when i said "that was fun!" i was being sarcastic. i understand that "fun" is not what the retreat is all about, i get that, but i have never in my life been around so many unhappy people. the 20 or so fellas i was there with all looked like zombies. a person can get "serious work" done and still have a smile on his face, can he not?
i'm not exaggerating when i say everyone there had the same look on thier faces - like the faces of men you see in photos from world war 2 peaking out through the barbed wire of a p.o.w. camp. tired, helpless & defeated.
as far as the "mind controll" aspect of the retreat- i will just say i disagree with you. the whole place is run in such a way as to break you down physically & mentally. that is an opinion shared by many. do an internet search on "goenka retreat - mind control" and you will find a wealth of articles on the subject.
this well written critique for example:
http://harmanjit.blogspot.com/2007/07/c ... -mr-s.html" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;
regradless, the good news is the retreat has not turned me off my path. and in the 5 days i was there, i did learn alot. the meditation sessions were productive and i enjoyed much of the taped discourses. too bad the "teacher" (or as i would call him "the guy who operates the dvd player") did not do any teaching. i thought there would be more instruction. i signed up to meet with him 3 times and all 3 times he gave me the impression that i was wasteing his valuable time.
to make a long story short, the place had a very "cult-ish" vibe that i found quite disturbing. i will continue my studies and my practice, just not with mr. goenka as my guide.
so, like the buddha said... "see for yourself".
i did.
metta,
delf
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You left after 5 days of a 10 day course, and you are blaming everyone but yourself, even though you claim you got some good out of the course. The problem may not be what you are saying but with what you are not saying. It happens. At least you want to entertain that possibility.delf7 wrote:. . .
>> Do you see a man wise [enlightened/ariya] in his own eyes? There is more hope for a fool than for him.<< -- Proverbs 26:12
This being is bound to samsara, kamma is his means for going beyond. -- SN I, 38.
“Of course it is happening inside your head, Harry, but why on earth should that mean that it is not real?” HPatDH p.723
This being is bound to samsara, kamma is his means for going beyond. -- SN I, 38.
“Of course it is happening inside your head, Harry, but why on earth should that mean that it is not real?” HPatDH p.723
Re: 10-day goenka retreat
Hi delf7,
Sorry to hear you had a bad experience. I've only been on one Goenka retreat, and that was five years ago. It was tough and did bring up various aversions. I'm a little surprised that the servers and assistant teacher we so unhelpful in your case. The Goenka retreats do have a rigid feel owing to, I think, the rather centralized organisation. But a strict retreat of any school is no picnic and will probably also seem like boot camp. Frankly, on a retreat I'd rather have too much rigidity than slackness (talking, people wandering in and out, and, in particular, people wanting to ask me questions...).
But for an inexperienced retreatant I think that it is important to have a teacher who can maintain and/or restore confidence. I had a couple of unnerving meditation experiences on my retreat and the teacher was very helpful in that case.
I'm pleased to hear that you are not put off the whole idea, and I hope you can find a retreat style that suits you.
Mike
Sorry to hear you had a bad experience. I've only been on one Goenka retreat, and that was five years ago. It was tough and did bring up various aversions. I'm a little surprised that the servers and assistant teacher we so unhelpful in your case. The Goenka retreats do have a rigid feel owing to, I think, the rather centralized organisation. But a strict retreat of any school is no picnic and will probably also seem like boot camp. Frankly, on a retreat I'd rather have too much rigidity than slackness (talking, people wandering in and out, and, in particular, people wanting to ask me questions...).
But for an inexperienced retreatant I think that it is important to have a teacher who can maintain and/or restore confidence. I had a couple of unnerving meditation experiences on my retreat and the teacher was very helpful in that case.
I'm pleased to hear that you are not put off the whole idea, and I hope you can find a retreat style that suits you.
Mike
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i'm not "blaming" anyone for anything. there is nothing to put any blame on. i have no hard feelings toward the retreat, those who run it or those who support it. nor do i regret attending. i also do not regret leaving when i did. sometimes you gotta go with your gut, and my gut told me "something ain't right with this place" so i bolted. or maybe, as i think tilt is suggesting, "i wasn't right for that place."tiltbillings wrote:You left after 5 days of a 10 day course, and you are blaming everyone but yourself, even though you claim you got some good out of the course. The problem may not be what you are saying but with what you are not saying. It happens. At least you want to entertain that possibility.delf7 wrote:. . .
my only regret is that it did not work out for me.
my intent is not to spark a debate on pros & cons of the whole "goenka experience", or to dissuade anyone from attending a goenka retreat. i am only relaying my experience so others who are thinking of attending may think twice, do some research to make sure they know what they are getting in to and be better educated about goenka's methods that i was.
i remain suspicious of the manner in which these retreats are run, but... to each his own.
i am confident that my path will eventually become clear.
Re: 10-day goenka retreat
delf7 wrote: i am confident that my path will eventually become clear.
