Why you don't make use of your lust to burn your lust?rb3 wrote:Hi there,
I'm a Buddhist who have been out of practice for a couple of years. I'm currently single, 25, and facing huge difficulties in controlling my lust. I used to visit erotic massage parlors to get a quick relief of which I've felt tremendous guilt after the act of done. I've made a vow to the Lord Buddha that I'll never visit these unwholesome outlets again and I've managed to stay true to my vows for 5 months. However, my urges are acting up on me again and the temptation to visit these places are overwhelming. I really need help on this. Is there a more skillful way to overcome these urges? I've tried practicing meditation and I hope it would really help.
Would really appreciate advice from serious practicing Buddhists.
PS: Please don't advice me to get a Girlfriend. I don't want to rush in a relationship, and prefer to wait for the right person to enter into my life. Nor do I feel its moral to get into a relationship in order to satisfy my lustful needs.
Thank you so much.
Human beings are born in desire realm. They are full of desire 24/7. If you can make use of it, you can imagine the impact of this transformation.
SOme people see anger as a hindrance and try to eliminate it. THey look at it as a source of suffering and slowly get rid of anger.
However, some people see anger not as a hindrance, but as a diamond. They make use of this anger and transform that anger into the mindfulness and finally see their illusory nature.
Similarly, we can also use our lust as a diamond to finally burn the lust and see their illusory.