It is important to keep in mind to whom the Buddha spoke when he was talking. When it comes to the monks training rules for example, then the laypersons don't need todo all that. So the laypersons are note prohibited from engaging in more sensual things than the bhikkus.
As far as i can see i'm not the only layperson who draws a great deal of inspiration from the Sangha and the bhikku's way of thinking, talking and acting. Many laypersons can see the fruit and the advantages a stricter set of rules can have. It is to expect that eager laypersons want to change their life in a way, that it fits better with the dhamma. Just like monks and nuns do.
Now it seems to me that there are to sets of moral code for laypersons. One explicitely given by the Buddha (5 precepts) and one type of sets not explicitely given by the Buddha; Laypersons try to adapt their life to dhamma and just try to engage in the common layperson life as little as possible. No TV, celibate life, no music,.. you get it.
I came across two ways of how other laypersons react to situations, where people struggle with this enhanced effort:
1. Saying something like "The Buddha didn't tell householders that they need to do that.", encouraging people to live more like a layperson and less like a bhikku.
2. Addressing the problem the layperson that resulted from their increased effort, encouraging the layperson to go on with what they do.
Puzzling. If celibacy is wholesome and skillful for a bhikku, isn't it wholesome and skillful for a layperson, too? If no TV, no music, etc. is wholesome for a bhikku, isn't it wholesome and skillful for a layperson, too? If renunciation is wholesome and skillful for a bhikku, isn't renunciation wholesome and skillful for a layperson, too?
As i mentioned in the introductory sentence: When it comes to the monks training rules, laypersons don't need to do that, but what if they want to do (some) of that as a layperson? Is that worth of encouragement, is it skillful for the layperson to adapt to more rules than the ones that the Buddha explicitely set for them?
Answers are greatly appreciated!