Cilla wrote:I think you are a) depressed and thus in need of medication.
daverupa wrote:I'll stress this just once more: CBT =/= DBT. It might be worth investigating. The DBT module on Distress Tolerance, for example, was invaluable, and a continuing anapanasati practice can only strengthen wholesome results.
Ben wrote:Cilla wrote:I think you are a) depressed and thus in need of medication.
Very far off the mark in my humble opinion.
TMingyur wrote:Focus on metta and compassion practice ... gather whatever material you can to train in metta and compassion.
there is no management of anger other than to get rid of it. Are you able to focus anger exclusively on itself?
Anger is the worst of all afflictive emotions, the worst enemy that destroys all merit at the root and leads to great harm and suffering.
chownah wrote:maybe metta meditation or just plain breath concentration.
This mental-physical phenomenon is like a coin with two sides. On one side are the thoughts and emotions arising in the mind, on the other side are the respiration and sensations in the body. Any thoughts or emotions, any mental impurities that arise manifest themselves in the breath and the sensations of that moment. Thus, by observing the respiration or the sensations, we are in fact observing mental impurities. Instead of running away from the problem, we are facing reality as it is. As a result, we discover that these impurities lose their strength; they no longer overpower us as they did in the past. If we persist, they eventually disappear altogether and we begin to live a peaceful and happy life, a life increasingly free of negativities.
wizi wrote:Why did the Zen meditation practice not work out?
Frustration over lack of progress, reading too much about the practice, deciding to try a more physical (yoga/exercise-based) practice -- in other words, I continuously vacillated between techniques, each time becoming bored/frustrated with the new approach. I won't let that happen again. I'm currently committed to a daily morning/evening practice of Anapanasati until I can make it to a 10-day retreat in the summer. My yoga will be in the service of helping me sit well -- an important goal given my back issues (mild scoliosis).There's also a really good book which I can recommend to you that gives a pretty good step-by-step guideline for raising responsible, productive and happy kids. The chapter on anger and tantrum is very revealing on how we as parents need to understand in order to help our kids grow with full self-esteem.
It's titled Your Child's Self-Esteem by Dorothy Briggs.
MAV wrote:I also hope to incorporate metta into my practice -- attempts over the weekend were laughable -- and I'm still reviewing materials related to some of your posts.
All in all, I am quite pleased with the results of my original post. Thanks again to everyone. I have a lot of work to do.
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