I want to focus on improving my sila. I was thinking of focusing on mental, verbal and bodily conduct. My plan is to pick one mental, verbal and bodily act that's positive and practice it daily. What are your thoughts on this approach and what would you personally pick for those three things?
My motivation for this is that I keep falling into these bad mental states and want to improve my mental conditions. My hope is that these daily practices will lead to such an improved state of mind and hopefully lead to improve mental states.
Want to improve sila
Re: Want to improve sila
I think your idea is a great one for gladdening the mind.
How about a deliberate act of generosity every day, something beyond what you might routinely do? And rather than selecting one to repeat, decide to be attentive to what opportunities might present themselves in the course of the day. However, to help at first, you might consider in advance your daily routine to explore some possibilities. These acts don't have to be a big deal, the recipients might barely notice the kind word, the extra attention, (or whatever you have to offer).
Good luck.
It would be great if you let us know how this goes whatever you decide to do.
How about a deliberate act of generosity every day, something beyond what you might routinely do? And rather than selecting one to repeat, decide to be attentive to what opportunities might present themselves in the course of the day. However, to help at first, you might consider in advance your daily routine to explore some possibilities. These acts don't have to be a big deal, the recipients might barely notice the kind word, the extra attention, (or whatever you have to offer).
Good luck.
It would be great if you let us know how this goes whatever you decide to do.
Those who grasp at perceptions & views wander the internet creating friction. [based on Sn4:9,v.847]
Re: Want to improve sila
They'll be many opportunities to practice good conduct in body, speech, and mind throughout any given day. Personally, there's a lot of mistakes made along the way, so I always try and be gentle when I do slip up.
Falling into bad mental states. There's a chance to practice good conduct right there. Make peace, be kind, be gentle. Having little quips on hand can be useful when there's a lot of confusion.
Take care and good luck to you.
Falling into bad mental states. There's a chance to practice good conduct right there. Make peace, be kind, be gentle. Having little quips on hand can be useful when there's a lot of confusion.
Take care and good luck to you.
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"nothing whatsoever should be clung to"
"nothing whatsoever should be clung to"
Re: Want to improve sila
What would a good daily act of generosity be?
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Re: Want to improve sila
The world is created at home here and now, so a nice activity to start with is optional to the gentle heart ... - I like to have a cup of coffee at first
A pure heart and a gentle mind will always do whats best in every situation
best!
A pure heart and a gentle mind will always do whats best in every situation
best!
If you didn't care
What happened to me
And I didn't care for you
We would zig-zag our way
Through the boredom and pain
Occasionally glancing up through the rain
Wondering which of the
Buggers to blame
And watching for pigs on the wing
- Roger Waters
What happened to me
And I didn't care for you
We would zig-zag our way
Through the boredom and pain
Occasionally glancing up through the rain
Wondering which of the
Buggers to blame
And watching for pigs on the wing
- Roger Waters
Re: Want to improve sila
On a general note: it should be activities where one can clearly measure whether one has done them or not.
For example, "be more generous" is hard to measure, but "give the cat fresh water every day" is measurable.
Hic Rhodus, hic salta!
Re: Want to improve sila
I don't know your daily routines and who you may come into contact with, but just showing interest in someone (especially someone you routinely ignore) can be an act of generosity; and you could pick a different person each day or only do the "showing interest" on Mondays and pick a different sort of thing for Tuesdays, etc. I think part of the practice is to figure out what might be a generous thing that you could do. After a while, you might not need much advance planning, you might just become more attuned and practiced in seeing opportunities and taking them.
Part of this would be for it to be a specific thing so you do know that you are doing it (vs. "be more generous").
While this may sound easy, I think the hard part is not just falling back to the habitual daily routines; I know I tend to do that -- but that is a potential benefit of this practice to -- not just falling back on auto pilot.
Good luck!
Those who grasp at perceptions & views wander the internet creating friction. [based on Sn4:9,v.847]
Re: Want to improve sila
Try to make some sort of gamification scheme. Gamify it. Give yourself points based on good actions taken, and deduct points based on mistakes made. Add or subtract it in a text document or spreadsheet. Set goals for yourself and see if you can hit them. Here's a helpful video:
https://www.ted.com/talks/jane_mcgoniga ... rs_of_life
https://www.ted.com/talks/jane_mcgoniga ... rs_of_life
Here are some excellent sites for giving free Dana (Click-Based Donation):
http://freerice.com • http://greatergood.com/ • www.ripple.org • www.thenonprofits.com
http://freerice.com • http://greatergood.com/ • www.ripple.org • www.thenonprofits.com
Re: Want to improve sila
On another general note:
Devote a small notebook to writing down ideas for moral actions, sorting them by category.
