Your favorite suttas & dhamma talks on overcoming conflicts

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Hi Friends,

Would you please recommend your favorite suttas and dhamma talks (especially recordings) on overcoming conflicts?

I found the following suttas on this topic:

Positive Response: How to Meet Evil with Good (Buddharakkhita): http://www.accesstoinsight.org/lib/auth ... bl109.html" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;
Snp 4.15: http://www.accesstoinsight.org/tipitaka ... .than.html" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;
Mv 10.2.3-20: http://www.accesstoinsight.org/tipitaka ... .than.html" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;
MN 48: http://www.metta.lk/tipitaka/2Sutta-Pit ... ta-e1.html" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;

Hostility can never be conquered with hostility: Dhp 3
'He insulted me, hit me, beat me, robbed me' — for those who brood on this, hostility isn't stilled. 'He insulted me, hit me, beat me, robbed me' — for those who don't brood on this, hostility is stilled. Hostilities aren't stilled through hostility, regardless. Hostilities are stilled through non-hostility: this, an unending truth. Unlike those who don't realize that we're here on the verge of perishing, those who do: their quarrels are stilled.

The other suttas that might be of help (I haven't gotten time to check yet):
http://www.accesstoinsight.org/index-subject.html#anger" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;:
Anger. See also Conflict; Ill-will (vyapada); Kilesa (defilements); Khanti (patience); Metta (goodwill); Nivarana (hindrances); War.
As the only thing that's good to kill: SN 1.71
What to do if someone is angry with you: SN 7.2, SN 11.4
What to do when ~ arises: Thag 6.12
The best response to ~ (a debate between two deities): SN 11.5
~ can carve into you like an inscription in stone: AN 3.130
~ can never be conquered with more ~: SN 11.4, Dhp 3
"Anger" (Dhammapada XVII)
The dangers of giving in to ~: AN 7.60
The Elimination of Anger (Piyatissa)

I don't know if there're good-quality recordings of these suttas. I need some good Dhamma talks on this topic to listen to while eating and cleaning. Thanks and metta,

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[rucontent]

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Thank you...Thank you ...Thank you!

i have been struggling with this lately. I have a family situation with a sister that we have a cantankerous and vicious past. I am not innocent in some of the verbal altercations we've had. However, with my recent blessing of the dharma I am able to see the futility of arguing. Having said that, I find myself at a loss when she verbally attacks me (mostly in email form because she lives in another country).

I have struggled, because on our own we can work with our anger and thoughts. However we have no control over someone who is essentially spitting venom and looking for an argument.

I had recently asked about this in a different thread.
http://dhammawheel.com/viewtopic.php?f=13&t=12159

I had a great response that referenced Idiot Compassion. I am thoroughly confused about what is wise action in the face of conflict. We certainly can't just walk away from certain events. I haven't gone through all your links but i am looking forward to seeing if i can find some wisdom...

In the case of my sister, anything i say is twisted into something else, psychoanalysis and insults. If i mention my views on the dharma....i am pontificating....if i don't answer......insults.....LOL i have no idea what is the appropriate response.....the one thing I'm glad of is that she has helped me see the previous cycle of anger we used to have,,,,i am not drawn to fight and insult.....but i don't know how to respond now......

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Hello "rucontent" and other friends,

I'd like to recommend a good Dhamma talk by Shaila Catherine on overcoming conflict:

http://www.imsb.org/teachings/audio.php" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;

I'd appreciate if other friends have some related good Dhamma talks to share as well.

As to rucontent's conflict, I think the best way to handle it is right view (non-delusion and non-attachment: all conflicts are just anicca/dukkha/anatta) and right attention/consideration/relection, loving kindness, patience, and calmness, ... and sila.

This link is relevant to this topic:
http://dhammawheel.com/viewtopic.php?f=13&t=11851" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;

Metta to all,

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