

Honestly, there has never been any real consensus here at this forum in terms on Dhamma view... it's just that we had one particular member who took it upon himself to play Dhamma Cop and incessantly hound and badger anyone who said anything contrary to his understandings of what was important, what should be respected and what should be protected. I guess you could call that a "consensus" of sorts, but it's a forced consensus, achieved only by silencing and consciously diminishing the voices of those who disagree. Was that a good thing? Maybe some people with similar priorities to the Dhamma Cop might have been pleased about it at the expense of those with different priorities, but if people are being reasonable, independent and objective, I think we can probably agree that that's not really how a "forum" ought to operate.

TL;DR - Ideas can best be explored in a group environment, when people are not emotionally attached to their views, and when people are refraining from the temptation to coerce others.

Metta,
Paul. :)
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Re: Let's make this forum more Buddhist!

Post by Mkoll » Thu Dec 14, 2017 12:36 am

Sam Vara wrote:
Wed Dec 13, 2017 7:10 pm
binocular wrote:
Wed Dec 13, 2017 5:12 pm

I think the proverbial testosterone could be playing a major part in this.
Surely this is playing the balls rather than the man?
:lol:

Touche!
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Re: Let's make this forum more Buddhist!

Post by retrofuturist » Thu Dec 14, 2017 12:38 am

... well we just had a recent topic on the "person within the ball". I guess it was only a matter of time before we had a topic about the balls within the...

Oh, nevermind.

8-)

Metta,
Paul. :)
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"The uprooting of identity is seen by the noble ones as pleasurable; but this contradicts what the whole world sees." (Snp 3.12)

"One discerns wrong view as wrong view, and right view as right view. This is one's right view." (MN 117)

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Re: Let's make this forum more Buddhist!

Post by SarathW » Thu Dec 14, 2017 12:52 am

but would anyone actually learn anything new? Would we be able to test our understandings, and refine them based on feedback, and indeed criticism from others? Would we be able to improve our practice, based upon learnings? Would people share links to suttas and other resources which might challenge or significantly expand our existing perspectives? Do we seek the truth, or do we really just seek personal validation?...
Agree.
This remind me the saying "If everybody agrees, some one is not thinking"
“As the lamp consumes oil, the path realises Nibbana”

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Re: Let's make this forum more Buddhist!

Post by SDC » Thu Dec 14, 2017 12:56 am

retrofuturist wrote:
Thu Dec 14, 2017 12:04 am
Greetings SDC,
SDC wrote:
Wed Dec 13, 2017 11:52 pm
What we have on this forum are people with such fundamentally different modes of operation that disunity is just a matter of fact, and that lack of commonality is grounds enough for some to settle for blood when knowledge does not seem viable. Yes, "Dhamma of the Theravada" is the theme of this forum, but we have seen over the years that there are various ways to utilize the Dhamma. Out of respect for this diversity, we seem to have distanced ourselves from reaching a consensus on that issue. People can literally both be talking about the Dhamma but have zero grounds for agreement.
Personally, I don't see this as a problem. If I came to a forum and said, "This is how I see things", and everybody responded by saying, "I agree", "I concur", "Yes, you're right"... it might feel nice - like a group hug or a hot chocolate with a marshmallow on top...

:coffee: :group:
In terms of particular ideas and or methods, I do not think you'll ever find such "harmonious" agreement, and that is not at all what I was referring to. It was more along the lines of purpose and general agreement of what we are here to accomplish - even if the answer is an understanding of Dhamma in our own terms. That could be agreed upon, but there is always someone who thinks they know better. It is a shame to because even after a heated debate people would have the option to consider the other view rather than having fortified their own. Though you rarely ever see such contentiousness end that way around here.

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Re: Let's make this forum more Buddhist!

Post by Caodemarte » Thu Dec 14, 2017 1:00 am

Just to return to the theme for a second and drop the balls: if the forum could just return to exploring the Dhamma that would be good. Is it possible to eliminate these weird fact-free attacks on other religions (mostly Christianity and Islam) with no claims of even tenuous relevance to Buddhism? Using the forum as a platform for irrelevant provocations degrades the forum and makes it unattractive for serious discussion. If a post or thread has no connection to a discussion of the Dhamma why not eliminate it? There is plenty of room elsewhere.

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Re: Let's make this forum more Buddhist!

Post by Will » Thu Dec 14, 2017 2:03 am

First choice would be for David to evaporate the News-Events-Politics forum. There are vast numbers of online & other media for that.

But I fear he will not - so the other option is for all of us to not post there at all.
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