Now my question is, does anybody has some infomation about the karmic causes that one is in such a situation? Is it simply because one is him self not wise and constantly seeks such things as they can be very teaching?Not To Associate With The Unwise Is Most Blissful.
Fools or ignorant people not only injure themselves, but also those around them. If we associate with them, we are apt to follow their ways and so harm ourselves mentally as well as bodily, because all troubles or fear arise from ignorance or foolishness. Even if we do not practise their methods, the more fact of associating with them will harm our reputation; in the same way that a banana leaf is contaminated if it is used to wrap up a piece of rotten fish or meat. The leaf is dirty and smelly even after the fish or rotten meat is thrown away.
Here is a story to illustrate this:
Once, when the Bodhisat was born as a man called Akitti Pandita, the King of Devas promised to grant him any boon he asked. Akitti Pandita begged that he might never meet, see or talk with fools. The King of Devas was surprised and asked him the reason for this strange request. Replying, he explained that fools or the unwise ones i.e. people who do not understand discipline, always lead their friends to bad ways and teach them to do wrong, because they do not know the right way them selves. If discipline or good ways are spoken in their presence, they become angry, for they cannot understand, they lose their temper and quarrels arise. If discipline or good ways are spoken in their presence, they become angry, for they do not understand them. Therefore he prayed that he might never speak, meet or come in contact with fools.
Does anybody has any idea of how to change such an situation? Is it just a matter of own understanding or is a "physical" change needed as well? A monk one replayed on a hint "That is mara" with the words: "We do not let go of seeking Mara?"
What are your ideas also in regard or kanti (patient)?