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Smiling doesn't begin until day 6. It's all smiles scheduled for days 8 and 9.delf7 wrote: i have never in my life been around so many unhappy people. the 20 or so fellas i was there with all looked like zombies. a person can get "serious work" done and still have a smile on his face, can he not?
"As I am, so are others;
as others are, so am I."
Having thus identified self and others,
harm no one nor have them harmed.
Sutta Nipāta 3.710
as others are, so am I."
Having thus identified self and others,
harm no one nor have them harmed.
Sutta Nipāta 3.710
Re: 10-day goenka retreat
Greetings Delf7,
I'm sorry you had a less than optimal course experience. As Mike said, these retreats can bring all sorts of extremely difficult dhammas to the fore. And I know from personal experience just how deeply confronting and difficult it can be. I have been practicing in this tradition (exclusively) since 1985 and on my last long-course earlier this year I had to leave. After many years of practice and many ten-day and longer courses, it is the first time that I felt compelled to leave during a course.
So, I know what its like. If one isn't in the right frame of mind (for whatever reason) or something difficult comes up - its just too intense at that point in time.
If you feel its something you never want to return to or try again - then I am sorry. At least, as you said, it did not turn you off the path.
with Metta,
Ben
I'm sorry you had a less than optimal course experience. As Mike said, these retreats can bring all sorts of extremely difficult dhammas to the fore. And I know from personal experience just how deeply confronting and difficult it can be. I have been practicing in this tradition (exclusively) since 1985 and on my last long-course earlier this year I had to leave. After many years of practice and many ten-day and longer courses, it is the first time that I felt compelled to leave during a course.
So, I know what its like. If one isn't in the right frame of mind (for whatever reason) or something difficult comes up - its just too intense at that point in time.
If you feel its something you never want to return to or try again - then I am sorry. At least, as you said, it did not turn you off the path.
with Metta,
Ben
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Learn this from the waters:
in mountain clefts and chasms,
loud gush the streamlets,
but great rivers flow silently.
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I'm sorry that you had a bad experience, certainly my experience was very different and my first 10 day course was one of the best things I've done.delf7 wrote:well, that was fun! so fun i left after 5 days...
All the world is on fire, All the world is burning, All the world is ablaze, All the world is quaking. That which does not quake or blaze, That to which worldlings do not resort, Where there is no place for Mara:That is where my mind delights. (SN 5.7)
By degrees, little by little,
from moment to moment,
the wise purify themselves,
as a smith purifies silver.
—Dhammapada 239
By degrees, little by little,
from moment to moment,
the wise purify themselves,
as a smith purifies silver.
—Dhammapada 239
Re: 10-day goenka retreat
Hi Delf7,
It is a courageous decision to do what you feel is right despite group pressure and condescension from authority. People may say that the problems that arose are part of the path, this is an issue for you alone to determine. I personally think that retreats and indeed the path should be a joyful journey. You might be interested in visiting Bhante Vimalaramsi's site for a different take on what constitutes a Buddhist retreat.
http://www.dhammasukha.org/
Metta
It is a courageous decision to do what you feel is right despite group pressure and condescension from authority. People may say that the problems that arose are part of the path, this is an issue for you alone to determine. I personally think that retreats and indeed the path should be a joyful journey. You might be interested in visiting Bhante Vimalaramsi's site for a different take on what constitutes a Buddhist retreat.
http://www.dhammasukha.org/
Metta
Ignorance is an intentional act.
Re: 10-day goenka retreat
Hello delf7,the good news is the retreat has not turned me off my path [...] i will continue my studies and my practice, just not with mr. goenka as my guide.
I like Goenkaji's method, and I was impressed in my first course (though I disliked it for the first few days of the course because of the rigor it demands and because it was quite different from my expectations) which I took 12 years ago. But I think I can understand what you're feeling about the course. I believe that this method/tradition may not be perfect for everyone. I would even say that any single method or tradition within Theravada may not be suitable for everyone. There are so many methods and traditions and many good teachers within Theravada, and most probably one of them might be suitable for you. And it's very good to know that you are not turned off your path and you will continue your practice.
Certainly there are. For many people it's working great.i won't go into any goenka-bashing, as i know there are many here who are fans of his "method"
So your experience of a popular meditation course was just like that of a prison? In that case, I guess there's a huge gap between your expectations and the actual method and objectives of the course.if i had wanted to spend 10 days in prison i would have commited some petty crime,
I don't think so...Not a bit.and i've studied enough psychcology to know when i'm trying to be hypnotized. it's classic mind controll; [...] the place had a very "cult-ish" vibe...
I have gone through this website in the past. And that is not an unbiased and fair critique because of many reasons.do an internet search on "goenka retreat - mind control" and you will find a wealth of articles on the subject.
this well written critique for example:
http://harmanjit.blogspot.com/2007/07/c ... -mr-s.html" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;
It's not because they lost a "customer". It's because they think that you didn't complete the full course to give it a fair trial, and you didn't get the benefits you are supposed to get.they don't like it if you decide to leave.
