AN 7.63 Bhariyā Sutta. Kinds of Wives.

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AN 7.63 Bhariyā Sutta. Kinds of Wives.

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AN 7.63 Bhariyā Sutta. Kinds of Wives.
Translated by Bhikkhu Sujato


https://suttacentral.net/an7.63

Then the Buddha robed up in the morning and, taking his bowl and robe, went to the home of the householder Anāthapiṇḍika, where he sat on the seat spread out. Now at that time people in Anāthapiṇḍika’s home were making a dreadful racket. Then the householder Anāthapiṇḍika went up to the Buddha, bowed, and sat down to one side. The Buddha said to him:

“Householder, what’s with the people making that dreadful racket in your home? You’d think it was fishermen hauling in a catch!” “Sir, that’s my daughter-in-law Sujātā. She’s been brought here from a wealthy family. She doesn’t obey her mother-in-law or father-in-law or her husband. And she does not honor, respect, esteem, and venerate the Buddha.”

Then the Buddha addressed Sujātā, saying, “Come, Sujātā.” “Yes, sir,” she replied. She went up to the Buddha, bowed, and sat down to one side. The Buddha said to her:

“Sujātā, a man can have seven kinds of wife. What seven? A wife like a killer, a wife like a thief, a wife like a lord, a wife like a mother, a wife like a sister, a wife like a friend, and a wife like a bondservant. These are the kinds of wife that a man can have. Which one of these are you?” “Sir, I don’t understand the detailed meaning of what the Buddha has said in brief. Please teach me this matter so I can understand the detailed meaning.” “Well then, Sujātā, listen and pay close attention, I will speak.” “Yes, sir,” she replied. The Buddha said this:
  • “With a mind full of hate and no kindness,
    lusting for others, looking down on her husband,
    she longs to murder the one who paid the price for her.
    A man’s wife of this sort
    is called a wife and a murderer.

    A woman’s husband earns his wealth
    by working at a profession, trade, or farming.
    And even if it’s only a little, she wants to take it.
    A man’s wife of this sort
    is called a wife and a thief.

    She’s an idle glutton who doesn’t want to work.
    Her words are harsh, fierce, and rude.
    She rules over him, though he rises early.
    A man’s wife of this sort
    is called a wife and a lord.

    She’s always caring and kind,
    looking after her husband like a mother her child.
    She keeps the wealth that he’s earned secure.
    A man’s wife of this sort
    is called a wife and a mother.

    She respects her husband
    as a younger sister respects her elder.
    Conscientious, she does what her husband says.
    A man’s wife of this sort
    is called a wife and a sister.

    She’s delighted to see him,
    like one reunited with a long-lost friend.
    She’s well-raised, virtuous, and devoted.
    A man’s wife of this sort
    is called a wife and a friend.

    She has no anger when threatened with violence by the rod.
    Without hate or anger,
    she endures her husband and does what he says.
    A man’s wife of this sort
    is called a wife and a bondservant.

    The kinds of wives here called
    murderer, thief, and lord;
    unethical, harsh, and rude,
    when their body breaks up they go to hell.

    But the kinds of wives here called
    mother, sister, friend, and bondservant;
    steadfast in their own morality, restrained for a long time,
    when their body breaks up they go to a good place.”
Sujātā, these are the seven kinds of wife that a man can have. Which one of these are you?” “Sir, from this day forth may the Buddha remember me as a wife like a bondservant.”

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Re: AN 7.63 Bhariyā Sutta. Kinds of Wives.

Post by mikenz66 » Sat Aug 18, 2018 2:12 am

Comment from Bhikkhu Bodhi's translation:
“One who remains patient and calm,
when threatened with violence by the rod, [1559]
who tolerates her husband with a mind free of hate,
patient, submissive to her husband’s will:
a wife like this is called a wife and a slave.

Note 1559: Vadhadaṇḍatajjitā. Mp: “When her husband grabs a rod and threatens her with murder, saying: ‘I’ll kill you’” (daṇḍakaṃ gahetvā vadhena tajjitā, ‘‘ghātessāmi nan” ti vuttā).

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Re: AN 7.63 Bhariyā Sutta. Kinds of Wives.

Post by mikenz66 » Sat Aug 18, 2018 2:25 am

Translation by Bhikkhu Pesala, with notes: http://www.aimwell.org/bhariya.html

An essay on interpersonal relationships in the suttas: http://elearning.ibc.ac.th/sites/defaul ... ations.pdf

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