Sorry to hear of your problems.
It can be difficult for your parents to relate to you when you are practicing a path such as Buddhism - with that I also have experience. But that's not really something you can do all that much about. However, what you can do is try to maintain the peace, don't go into arguments and not get angry. Discussing things peacefully and with understanding of their position will help much more.
If you definitely leave your home in a disorganized state, your parents confused and angry, I think one day or the other this may get to you and be an even bigger hindrance to your practice.
That aside, why can't you go on a visit on your own? Why do your patents have to take you? You don't have to go for a long time, just visiting for a few days or so.