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How do u know if u're misleading others or not?

Posted: Wed May 07, 2014 6:11 pm
by vesak2014
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Re: How do u know if u're misleading others or not?

Posted: Wed May 07, 2014 6:17 pm
by Mkoll
What you can know is if your intention is to mislead and if you're trying to mislead. And if you're doing that, I suggest you stop.

If your intention is pure and you didn't intend to mislead someone but they are misled anyway, there is nothing you could have done about it.

Re: How do u know if u're misleading others or not?

Posted: Wed May 07, 2014 6:21 pm
by waterchan
Sometimes the intention to mislead is very subtle. You might not even know you have it until you direct your mindfulness to it. If you have a lot of friends or relatives, you might know some people who are manipulative by nature. This is not to promote ill will towards such people — they are as much a victim of their own conditioning as we are.

Re: How do u know if u're misleading others or not?

Posted: Wed May 07, 2014 6:23 pm
by Sokehi
waterchan wrote:Sometimes the intention to mislead is very subtle. You might not even know you have it until you direct your mindfulness to it. If you have a lot of friends or relatives, you might know some people who are manipulative by nature. This is not to promote ill will towards such people — they are as much a victim of their own conditioning as we are.
This truly is a good answer :anjali:

Re: How do u know if u're misleading others or not?

Posted: Wed May 07, 2014 6:47 pm
by vesak2014
Sokehi wrote:
waterchan wrote:Sometimes the intention to mislead is very subtle. You might not even know you have it until you direct your mindfulness to it. If you have a lot of friends or relatives, you might know some people who are manipulative by nature. This is not to promote ill will towards such people — they are as much a victim of their own conditioning as we are.
This truly is a good answer :anjali:
My question is about misleading others in terms of understanding the Dhamma.

Re: How do u know if u're misleading others or not?

Posted: Wed May 07, 2014 6:53 pm
by waterchan
vesak2014 wrote: My question is about misleading others in terms of understanding the Dhamma.
That wasn't obvious from your first post, but most of what has been said in this thread would still apply.

Re: How do u know if u're misleading others or not?

Posted: Wed May 07, 2014 8:26 pm
by m0rl0ck
i check to see if my mouth is open :)

Re: How do u know if u're misleading others or not?

Posted: Wed May 07, 2014 11:16 pm
by vesak2014
m0rl0ck wrote:i check to see if my mouth is open :)
so, whenever your mouth is open you are misleading others?

Re: How do u know if u're misleading others or not?

Posted: Wed May 07, 2014 11:44 pm
by santa100
vesak2014 wrote:How do u know if u're misleading others or not?
No one can be 100% sure unless he's already attained enlightenment. Until then one could try their best by starting with a wholesome intention, diligently study the Buddha Dhamma, and support one's claim with backup literatures and sutta references. That way while the interpretation might be off, the readers still have the sources to go to and decide for themselves. It's all part of our learning experience. Also use the general guideline the Buddha gave in AN 8.53:
"As for the qualities of which you may know, 'These qualities lead to dispassion, not to passion; to being unfettered, not to being fettered; to shedding, not to accumulating; to modesty, not to self-aggrandizement; to contentment, not to discontent; to seclusion, not to entanglement; to aroused persistence, not to laziness; to being unburdensome, not to being burdensome': You may categorically hold, 'This is the Dhamma, this is the Vinaya, this is the Teacher's instruction.'"

Re: How do u know if u're misleading others or not?

Posted: Wed May 07, 2014 11:54 pm
by Viscid
Those that mislead most are the ones who preach Dhamma for self-gain. When people award themselves spiritual authority, they distort the Dhamma by preaching from unsteady foundations, and for unworthy end. So, don't talk Dhamma to feel proud. Stick to the facts, and always be willing to accept your own misapprehension.

Re: How do u know if u're misleading others or not?

Posted: Thu May 08, 2014 1:21 am
by SDC
If someone is just repeating what they've heard, what they've read, what they've memorized, repeating the general consensus, not speaking from actual experience, then there is always a chance they could be misleading people with what they say. I don't care how in depth one goes into the literature - how many years they've studied, how many degrees they have, how many books they've read, or how much Pali they know - if they aren't also learning to apply it, learning to SEE dhamma in their own experience, confirming what they've read in the books, and speaking from that sort of knowledge, how can they ever know if they know what they know?

So in a nut shell, unless you've seen the things you are saying, you won't know if you are misleading others. The speaker - if he or she is so inclined to admit his or her possible shortcomings with his or her knowledge of a particular subject - can, most courteously, protect the listener with a simple disclaimer. For example: "As far as I have come to understand..." or "As far as So and So has said..." or "According to such and such a source..." or any variation, can help the listener's understanding remain dynamic and open to adjustment.