For example:
Ideas for being more generous in physical actions:
- give the cat fresh water every day
- send my friends birthday cards on their birthdays
- go grocery shopping for a friend who has a broken leg
And so on.
When you read the forums here, when you talk to people, read books etc., you can easily come across ideas for how to be more generous. People talk about the good things they have done or the good things they have seen other people do. Take advantage of that and write it down, otherwise you might forget. Once you start a collection and write down a few items, that gives you the impetus to think of even more and to pay attention to new ones. Then make a point to read through those lists once a week, say, every Saturday. Think which of the listed actions you could do this month, this week, today, within the next few hours, and do them (or write them into your calendar).
Devote a small notebook to writing down ideas for moral actions, sorting them by category.
For example:
Ideas for being more generous in physical actions:
- give the cat fresh water every day
- send my friends birthday cards on their birthdays
- go grocery shopping for a friend who has a broken leg
And so on.
When you read the forums here, when you talk to people, read books etc., you can easily come across ideas for how to be more generous. People talk about the good things they have done or the good things they have seen other people do. Take advantage of that and write it down, otherwise you might forget. Once you start a collection and write down a few items, that gives you the impetus to think of even more and to pay attention to new ones. Then make a point to read through those lists once a week, say, every Saturday. Think which of the listed actions you could do this month, this week, today, within the next few hours, and do them (or write them into your calendar).
Hic Rhodus, hic salta!
Re: Want to improve sila
Speaking of acts of generosity (dana), I just came across the word "abhayadana" -- giving freedom from fear.
So, with some introspection, if you think you might be a bit "scary" to some people, another possible act of generosity would be to soften the behavior that may be scary. (This may not be relevant in the current context, but I thought it was interesting and worth sharing.)
I saw the term in Ajahn Amaro's The Breakthrough.
So, with some introspection, if you think you might be a bit "scary" to some people, another possible act of generosity would be to soften the behavior that may be scary. (This may not be relevant in the current context, but I thought it was interesting and worth sharing.)
I saw the term in Ajahn Amaro's The Breakthrough.
Those who grasp at perceptions & views wander the internet creating friction. [based on Sn4:9,v.847]
Re: Want to improve sila
Right approach is "bodily" -> "verbal" -> "mental", simply because 1st one is the most evident and gross thing and is the easiest to deal with.I want to focus on improving my sila. I was thinking of focusing on mental, verbal and bodily conduct. My plan is to pick one mental, verbal and bodily act that's positive and practice it daily. What are your thoughts on this approach and what would you personally pick for those three things?
Re: Want to improve sila
I don't see why you can't do all three in parallel. Unless you're struggling to see the issues in your conduct then yes, maybe work on the obvious stuff first. I feel pretty aware though of my problems with mental/verbal/bodily conduct, so I feel I can approach them all at once.
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Because if you can't manage with gross mental activities that lead to bodily actions, there's little chance you ll be able to do that with more subtle mental activities that lead to speech and thinking ,)
Re: Want to improve sila
Well, what I'm practicing is pretty simple. For verbal, I'm practicing greeting my coworkers in a friendly manner in the morning. For mental, I'm making sure to take a pause once a day and spend a minute reflecting on my good qualities. For bodily, I'm practicing a small act of generosity, like giving a $1 donation when getting a coffee or going out of my way to help someone. These are small acts and I don't see why they can't be done in parallel.
Re: Want to improve sila
Be kind to yourself too.
Sire patitthitā Buddhā
Dhammo ca tava locane
Sangho patitthitō tuiham
uresabba gunākaro
愿众佛坐在我的头顶, 佛法在我的眼中, 僧伽,功德的根源, 端坐在我的肩上。
Dhammo ca tava locane
Sangho patitthitō tuiham
uresabba gunākaro
愿众佛坐在我的头顶, 佛法在我的眼中, 僧伽,功德的根源, 端坐在我的肩上。