You can also see this in the suttas.
In MN 38 the Buddha really admonishes and verbally attacks the monk Sāti, the Fisherman's son, calling him worthless and foolish. When Sati is sad and regretful, the Buddha kicks him while he's already down. All the monk did wrong was misunderstand a teaching.
When this was said, the monk Sāti, the Fisherman's Son, sat silent, abashed, his shoulders drooping, his head down, brooding, at a loss for words.
Then the Blessed One, seeing that the monk Sāti, the Fisherman's Son, was sitting silent, abashed, his shoulders drooping, his head down, brooding, at a loss for words, said to him, "Worthless man, you will be recognized for your own pernicious viewpoint. I will cross-question the monks on this matter."
What terrible behaviour coming from the Buddha, where's the compassion? And yet when a really bad guy like Aṅgulimāla the serial killer tries to murder the Buddha, the Buddha bends over backwards to help him and teaches him all the way to enlightenment.
What is that reinforcing both from the monks and the Buddha, that if no one is helping you maybe make some noise? get aggressive? debate? argue?
Something to think about