mettafuture wrote: ↑Tue Nov 13, 2018 4:43 pm
lostitude wrote: ↑Tue Nov 13, 2018 3:47 pmUltimately it depended on me to pay attention (...)
Not paying attention to your surroundings can be dangerous.
Obviously that was not what I meant.
(...) fail to understand why their behavior is actually pretty natural and even expected
We don't have to tolerate bad behavior.
Maybe, but what is even more important at present for you is not to suffer because of bad behavior. And that is something immediate and personal that buddhism invites us to work on within ourselves, isn't it? Complaining about other people is not going to help me achieve much on a personal level, I think. So that should be secondary.
Ultimately the suffering and discomfort comes from within
Not if someone punches you in the face.
Actually...yes, according to the little I have read. Pain may come from outside, but the suffering and discomfort triggered by pain are created within you, by how you live this experience. Am I wrong in believing that this idea is the very essence of buddhism? I'm kind of new so I stand to be corrected.