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entitlement

Post by chg2winter » Sun Jul 08, 2012 5:28 pm

The one 'hot button' I have left that I have not made any traction on is my response (dissatisfaction/anger/disgust) when people seem to have a sense of entitlement. I am totally unsure of what pattern this comes from or what unconscious trigger is being tripped. But from homeless people to richy rich people, when someone portrays they are entitled to something, I react without wisdom.

Any thoughts on how writings or lessons that might help me address this?

thanks,
Dan

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Re: entitlement

Post by Sam Vara » Sun Jul 08, 2012 5:47 pm

"There are these ten ways of subduing hatred. Which ten?

[1] "Thinking, 'He has done me harm. But what should I expect?' one subdues hatred.

[2] "Thinking, 'He is doing me harm. But what should I expect?' one subdues hatred.

[3] "Thinking, 'He is going to do me harm. But what should I expect?' one subdues hatred.

[4] "Thinking, 'He has done harm to people who are dear & pleasing to me. But what should I expect?' one subdues hatred.

[5] "Thinking, 'He is doing harm to people who are dear & pleasing to me. But what should I expect?' one subdues hatred.

[6] "Thinking, 'He is going to do harm to people who are dear & pleasing to me. But what should I expect?' one subdues hatred.

[7] "Thinking, 'He has aided people who are not dear or pleasing to me. But what should I expect?' one subdues hatred.

[8] "Thinking, 'He is aiding people who are not dear or pleasing to me. But what should I expect?' one subdues hatred.

[9] "Thinking, 'He is going to aid people who are not dear or pleasing to me. But what should I expect?' one subdues hatred.

[10] "One does not get worked up over impossibilities.

"These are ten ways of subduing hatred."
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Re: entitlement

Post by Eccedustin » Mon Jul 09, 2012 4:21 am

chg2winter wrote:The one 'hot button' I have left that I have not made any traction on is my response (dissatisfaction/anger/disgust) when people seem to have a sense of entitlement. I am totally unsure of what pattern this comes from or what unconscious trigger is being tripped. But from homeless people to richy rich people, when someone portrays they are entitled to something, I react without wisdom.

Any thoughts on how writings or lessons that might help me address this?

thanks,
Dan
What do you mean "without wisdom"?
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Re: entitlement

Post by chg2winter » Mon Jul 09, 2012 6:35 pm

"without wisdom" - reacting in anger, or outrage, or disgust.

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Re: entitlement

Post by Bhikkhu Pesala » Mon Jul 09, 2012 7:17 pm

There's a lovely story (from the Vinaya) where a bhikkhu sees a billy goat bowing its head, and thought it was bowing to him. :bow:

Guess what happened next ...
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Re: entitlement

Post by retrofuturist » Tue Jul 10, 2012 12:07 am

Greetings C2W,
chg2winter wrote:Any thoughts on how writings or lessons that might help me address this?
Recognise that your response is aversion, and see how this aversion is dukkha. Discerning it correctly, you will see the harm it brings and with mindfulness, be less inclined toward such mental action.

Metta,
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