Dealing with break ups

Balancing family life and the Dhamma, in pursuit of a happy lay life.
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egon
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Re: Dealing with break ups

Post by egon » Fri Jun 08, 2018 6:06 pm

Laurens wrote:
Wed Jun 06, 2018 11:19 am
Whatever pain you feel will pass. You don't have to listen to the voice that is telling you to be angry and resentful towards her. Be thankful for what you had and be thankful for what you still have. There will be others, and you'll move on. Mindfulness will help you to surf the emotional waves without hurting anyone.

All things must pass.
IMHO the section quoted above is the most useful bit in this entire thread.

Impermanence is always highlighted by loss. But that's just our inherent human negativity bias. What's cool about it is that without impermanence pain would never fade.

"Thanks to impermanence, everything is possible." - Thich Nhat Hanh

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-CiTslNdOaM

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Re: Dealing with break ups

Post by Bundokji » Mon Jun 11, 2018 11:40 pm

I think Buddhism can be quite useful for lay people to develop mundane wisdom and being more peaceful than the average human being. This also should have a positive effect on our relationships.

Aiming at the supramundane is quite a different story and the level of seriousness needed (as i imagine it) is beyond the capacity of most of us and most definitely beyond the games we play with ourselves. These games can take numerous forms including making sacrifices.

The more we become aware of our own superficiality and limitations is the better. That would help us avoid a lot of pitfalls along the path. All in my opinion.
And the Blessed One addressed the bhikkhus, saying: "Behold now, bhikkhus, I exhort you: All compounded things are subject to vanish. Strive with earnestness!"

This was the last word of the Tathagata.

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