Death of an old friend

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Death of an old friend

Post by Stiphan » Sat Aug 15, 2015 6:45 pm

Dear friends,

A very close friend of my family has just passed away. My mother just told me the news. He was 87.

We lived right next door, in my home town in Bulgaria. He was a very wise man. He was the principal and head teacher of a school for many years. Very intelligent, upbeat, he was always in good spirits despite declining health in recent years. His wife passed away in 2011. His two sons and their families looked after him with loving care.

Even though he and I had a huge age difference, we were very close. When I was a young boy, he would give me lots of praise and encouragement, which my own family didn't (though my family was very loving to me). When I got older, he wanted me to marry his own granddaughter, with whom I used to play a lot as a child. When I grew even older, and I had found Buddhism, we talked about spirituality, and he appreciated the Four Noble Truths. When I told him about the first noble truth, "Life is suffering." He just said outright "That's true!" with a certain confidence. He was a Christian, though since most Bulgarians are not very religious, I am not sure how much religion played a part in his life.

Nevertheless, he was an incredibly wise, dignified, strong old man, with whom I had a very close connection. I kindly ask that we send him metta and wish him well in his next life, and future rebirths. May the good karma that he did in this life lead him to a better place, and may the example he set to others by living an upright life be remembered by all.

Сбогом, чичо Иване!
Farewell, uncle Ivan!

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Re: Death of an old friend

Post by bodom » Sat Aug 15, 2015 10:08 pm


To study is to know the texts,
To practice is to know your defilements,
To attain the goal is to know and let go.

- Ajahn Lee Dhammadharo

With no struggling, no thinking,
the mind, still,
will see cause and effect
vanishing in the Void.
Attached to nothing, letting go:
Know that this is the way
to allay all stress.

- Upasika Kee Nanayan

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Re: Death of an old friend

Post by Khalil Bodhi » Sat Aug 15, 2015 10:19 pm

aniccā vata saṅkhārā, upāda vaya dhammino. uppajjitvā nirujjanti, tesaṁ vūpasamo sukho.
To avoid all evil, to cultivate good, and to cleanse one's mind — this is the teaching of the Buddhas.
-Dhp. 183

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Re: Death of an old friend

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Re: Death of an old friend

Post by SarathW » Sat Aug 15, 2015 10:42 pm

It is great to have a Kalyana Mitta like you.
At least you gave your old friend a glimpse of Nibbabna.
“As the lamp consumes oil, the path realises Nibbana”

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Re: Death of an old friend

Post by Ben » Sun Aug 16, 2015 12:57 am

Stephen, Ivan will be in my thoughts.
I will dedicate my merits to him.
With metta,
“No lists of things to be done. The day providential to itself. The hour. There is no later. This is later. All things of grace and beauty such that one holds them to one's heart have a common provenance in pain. Their birth in grief and ashes.”
- Cormac McCarthy, The Road

Learn this from the waters:
in mountain clefts and chasms,
loud gush the streamlets,
but great rivers flow silently.
- Sutta Nipata 3.725

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Re: Death of an old friend

Post by Stiphan » Sun Aug 16, 2015 6:35 am

Thank you, all.

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Re: Death of an old friend

Post by Aloka » Sun Aug 16, 2015 3:08 pm

:candle: :candle: :candle:


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Re: Death of an old friend

Post by Coyote » Sun Aug 16, 2015 4:37 pm

Sorry for your loss. :candle:
"If beings knew, as I know, the results of giving & sharing, they would not eat without having given, nor would the stain of miserliness overcome their minds. Even if it were their last bite, their last mouthful, they would not eat without having shared."
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Re: Death of an old friend

Post by Kusala » Mon Aug 17, 2015 6:58 am


"He, the Blessed One, is indeed the Noble Lord, the Perfectly Enlightened One;
He is impeccable in conduct and understanding, the Serene One, the Knower of the Worlds;
He trains perfectly those who wish to be trained; he is Teacher of gods and men; he is Awake and Holy. "

"The Dhamma is well-expounded by the Blessed One,
Apparent here and now, timeless, encouraging investigation,
Leading to liberation, to be experienced individually by the wise. "

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Re: Death of an old friend

Post by Stiphan » Mon Aug 17, 2015 12:14 pm

Thank you, good friends.

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Re: Death of an old friend

Post by raga0808 » Tue Aug 25, 2015 9:10 pm

Namaste from India friend ....
Extremely sad to hear about your friend. :candle:
Iam no religious scholar nor do I posses any experience to give you any pearls of wisdom.
I will just say what I truly believe.......
Your friend lived a blessed,loved,successful and obviously happy life[he was surrounded by loved ones and even you!]
Although he has left this world,he is very much alive in memories in a fond way!!!!
And touched people from world over even after his passing away...isn't that great ?
Forgive if I ve offended you :anjali:
Your New Friend......
From India .

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Re: Death of an old friend

Post by jagodage » Mon Oct 05, 2015 11:19 am

Dear Upaska Sumana

Yours is an another example of Lord Buddha's Ist Noble Truth.Leaving behind loved ones.And you can be happy that you have explained at least the Ist Noble Truth.Being a wise person he would have understood.Therefore he must have born in a life so that he can understand other 03 Noble Truth.(I wish)

With Metta

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