No_Mind wrote: ↑Mon Jan 21, 2019 4:31 am
How does one get past this paradox?
In my case, when i began acknowledging that i have self view and that my mind is creating a self that is trying to get rid of itself, my focus became more on using the self more skillfully. The mind (or self view) seem to be the social aspect in us and important for our survival in the world. Our survival in the world is necessary for practicing and understanding the Buddha's teaching, hence the practice has nothing to do with the denial of the self, but to understand it and learn how to use it skillfully.
In my opinion, tt should also be acknowledged that the notion of "not self" can be equally used in unskillful ways. I have a history of justifying my own stupidity using "not self". This is why, i try to take ownership of my wrong doings, but at the same time, contemplating the causes of suffering. If it happens that i do something good, i dedicated to the Buddha.
I don't see the teachings of not self as a demand, but rather as a description, a tool we can use to understand the four noble truths. I admit that it becomes a demand every now and then, but things take time, and i personally have appreciation for what i have been taught from other Buddhists both monastics and lay practitioners. Considering how rare are the odds of encountering the Buddha's teachings in my case, i feel quite lucky and no longer see my suffering as aimless if it can bring me one day to wisdom. If i become wise, i hope to give something back. This is one way to think about not self rather than trying to get rid of it. All in my opinion.
And the Blessed One addressed the bhikkhus, saying: "Behold now, bhikkhus, I exhort you: All compounded things are subject to vanish. Strive with earnestness!"
This was the last word of the Tathagata.