Yes, I have the same "problem".christopher wrote: I'm probably one who has been quite guilty of meta-discussion. Just as some folks have difficulty understanding why it's not helpful to belittle fellow members i don't quite understand yet how meta-discussion is a major problem.
I was brought up to NOT look away when someone else is being unfairly attacked, but to do my best to deescalate the situation, especially when no staff is around to take care of it.
It's about protecting the weaker. And anybody who is being attacked is in a vulnerable position.
So naturally I can hardly keep my fingers still when I see it happening.
Of course it requires some skills that I am still in the process of optimising.
Ben taught me a new word: "Peer moderation"!
Now, why should that necessarily be a bad thing?
Isn't that what is happening in off line discussions all the time?
Somebody gets a blow. A friend tries to ward it off.
That's what friends do, don't they?
And Buddhists should be friend to anyone.
So if I see that XY is mocked or belittled, am I to keep my mouth shut then, or what am I to do?
My friends, I would feel like a bloody coward if I left it to someone else. Who may not even be around.
Delegating responsibility is such a dangerous thing....and I am honestly not used to it.
Delegating can become a habit, and eventually you will watch a lady getting robbed on the street, or worse! and everybody else looks away and waits for "staff" to deal with it.
It starts in the little things, and grows to big things.
So, in a way, my own conscience will always overrule board rules.
That's why I am a difficult member at times, my apologies.