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Can you clarify what you know of the "4 states to nibbana" as I've not come across this expression before?
The first thing that comes to mind is the four levels of noble ariyan Sangha (stream-entrant, once-returner, non-returner, arahant) but wonder whether you're asking about the 4 Noble Truths, the 4 Divine Abidings or some else altogether.
"Do not force others, including children, by any means whatsoever, to adopt your views, whether by authority, threat, money, propaganda, or even education." - Ven. Thich Nhat Hanh
"The uprooting of identity is seen by the noble ones as pleasurable; but this contradicts what the whole world sees." (Snp 3.12)
"You've got to focus on what's really worthwhile in life, which means resisting a lot of the currents in our culture" (Thanissaro)