Compassion fatigue

Buddhist ethical conduct including the Five Precepts (Pañcasikkhāpada), and Eightfold Ethical Conduct (Aṭṭhasīla).
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Re: Compassion fatigue

Post by binocular » Wed Jul 18, 2018 9:22 am

dharmacorps wrote:
Tue Jul 17, 2018 9:41 pm
Ah yes I have heard this term a lot. My wife is a therapist and this is discussed a lot in her circles. From a dhammic perspective, I would recommend equanimity meditation.
Chogyam Trungpa borrowed from Gurdjieff the very useful notion of “idiot compassion.” Gurdjieff, a rather fascinating spiritual teacher of the early to mid-20th century, had said that we are all idiots of one kind or another, and his extensive lists of the various types of idiots included “the compassionate idiot.”

Compassion is wishing that beings be free from suffering. Idiot compassion is avoiding conflict, letting people walk all over you, not giving people a hard time when actually they need to be given a hard time. It’s “being nice,” or “being good.”

It’s not compassion at all. It ends up causing us pain, and it ends up causing others pain.

The more someone self-consciously thinks of themselves as compassionate, the more likely it is that they’re a compassionate idiot.

Idiot compassion lacks both courage and intelligence.
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https://www.wildmind.org/blogs/on-pract ... compassion
*And please, don't ya'll get your knickers in a bunch because this term was made popular by Chogyam Trungpa.*

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Re: Compassion fatigue

Post by Crazy cloud » Wed Jul 18, 2018 9:49 am

befriend wrote:
Tue Jul 17, 2018 12:31 am
Has anyone experienced compassion fatigue? i volunteer and also help my parents and it makes me happy in moderation but it's taxing on me or taxing on my defilements I'm not sure. Before I do something good I have to give myself a pep talk about how Buddha fed himself to a hungry tigress and all the sacrifices he made for eons of existences. Should I do more of the brahma viharas?
Yeah, but the feeling wasn't compassion, it was something that had a certain degree of self interest in it, so therefore it was a lie and it drained energy. Real compassion is impossible to make any harm whatsoever, at least is it so in my world
If you didn't care
What happened to me
And I didn't care for you

We would zig-zag our way
Through the boredom and pain
Occasionally glancing up through the rain

Wondering which of the
Buggers to blame
And watching for pigs on the wing
- Roger Waters

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Re: Compassion fatigue

Post by befriend » Wed Jul 18, 2018 12:17 pm

My illness has been coming up recently that may be the real cause. Thanks for the replies everyone. I think I will work this out internally because there may be more things going on.
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Re: Compassion fatigue

Post by chownah » Wed Jul 18, 2018 1:11 pm

I don't think that compassion (as used in the suttas) produces fatigue....I think it is carrying the burden of kamma brought about by self which causes fatigue......put down the burden!
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Re: Compassion fatigue

Post by Dinsdale » Wed Jul 18, 2018 2:16 pm

befriend wrote:
Tue Jul 17, 2018 12:31 am
Has anyone experienced compassion fatigue?
Yep, I used to be a social worker! :rolleye:
befriend wrote:
Tue Jul 17, 2018 12:31 am
Should I do more of the brahma viharas?
That might help, alternatively you could focus more on the first stage of metta bhavana.
Buddha save me from new-agers!

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Re: Compassion fatigue

Post by pitakele » Tue Aug 07, 2018 3:03 pm

Regarding the appropriate measure in helping others, I find the Chavālāta Sutta a useful teaching. Here, Buddha rates the person who practises to benefit themselves, but not others is superior to the one who practises to benefit others, but not themselves. Sometimes, people are so intent on helping others that they neglect their own practice. Of course, one can also know that one is benefitting oneself by benefitting others. In this respect, it was reported that Gandhi, when praised by a foreign journalist for greatly helping the people of India, replied (something like) 'Don't say such a thing, I did it all for myself'.
'Mendicants, these four people are found in the world. What four?

One who practices to benefit neither themselves nor others;
one who practices to benefit others, but not themselves;
one who practices to benefit themselves, but not others; and
one who practices to benefit both themselves and others.

Suppose there was a firebrand for lighting a funeral pyre, burning at both ends, and smeared with dung in the middle. It couldn’t be used as timber either in the village or the wilderness. The person who practices to benefit neither themselves nor others is like this, I say. The person who practices to benefit others, but not themselves, is better than that. The person who practices to benefit themselves, but not others, is better than both of those. But the person who practices to benefit both themselves and others is the foremost, best, chief, highest, and finest of the four.'
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Re: Compassion fatigue

Post by Aloka » Tue Aug 07, 2018 9:03 pm

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There's a recent 35 minute talk by Luang Por Munindo :

"Coping With Compassion Fatigue"

https://ratanagiri.org.uk/teachings/tal ... hn-munindo



:anjali:

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Re: Compassion fatigue

Post by chownah » Wed Aug 08, 2018 3:02 am

If you feel fatigued from trying to be compassionate then you should study the suttas with the aim to learn about what the buddha meant by compassion because what you are doing is not what the buddha talked about.
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