Remembering my brother

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Remembering my brother

Post by Ben » Mon Oct 15, 2012 9:20 am

My older brother, Justin, passed away on this day ten years ago on his 45th birthday.
He left behind his wife and three young girls.
To you and your girls, I dedicate my merits.
:candle:
“No lists of things to be done. The day providential to itself. The hour. There is no later. This is later. All things of grace and beauty such that one holds them to one's heart have a common provenance in pain. Their birth in grief and ashes.”
- Cormac McCarthy, The Road

Learn this from the waters:
in mountain clefts and chasms,
loud gush the streamlets,
but great rivers flow silently.
- Sutta Nipata 3.725

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Re: Remembering my brother

Post by Khalil Bodhi » Mon Oct 15, 2012 9:28 am

:candle:
To avoid all evil, to cultivate good, and to cleanse one's mind — this is the teaching of the Buddhas.
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Re: Remembering my brother

Post by tiltbillings » Mon Oct 15, 2012 9:29 am

Sadness. Ten years is a long time; I hope the sadness has been tempered over these years with fondness and good mermories.
>> Do you see a man wise [enlightened/ariya] in his own eyes? There is more hope for a fool than for him.<< -- Proverbs 26:12

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Re: Remembering my brother

Post by cooran » Mon Oct 15, 2012 9:35 am

May he have fortunate rebirths and always have contact with the Dhamma. :candle:
---The trouble is that you think you have time---
---Worry is the Interest, paid in advance, on a debt you may never owe---
---It's not what happens to you in life that is important ~ it's what you do with it ---

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Re: Remembering my brother

Post by plwk » Mon Oct 15, 2012 9:40 am

:candle:

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Re: Remembering my brother

Post by bodom » Mon Oct 15, 2012 10:28 am

:candle: :heart:

:anjali:
To study is to know the texts,
To practice is to know your defilements,
To attain the goal is to know and let go.

- Ajahn Lee Dhammadharo


With mindfulness immersed in the body
well established, restrained
with regard to the six media of contact,
always centered, the monk
can know Unbinding for himself.

- Ud 3.5


"Dont send the mind outside. Watch the mind right at the mind."

- Ajahn Dune Atulo

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Re: Remembering my brother

Post by Ben » Mon Oct 15, 2012 10:58 am

tiltbillings wrote:Sadness. Ten years is a long time; I hope the sadness has been tempered over these years with fondness and good mermories.
Indeed it has. Metta Bhavana and the sharing of one's merits everyday has helped to transform the grief.
Thanks everyone.
with metta,

Ben
“No lists of things to be done. The day providential to itself. The hour. There is no later. This is later. All things of grace and beauty such that one holds them to one's heart have a common provenance in pain. Their birth in grief and ashes.”
- Cormac McCarthy, The Road

Learn this from the waters:
in mountain clefts and chasms,
loud gush the streamlets,
but great rivers flow silently.
- Sutta Nipata 3.725

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Re: Remembering my brother

Post by Kim OHara » Mon Oct 15, 2012 11:45 am

:candle:

:namaste:

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Re: Remembering my brother

Post by yawares » Mon Oct 15, 2012 5:29 pm

Ben wrote:My older brother, Justin, passed away on this day ten years ago on his 45th birthday.
He left behind his wife and three young girls.
To you and your girls, I dedicate my merits.
:candle:
Dear Ben,
I wish your older brother, Justin, be reborn into the Tavatimsa Deva World...so close to Sakka 'the king of devas/devis. :heart: :anjali:
And I think he'll always watch over his wife/children:

I'll be there : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oRiHOtjGQ08" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;

:candle: :heart: :candle:
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Re: Remembering my brother

Post by mikenz66 » Mon Oct 15, 2012 6:24 pm

:candle:

:anjali:
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Re: Remembering my brother

Post by DNS » Mon Oct 15, 2012 8:32 pm

yawares wrote: I wish your older brother, Justin, be reborn into the Tavatimsa Deva World...so close to Sakka 'the king of devas/devis. :heart: :anjali:
:thumbsup: Or at Tusita heaven to hear Metteyya teach the Dhamma.

:candle:

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Re: Remembering my brother

Post by retrofuturist » Mon Oct 15, 2012 9:47 pm

:candle:
"Do not force others, including children, by any means whatsoever, to adopt your views, whether by authority, threat, money, propaganda, or even education." - Ven. Thich Nhat Hanh

"The uprooting of identity is seen by the noble ones as pleasurable; but this contradicts what the whole world sees." (Snp 3.12)

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Re: Remembering my brother

Post by Cittasanto » Mon Oct 15, 2012 9:50 pm

:candle:
Blog, Suttas, Aj Chah, Facebook.

He who knows only his own side of the case knows little of that. His reasons may be good, and no one may have been able to refute them.
But if he is equally unable to refute the reasons on the opposite side, if he does not so much as know what they are, he has no ground for preferring either opinion …
...
He must be able to hear them from persons who actually believe them … he must know them in their most plausible and persuasive form.
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Re: Remembering my brother

Post by sattva » Mon Oct 15, 2012 10:35 pm

sending metta

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Re: Remembering my brother

Post by badscooter » Tue Oct 16, 2012 1:19 am

:candle:

With metta
"whatever one frequently thinks and ponders upon will be the inclination of one's mind"

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Re: Remembering my brother

Post by Ben » Tue Oct 16, 2012 1:27 am

Thanks everyone.
I thought you might be interested to read his obituary.
It has been good to read it again all these years later.
kind regards,

Ben

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“No lists of things to be done. The day providential to itself. The hour. There is no later. This is later. All things of grace and beauty such that one holds them to one's heart have a common provenance in pain. Their birth in grief and ashes.”
- Cormac McCarthy, The Road

Learn this from the waters:
in mountain clefts and chasms,
loud gush the streamlets,
but great rivers flow silently.
- Sutta Nipata 3.725

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Re: Remembering my brother

Post by Dan74 » Tue Oct 16, 2012 1:45 am

What a loss it must've been to all who knew him, especially family and friends...

May you all be well.
_/|\_

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Re: Remembering my brother

Post by SamKR » Tue Oct 16, 2012 2:38 am

:candle:

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Re: Remembering my brother

Post by Reductor » Tue Oct 16, 2012 5:37 am

:candle:

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Re: Remembering my brother

Post by yawares » Sat Oct 20, 2012 6:04 pm

David N. Snyder wrote:
yawares wrote: I wish your older brother, Justin, be reborn into the Tavatimsa Deva World...so close to Sakka 'the king of devas/devis. :heart: :anjali:
:thumbsup: Or at Tusita heaven to hear Metteyya teach the Dhamma.

:candle:
Dear David,
Oh..I pray that Justin may be reborn there too :anjali: ...but I THINK a deva @ Tavatimsa can fly to listen to Metteyya's dhamma in Tusita too???

I :heart: to be @ Tusita heaven MYSELF...But afraid I'll never be a qualified candidate :cry:
yawares :cry:

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