If you think it's too soon, don't click on this hastily concocted tribute song.Tex wrote:A shame, indeed.
Metta,
Retro.
If you think it's too soon, don't click on this hastily concocted tribute song.Tex wrote:A shame, indeed.
retrofuturist wrote:Greetings,
If you think it's too soon, don't click on this hastily concocted tribute song.Tex wrote:A shame, indeed.
Metta,
Retro.
Hi adosa,adosa wrote:retrofuturist wrote:Greetings,
If you think it's too soon, don't click on this hastily concocted tribute song.Tex wrote:A shame, indeed.
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Metta,
Retro.
That's two terribly distasteful posts in one thread. What do you say we just let her R.I.P., struggles and all?
adosa
So when a celebrity dies, it generally means no more or less to me than when Mavis three blocks down the road, Ngambie from Namibia, or Michael Jackson dies. People are born every day - people die every day, what could be more fundamentally natural and obvious than that?"Unindicated and unknown is the length of life of those subject to death. Life is difficult and brief and bound up with suffering. There is no means by which those who are born will not die. Having reached old age, there is death. This is the natural course for a living being. With ripe fruits there is the constant danger that they will fall. In the same way, for those born and subject to death, there is always the fear of dying. Just as the pots made by a potter all end by being broken, so death is (the breaking up) of life.
"The young and old, the foolish and the wise, all are stopped short by the power of death, all finally end in death. Of those overcome by death and passing to another world, a father cannot hold back his son, nor relatives a relation. See! While the relatives are looking on and weeping, one by one each mortal is led away like an ox to slaughter.
"In this manner the world is afflicted by death and decay. But the wise do not grieve, having realized the nature of the world. You do not know the path by which they came or departed. Not seeing either end you lament in vain. If any benefit is gained by lamenting, the wise would do it. Only a fool would harm himself. Yet through weeping and sorrowing the mind does not become calm, but still more suffering is produced, the body is harmed and one becomes lean and pale, one merely hurts oneself. One cannot protect a departed one (peta) by that means. To grieve is in vain.
"By not abandoning sorrow a being simply undergoes more suffering. Bewailing the dead he comes under the sway of sorrow. See other men faring according to their deeds! Hence beings tremble here with fear when they come into the power of death. Whatever they imagine, it (turns out) quite different from that. This is the sort of disappointment that exists. Look at the nature of the world! If a man lives for a hundred years, or even more, finally, he is separated from his circle of relatives and gives up his life in the end. Therefore, having listened to the arahant,[1] one should give up lamenting. Seeing a dead body, one should know, "He will not be met by me again." As the fire in a burning house is extinguished with water, so a wise, discriminating, learned and sensible man should quickly drive away the sorrow that arises, as the wind (blows off) a piece of cotton. He who seeks happiness should withdraw the arrow: his own lamentations, longings and grief.
"With the arrow withdrawn, unattached, he would attain to peace of mind; and when all sorrow has been transcended he is sorrow-free and has realized Nibbana.
http://www.what-buddha-taught.net/Books ... n_Chah.htm" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;Birth and Death
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A good practice is to ask yourself very sincerely, "Why was I born?" Ask yourself this question in the morning, in the afternoon, and at night…every day.
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Our birth and death are just one thing. You can’t have one without the other. It’s a little funny to see how at a death people are so tearful and sad, and at a birth how happy and delighted. It’s delusion. I think that if you really want to cry, then it would be better to do so when someone’s born. Cry at the root, for if there were no birth, there would be no death. Can you understand this?
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You’d think that people could appreciate what it would be like to live in a person’s belly. How uncomfortable that would be! Just look at how merely staying in a hut for only one day is already hard to take. You shut all the doors and windows and you’re suffocating already. How would it be to live in a person’s belly for nine months? Yet you want to stick your head right in there, to put your neck in the noose once again.
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Why are we born? We are born so that we will not have to be born again.
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When one does not understand death, life can be very confusing.
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The Buddha told his disciple Ananda to see impermanence, to see death with every breath. We must know death; we must die in order to live. What does that mean? To die is to come to the end of our doubts, all our questions, and just be here with the present reality. You can never die tomorrow; you must die now. Can you do it? If you can do it, you will know the peace of no more questions.
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Death is as close as our breath.
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If you’ve trained properly, you wouldn’t feel frightened when you fall sick, nor be upset when someone dies. When you go into the hospital for treatment, determine in your mind that if you get better, that’s fine, and that if you die, that’s fine, too. I guarantee you that if the doctors told me I had cancer and was going to die in a few months, I’d remind the doctors, "Watch out, because death is coming to get you, too. It’s just a question of who goes first and who goes later." Doctors are not going to cure death or prevent death. Only the Buddha was such a doctor, so why not go ahead and use the Buddha’s medicine?
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If you’re afraid of illness, if you are afraid of death, then you should contemplate where they come from. Where do they come from? They arise from birth. So, don’t be sad when someone dies - it’s just nature, and his suffering in this life is over. If you want to be sad, be sad when people are born: "Oh, no, they’ve come again. They’re going to suffer and die again!"
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The "One Who Knows" clearly knows that all conditioned phenomena are unsubstantial. So this "One Who Knows" does not become happy or sad, for it does not follow changing conditions. To become glad, is to be born; to become dejected, is to die. Having died, we are born again; having been born, we die again. This birth and death from one moment to the next is the endless spinning wheel of samsara.
Hi Retro,retrofuturist wrote: I'm sorry if my approach to death and/or the instruction in the Salla Sutta is distasteful to you two... but I'm not going to change it because it offends your sensibilities.
Metta,
Retro.
Actually, to be honest, if they cared that much, I think they'd have already known. When someone has been dying (or at least been on a downward spiral - either mentally and/or physically) for quite some time, the grief process begins before they die... compared to if it comes completely out of the blue, then it's a complete shock.manasikara wrote: I wonder how someone who cared in any way, shape or form for Amy Winehouse would feel, if they stumbled across especially your earlier post about her having been 'one of the living dead' for some time already before her death...
Yes.plwk wrote:Does every dead person's thread have to end up like this?
Sure, and: "Beings are owners of kamma, heir to kamma, born of kamma, related through kamma, and have kamma as their arbitrator...."thereductor wrote:'The heedful do not die, the heedless are as if already dead'
Retro's comment seemed spot on, esp. from a dhammic perspective.
Has that line been crossed?mikenz66 wrote: However, it seems to me that there is a fine line between the equanimity and acceptance of the Dhamma, and indifference, or, worse, a "S/he deserved it, silly fool..." attitude.
I'm not particularly interested in discussing "lines being crossed" in terms of what people post.thereductor wrote:Has that line been crossed?mikenz66 wrote: However, it seems to me that there is a fine line between the equanimity and acceptance of the Dhamma, and indifference, or, worse, a "S/he deserved it, silly fool..." attitude.