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Re: how to meet buddhist singles

Posted: Wed Nov 29, 2017 3:37 am
by Ren
Maybe go for related meeting places... for example classes of Hatha Yoga.

Re: how to meet buddhist singles

Posted: Tue Jan 02, 2018 6:29 pm
by manas
The desire for a girlfriend comes up from time to time, but then I recollect how essentially flawed romantic relationships are, and I get put off. I've suffered enough already, I think. :D

Re: how to meet buddhist singles

Posted: Tue Jan 02, 2018 8:41 pm
by SarathW
"In the same way, householder, a disciple of the noble ones considers this point: 'The Blessed One has compared sensuality to a chain of bones, of much stress, much despair, & greater drawbacks.' Seeing this with right discernment, as it actually is, then avoiding the equanimity coming from multiplicity, dependent on multiplicity, he develops the equanimity coming from singleness, dependent on singleness, where sustenance/clinging for the baits of the world ceases without trace."

https://www.accesstoinsight.org/ptf/dha ... index.html

Re: how to meet buddhist singles

Posted: Tue Jan 02, 2018 9:01 pm
by Dhammavaro
After a 3 month retreat in Thailand, I got more telephone numbers than ever before.
I am not longer interested in relationships, but I made beautiful friendships in retreats.

I wish you luck and peace.

Re: how to meet buddhist singles

Posted: Wed Jan 03, 2018 1:44 pm
by No_Mind
mikenz66 wrote:
Mon Nov 13, 2017 7:39 am
manas wrote:
Mon Nov 13, 2017 12:31 am
Try walking in the opposite direction: practice celibacy in body and mind, and women seem to come to YOU. It sucks but this is how it happened for me, the last two times.
In a similar vein, when I first started going to a Thai Wat, I already had a Thai girlfriend, but she was in another country. I went to learn more about Thai culture and language, but got sucked into the Dhamma... :buddha2:

The fact that I was interested in Dhamma, didn't smoke, drink, etc, and wasn't hitting on anyone (since I had a remote relationship) was then quite a powerful magnet...

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Mike
Actually it is simpler than not smoking or drinking .. you had a passport from a first world country. I mean no offence and I do not mean you are unattractive or not a powerful magnet .. but the NZ passport helped.

:namaste:

No_Mind

Re: how to meet buddhist singles

Posted: Wed Jan 03, 2018 1:46 pm
by mikenz66
Hmm, perhaps I wasn't clear that this was the Thai Wat in my city in New Zealand. The Thai people here are mostly residents or citizens already.

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Mike

Re: how to meet buddhist singles

Posted: Wed Jan 03, 2018 1:47 pm
by No_Mind
mikenz66 wrote:
Wed Jan 03, 2018 1:46 pm
Hmm, perhaps I wasn't clear that this was the Thai Wat in my city in New Zealand. The Thai people here are mostly residents or citizens already.

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Mike
Oh I see. I misunderstood. My apologies.

:namaste:

No_Mind

Re: how to meet buddhist singles

Posted: Wed Jan 03, 2018 3:44 pm
by mikenz66
No problem. I didn't really explain the circumstances in my post...

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Mike