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Buddhist ethical conduct including the Five Precepts (Pañcasikkhāpada), and Eightfold Ethical Conduct (Aṭṭhasīla).
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im unmarried single man and ive been trying to follow 3rd precept prefectly for years and its been challenging.
once the precept is broken i feel grief sadness so i stopped daily sitting and wait couple of days before resuming daily sitting. the q is it ok not to wait couple of days ?

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garibaldi16 wrote:once the precept is broken i feel grief sadness so i stopped daily sitting and wait couple of days before resuming daily sitting.
It'll take lots of effort and time to perfect the precepts, especially the 3rd. Afterall, it's our most basic fundamental nature, and they didn't call our realm Kama-loka(Sensuous-world) for no reason. So, like babies who are trying to learn to walk, we will trip and fall, and trip and fall many times until we can stand up straight and walk steadily and confidently. So don't let negative emotions prevent you from immediately get back to the training. Every time you fall, immediately try to get back up and keep moving forward.

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First, check you really have broken it. As a single man there are no restrictions on sex with other willing partners who are not specifically proscribed, nor on masturbation.

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Sam Vara wrote:
Mon Dec 16, 2019 3:10 pm
First, check you really have broken it. As a single man there are no restrictions on sex with other willing partners who are not specifically proscribed, nor on masturbation.
Correction , not any willing partners , not with someone wife that willing or engaged female .
Quality is not an act, it is a habit.

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sentinel wrote:
Mon Dec 16, 2019 5:25 pm
Sam Vara wrote:
Mon Dec 16, 2019 3:10 pm
First, check you really have broken it. As a single man there are no restrictions on sex with other willing partners who are not specifically proscribed, nor on masturbation.
Correction , not any willing partners , not with someone wife that willing or engaged female .
Yes, as I said above: "who are not specifically proscribed". Those who are married or engaged clearly are.

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If investigation shows you have broken a precept then meditation is doubly important.
Sotthī hontu nirantaraṃ - May you forever be well.

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its a controvorsial precept but best thing is no arising of lustful thought if u are scared
Find a tree and practice jhana or dont regret later- Buddha
Something exist, dont exist, both exist and non exist, neither exist nor dont exist .. all these four possibilities are wrong- Nagarjuna
Find a dhamma companion or roam alone like rhinoceros in the wild- Buddha
If you are not happy even after following 8NP then you are doing it wrong- CL (confused layman)

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What do you take the 3rd precept to be about?

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seeker242 wrote:
Sat Dec 28, 2019 2:58 pm
What do you take the 3rd precept to be about?
abstain from any sexual activities

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garibaldi1689 wrote:
Tue Jan 07, 2020 11:24 am
seeker242 wrote:
Sat Dec 28, 2019 2:58 pm
What do you take the 3rd precept to be about?
abstain from any sexual activities
For laypeople, the 3rd precept is about abstaining from misconduct in sexual activity. Not about abstaining from all sexual activity. The Buddha did not ask that of laypeople.

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garibaldi1689 wrote:
Tue Jan 07, 2020 11:24 am
seeker242 wrote:
Sat Dec 28, 2019 2:58 pm
What do you take the 3rd precept to be about?
abstain from any sexual activities
Are you talking about the third of the standard five precepts for lay people (kāmesu micchācārā etc...) or the third precept of the eight (abrahmacariyā veramani etc...)?

The former is not usually taken to mean that all sexual activity is disallowed.

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By the way, I have a question about the third precept as well. What does 'those protected by their parents' (one is not allowed to have sexual relationship with such people) mean? Does it mean that your partner should have reached the age of consent (which is obvious, I guess)?

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