SarathW wrote: ↑Sun Jul 14, 2019 10:43 pmI agree.
I hardly go to a temple, because I can't see the purpose of going there unless I want to look after the monk by helping them and giving Dana. The problem is you find those distractions even in a Dhamma discussion forum. That is why some people do not like Dhamma forums either.
Same here,my only purpose of going to temples is to offer food and necessities to the monks.I don't think i care anymore about getting good merits and being reborn in heaven or being protected from harm. I used to make this worldly wishes of success like getting good grades at school and i got them yes exactly how i made the wish,same with metta practice when i do it i get all these happiness and protection but i realised it's this cause and effect chain that i have to keep supporting and it's really tiring because it never stops.and i have to keep doing it to sustain the effects.
So as one monk passed me and i offered my rice to him and instead of doing My wishes.i wished for him to attain nibbanna.
I imagined him in the future maybe as this monk maybe some other being i imagined this being attaining liberation i imagined that moment maybe in a different life,where release happens and i put all my aspiration into that one spoon and i genuinely wished that this spoon of rice will contribute to that final release and it filled my eyes with tears that i quickly blinked away.It was like warm joy bubbling from deep inside when you wish for other people's happiness and its something i'm not used to as i can be really selfish and self absorbed.And it think that's the moment i knew i would always come to monasteries and visit temples and support teachers regardless if there's 100,000 rude dhamma police on patrol.I want them to succeed man.And not because of merit or because i want to be reborn in the brahma realm i want them to succeed because i want them to be happy.