EDIT - This is just my opinion ;)

Re: How do u know if u're misleading others or not?

Posted: Thu May 08, 2014 3:14 am
by chownah
If you present your views as being more than just your views then you are misleading others.
chownah

Re: How do u know if u're misleading others or not?

Posted: Thu May 08, 2014 3:23 am
by DNS
Did you know that the word gullible is not in the dictionary?

Go to dictionary.com and look it up.

Okay, this just goes to show how few people are misled nowadays. This is the information age. Few people are misled to anything. We can look things up, challenge people, have differing views. Even famous scholars are taken with a grain of salt and people argue about their views and findings on forums such as this and other places. It's all good.

Re: How do u know if u're misleading others or not?

Posted: Sat May 10, 2014 3:45 am
by melancholy
"Monks, these two slander the Tathagata. Which two? He who explains what was not said or spoken by the Tathagata as said or spoken by the Tathagata. And he who explains what was said or spoken by the Tathagata as not said or spoken by the Tathagata. These are two who slander the Tathagata."

- AN 2.23
"Bhikkhus, those bhikkhus who explain non-Dhamrna as Dhamma are acting for the harm of many people, the unhappi­ness of many people, for the ruin, harm, and suffering of many people, of devas and human beings. These bhikkhus generate much demerit and cause this good Dhamma to disappear."

- AN 1.130, Adhamma Sutta (The Numerical Discourses of the Buddha, p105)
in certain situations it is very difficult to know whether a sutta originally was said by the buddha or not, but as David said, this is information age, and there are lot of comparative studies and critical textual analysis done by various scholars.

actual experience also sometimes can be misleading. how many teachers and gurus claimed they were truly enlighten? many examples available for this.
7. And there the Blessed One addressed the bhikkhus, saying: "Now, bhikkhus, I shall make known to you the four great references. Listen and pay heed to my words."

"In this fashion, bhikkhus, a bhikkhu might speak:
(1) 'Face to face with the Blessed One, brethren, I have heard and learned thus: This is the Dhamma and the Discipline, the Master's Dispensation';
(2) or: 'In an abode of such and such a name lives a community with elders and a chief. Face to face with that community, I have heard and learned thus: This is the Dhamma and the Discipline, the Master's Dispensation';
(3) or: 'In an abode of such and such a name live several bhikkhus who are elders, who are learned, who have accomplished their course, who are preservers of the Dhamma, the Discipline, and the Summaries. Face to face with those elders, I have heard and learned thus: This is the Dhamma and the Discipline, the Master's Dispensation';
(4) or: 'In an abode of such and such a name lives a single bhikkhu who is an elder, who is learned, who has accomplished his course, who is a preserver of the Dhamma, the Discipline, and the Summaries. Face to face with that elder, I have heard and learned thus: This is the Dhamma and the Discipline, the Master's Dispensation.'

"In such a case, bhikkhus, the declaration of such a bhikkhu is neither to be received with approval nor with scorn. Without approval and without scorn, but carefully studying the sentences word by word, one should trace them in the Discourses and verify them by the Discipline. If they are neither traceable in the Discourses nor verifiable by the Discipline, one must conclude thus: 'Certainly, this is not the Blessed One's utterance; this has been misunderstood by that bhikkhu — or by that community, or by those elders, or by that elder.' In that way, bhikkhus, you should reject it. But if the sentences concerned are traceable in the Discourses and verifiable by the Discipline, then one must conclude thus: 'Certainly, this is the Blessed One's utterance; this has been well understood by that bhikkhu — or by that community, or by those elders, or by that elder.' And in that way, bhikkhus, you may accept it on the first, second, third, or fourth reference. These, bhikkhus, are the four great references for you to preserve."

- Digha Nikaya 16, Mahaparinibbana Sutta

Re: How do u know if u're misleading others or not?

Posted: Sat May 10, 2014 4:23 am
by waterchan
David N. Snyder wrote:Did you know that the word gullible is not in the dictionary?

Go to dictionary.com and look it up.

Okay, this just goes to show how few people are misled nowadays ...
Dammit, I thought you were serious. :tongue:

It is rather ironic that the information age comes at roughly the same time as the Dhamma-ending age.

Re: How do u know if u're misleading others or not?

Posted: Sun May 11, 2014 12:23 am
by SDC
melancholy wrote:actual experience also sometimes can be misleading. how many teachers and gurus claimed they were truly enlighten? many examples available for this.
This is a good point. You can't know if what they claim is dhamma just on the claim that it is "actual experience". The only reason I brought it up was to emphasize that it is the only way the SPEAKER is able to be honest. If the speaker has directly verified what they are speaking on then THEY are not misleading. However, the LISTENER is still in the same boat they were at the beginning - if someone tells them that they experienced something directly they must still take it with a grain of salt.