I saw this on another thread.
For all practical intents and purposes, being a Buddhist means that one will quite likely be a loser in worldly terms. Not necessarily a doormat, but quite likely a loser.
buddha say to conquer a thousand battle is incomparable to conquer own self.. I didnt know what it mean
in meditation I experience this "becoming" or bhavana(if I am not mistaken). where the craving takes on and the "consciousness" wears a fleeting thought or feeling that take it as its own.
from a observer mind observing the fleeting thought(mano) the craving "wear" the thought and the self become the thought.
e.g. a angy thought arise, I aware of the thought then craving grab and I become angry person.
after this experience, which I "notice" becoming phenomenon, during in daily life, where akusala vedana or thought arise, I could sense it bubbling in my mind or heart, but never become.
thus same for my lust, craving, sensual peleasure etc.... which I was at home accompanying family and enjoying time and meditaton. my friends make fun and say I was like living in prison without going out to have fun, club, drink etc.
from dhamma study n meditation, feel freerer and see satisfying sensual pleasure is a great burden. you work so hard to satisfy your sensual desire.
thus, buddhist are winners who overcome their ownself