can i become a bhikkhuni if i'm bisexual?

Discussion of ordination, the Vinaya and monastic life. How and where to ordain? Bhikkhuni ordination etc.
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Re: can i become a bhikkhuni if i'm bisexual?

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And you believed them????
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lyndon taylor wrote:And you believed them????

The women I am referring to I have known for 12 years. I know them pretty well, so yeah I believe them.


Also it's a bit offensive so say everyone is bisexual when people say they aren't. It's a bit like telling a gay man he's really straight or bi.


To turn it around, I'm completely homosexual so not every man is bisexual ...
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Sexuality is a sliding scale not a handful of fixed categories, so even women or men who are heterosexual may have a slight attraction to the occasional member of the same sex. But it's going a bit far to say "all women are bisexual more or less" - bisexual implies (to me anyway) an actual interest in acting on it/reasonably frequent attraction to both sexes, even if one is favoured.
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Greetings Lotus Flower,

Your question is very interesting.

I too wish to be ordained and I used to want to be transgender.
I have a Gender Identity Disorder but most monasteries can't accept transexuals as it'll be difficult to keep up with the medication schedule.

So yeah, I can relate to you but please be aware, ordaining is a serious thing, you must be willing to give up all those fancy items at home and help the community by committment & discipline.

Sexuality is okay, attraction or compassion is okay but romantic relationships are forbidden. Not to stop your happiness, it just shows your dedication.

I'm female but wished to be male, I have a strong attachment to love and emotion but I'm giving it up but I'm not a nun yet, I still have a lot yet to learn and so far, I'm slowly doing well. I let go of my feelings for a woman, that is very difficult yet a tiny small step forward to de-attachment and proud of myself.

Just remember, Buddhism isn't an accessory nor a fashion statement.
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Post by melancholy »

i am a male and straight. if i start living in a nunnery among nuns especially as a monk how it would be? same theory can be said about lesbian nuns. once ajahn brahm advised to a gay who wished to ordain not to do so if he seriously can’t commit to restrain him self because he will be living with the objects of his attraction. i know many gay monks who soiled not only themselves but also others. but i also know one monk who was gay but managed to overcome his lust after years of struggle. now he is a very good meditator. so are you the rare one or the common many? if you are the rare one dhamma will surely benefit you. :)
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