I'm wondering how all of you balance true speech with speech that does not harm, this is an issue I've been having trouble with, as sometimes I feel put on the spot because I do not want to lie to the person but I also don't wish to hurt their feelings. For instance, if someone asked you how some food they made tasted, and they clearly weren't looking for criticism but you weren't very keen on it, what would be a good response? Personally, I feel it's kind of deceitful to mislead someone into believing you really like something when you don't so there are times when I'm at a loss as to what to say...
Looking forward to hearing your replies,
it is nice that you are a considerate being and appreciate the work the went into the cooking by someone else, which you were allowed to benefit from.
Many people judge food by the sensual pleasure it gives them.
I had 2 exceptions to that arising in my thoughts, when I read your post.
At first I thought of a monk, who goes on alms round.
He will not worry so much about how it tastes, but he will be mindful of the kindness and generosity of the giver, and he will feel the hunger going away.
I was then thinking of poor people, and how they would be thankful for the kindness and generosity of the giver, and how they will feel the pain of hunger going away.
Do you see that those mindsets are totally diffrent from "ours", in an affluent world?
Food is taken for granted by most of us, and we get bored with some flavours, and cultivate aversion or preferances for particular pieces.
We need something to be keen on, to enjoy it when our cravings are met.
I have suffered poverty before, and I have enjoyed riches before.
The times of poverty taught me more.
They taught me, that when somebody cooked for me, and gave me food, I was close to tears of joy, no matter what I was given....and even if it was not my favorite dish before, hunger let me experience it in a different way.
Had I been asked, if I liked it, I would have said, from the bottom of my heart: Oh, yes, it's wonderful.
And it would have been the truth.
To this day, I have not had any bad food again, I believe... and I always thank the giver, with intensity.
But all this is my experience and perhaps no advice for you, who may have a wife or mother who wishes to know what you think, so she can please you.
I think you can answer quite truthfully in the way that was suggested by others.
Or say, kindly:
"It is always special when somebody cooks so lovingly for others, I enjoyed that very much."
If you will get this dish more often, perhaps take Coorans advice, and ask how it was spiced in an unfamiliar way, and that you wonder how other spices would taste...
I'm sure you will find the right words!