You are totally right in saying that you need to do some research and understand what it is about before joining the course. It's really a hard and serious work (for good), not a retreat in a resort. But to tag them as "boot camps", which they are not, is unfair and just exaggeration.all i can say is, to anyone thinking of going to one of these "boot camps", i hope you have done more research than i did, because once i got out, i found ALOT of stuff about these prisons that i wish i would have read before going in.
Most probably you would have seen smiles in the faces had you stayed for full 10 days. I know many people look unhappy in the beginning of the course but they start smiling towards the end of the course. It's not because they are now free from the "prison" but mostly because of the effect of the meditation (including Metta meditation), and a sense of satisfaction that they have got a new perspective and a method to getting rid of Dukkha.i understand that "fun" is not what the retreat is all about, i get that, but i have never in my life been around so many unhappy people. the 20 or so fellas i was there with all looked like zombies. a person can get "serious work" done and still have a smile on his face, can he not?
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Hi Delf7,
I think one of the problems stems from the fact that any defence of Goenka tends to come from his disciples and not the man himself or his organisation. Mr Goenka's organisation is a closed book that refuses to engage with other traditions or directly engage with accusations made against them or defend their own highly original interpretations of the suttas and the teachings. The reasoning I have seen for this attitude is that 'we have got it right, why should we engage in dispute with others'. If the Buddha had this attitude then his Dhamma might not have lasted beyond a century. This attitude is also found in organisations that are more overtly 'cultist'.
BTW As for smiling, well again you make your own mind up. Joy is an enlightenment factor, if you found that this was a factor that was not cultivated on your retreat then the question to be asked is why? The smiles one sees on day 11 are indeed the smiles of relief as of a prisoner released (IMO).
Metta
I think one of the problems stems from the fact that any defence of Goenka tends to come from his disciples and not the man himself or his organisation. Mr Goenka's organisation is a closed book that refuses to engage with other traditions or directly engage with accusations made against them or defend their own highly original interpretations of the suttas and the teachings. The reasoning I have seen for this attitude is that 'we have got it right, why should we engage in dispute with others'. If the Buddha had this attitude then his Dhamma might not have lasted beyond a century. This attitude is also found in organisations that are more overtly 'cultist'.
BTW As for smiling, well again you make your own mind up. Joy is an enlightenment factor, if you found that this was a factor that was not cultivated on your retreat then the question to be asked is why? The smiles one sees on day 11 are indeed the smiles of relief as of a prisoner released (IMO).
Metta
Ignorance is an intentional act.
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Re: 10-day goenka retreat
Greetings,
Metta,
Retro.
Yes, I'm sure the remaining defilements breathe a huge sigh of relief once it's over.Brizzy wrote:The smiles one sees on day 11 are indeed the smiles of relief as of a prisoner released (IMO).
Metta,
Retro.
"Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things."
Re: 10-day goenka retreat
Think of it more that the mind & body having been crushed for 10 days via asceticism is freed. A prisoner when released may have been rehabilitated or may not, either way the joy of release is very real.retrofuturist wrote:Greetings,
Yes, I'm sure the remaining defilements breathe a huge sigh of relief once it's over.Brizzy wrote:The smiles one sees on day 11 are indeed the smiles of relief as of a prisoner released (IMO).
Metta,
Retro.
Metta
Ignorance is an intentional act.
Re: 10-day goenka retreat
Hello Brizzy,
And, I think this is true for any long course.
Probably the number of "prisoners" depends upon locality or country, and their cultural background or other factors.
Isn't it true for almost all disciples and organisations? And I don't think it's a problem.Brizzy wrote: I think one of the problems stems from the fact that any defence of Goenka tends to come from his disciples and not the man himself or his organisation.
Well, yes some smiles could be because of relief of a "prisoner" released (if the method is not suitable for them). But certainly not all; many are because of meditation method itself.The smiles one sees on day 11 are indeed the smiles of relief as of a prisoner released (IMO).
And, I think this is true for any long course.
Probably the number of "prisoners" depends upon locality or country, and their cultural background or other factors.
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Hi SamKR,SamKR wrote:Hello Brizzy,Isn't it true for almost all disciples and organisations? And I don't think it's a problem.Brizzy wrote: I think one of the problems stems from the fact that any defence of Goenka tends to come from his disciples and not the man himself or his organisation.
Well, yes some smiles could be because of relief of a "prisoner" released (if the method is not suitable for them). But certainly not all; many are because of meditation method itself.The smiles one sees on day 11 are indeed the smiles of relief as of a prisoner released (IMO).
And, I think this is true for any long course.
Probably the number of "prisoners" depend upon locality or country, and their cultural background or other factors.
What is your view on this view?............
Metta................ Mr Goenka's organisation is a closed book that refuses to engage with other traditions or directly engage with accusations made against them or defend their own highly original interpretations of the suttas and the teachings. The reasoning I have seen for this attitude is that 'we have got it right, why should we engage in dispute with others'. If the Buddha had this attitude then his Dhamma might not have lasted beyond a century...............
Ignorance is an intentional act.