Alex123 wrote:Also, since dukkha is inherent part of life - we can't make samsara to be totally happy.
Alex123 wrote:Deep sleep is the least stressful "time" of my miserable life.
Hi Alex,
The Buddha never taught that "suffering is an inherent part of life". He taught this:
"Suffering, as a noble truth, is this: Birth is suffering, aging is suffering, sickness is suffering, death is suffering, sorrow and lamentation, pain, grief and despair are suffering; association with the loathed is suffering, dissociation from the loved is suffering, not to get what one wants is suffering — in short, suffering is the five categories of clinging objects.
-SN 56.11
There is no mention of "life" which is an abstraction and a convention. The Buddha was very specific about what is suffering.
This Truth is to be known and seen with wisdom by one who attains a supramundane path. There's a gulf of difference between thinking (read: philosophizing) that life is suffering and knowing and seeing with supramundane wisdom that everything that arises is impermanent, suffering, and not-self. Thinking is the conditioned arising of a thought (read: mind-object) that is sensed by the mind and is itself destroyed soon after. This is my understanding as a worldling.
Holding the view that "life is miserable" implies that life is
wholly miserable and that nothing brings happiness. However, the Buddha taught that many things in life bring happiness.
There are two kinds of happiness, O monks. The happiness of the home life and the happiness of monkhood. But the happiness of monkhood is the higher of the two.
The happiness of the senses and the happiness of renunciation. But the happiness of renunciation is the higher of the two.
Tainted happiness and taintless happiness. But taintless happiness is the higher of the two.
Carnal and non-carnal happiness—the non-carnal is the higher. Noble and ignoble happiness—the noble is the higher. Bodily and mental happiness—the mental is the higher.
-AN 2:7; selected
Don't torment yourself. Go and enjoy a chocolate milkshake or something! It may be impermanent but it is a form of happiness!