puppha wrote:For example, she would like me to experience stronger emotions (of joy or sadness), enjoy wordly pleasures,
Something I have learnt in my journey which is constantly evolving, as the path does. There was a time when I too thought that I was not
supposed to "enjoy wordly pleasures", so I renunciated a lot of pleasurable activities as I thought that this was wrong. I have since revised my view, which I think is summed up best by Ajahn Sumedho as the following quote illustrates:
"Desire can be compared to fire. If we grasp fire, what happens? Does it lead to happiness? If we say: ‘Oh, look at that beautiful fire! Look at the beautiful colours! I love red and orange; they’re my favourite colours,’ and then grasp it, we would find a certain amount of suffering entering the body. And then if we were to contemplate the cause of that suffering we would discover it was the result of having grasped that fire. On that information, we would, hopefully, then let the fire go. Once we let fire go, then we know that it is something not to be attached to. This does not mean we have to hate it, or put it out. We can enjoy fire, can’t we? It is nice having a fire, it keeps the room warm, but we do not have to burn ourselves in it.
When we really contemplate suffering, we no longer incline towards grasping hold of desire, because it hurts, is painful, there is no point in doing it. So, from that time on, we understand, ‘Oh! That’s why I’m suffering; that’s its origin. Ah! now I understand. It’s that grasping hold of desire that causes me all this misery and suffering, all this fear, worry, expectation, despair, hatred, greed, delusion. All the problems of life come from grasping and clinging to the fire of desire."
So from this, it is clear to me, that we shouldnt stop doing things that we enjoy, but we shouldnt rely on these pleasurable things to provide our enduring happiness. Just enjoy them while they last and then let them go when they are over.
This has helped me.