I'm not sure why you believe I need to provide you with an answer to your question. I am speaking of my own personal experience with getting sober. You have to be tired of all the suffering caused by your addiction. That provides all the motivation one needs.binocular wrote: ↑Sat Dec 09, 2017 8:52 pmIf no more analysis of this topic is possible than this, and the problem has to be solved on such an intuitive, non-verbal level, by luck or sheer will, then ... that's horrible, a hopeless prospect.bodom wrote: ↑Sat Dec 09, 2017 8:42 pmNo addict wants to stop using. They just want to be able to use there drug of choice without the consequences that go with it. That is the denial of the addict. That this time will be different. The belief that they will one day be able to use responsibly. This is the great delusion of every addict, that next time will be different. I did this for 20 years. I had to hit my rock bottom. I had to suffer enough before I realized what my life had become and admit that I couldn't live this way anymore. Everyone has there rock bottom. Unfortunately some die before they do. You hit bottom when you stop digging.
Still, you have provided no answer to my question -- How does one want to want to live a life free from the suffering of addiction?
A thought on advice about quitting addictions and bad habits
Re: A thought on advice about quitting addictions and bad habits
Liberation is the inevitable fruit of the path and is bound to blossom forth when there is steady and persistent practice. The only requirements for reaching the final goal are two: to start and to continue. If these requirements are met there is no doubt the goal will be attained. This is the Dhamma, the undeviating law.
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You don't have to provide me with such an answer, but it would be nice if you would.
You speak with great confidence, hence I assume you have an answer to my question (but for some reason refuse to reveal it).
By the time a person gets tired of all the suffering caused by their addiction, it could be too late and their addiction kills them, or at least incapacitates them to the point of no return.I am speaking of my own personal experience with getting sober. You have to be tired of all the suffering caused by your addiction. That provides all the motivation one needs.
Please don't take this the wrong way, but I think what you're suggesting is perfectionist and hopeless (although can be often heard in recovery circles).
I do believe there has to be another way, something more actionable than waiting for enough motivation to accumulate.
Hic Rhodus, hic salta!
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Which seems common-sensical enough. But I find that if one tries to sort out those problems by force (such as quitting a bad habit by force of will), nothing gets accomplished.Sam Vara wrote: ↑Sat Dec 09, 2017 9:05 pmYes, there is also the point that the path might not appear all that appealing to one gripped by addiction. There are some problems that we need to sort out first. My teacher says that we need to alleviate some of the obvious suffering in order to stop flailing around and become stable enough to practice.
I'm not saying this to criticize existing approaches, I'm actually trying to develop an entirely different, fully actionable approach to the problem of overcoming bad habits and addictions.
It is, insofar as there is no notion of "true nature" in Theravada the way there is in some Mahayana teachings.Is Theravada any different in this? Please explain a bit more.Perhaps in a Mahayana view.
There is AN 1.49-52, and this luminosity gets interpreted in different ways.
/.../ This is why the Buddha said that the mind is luminous, stained with defilements that come and go. Taken out of context, this statement might be construed as implying that the mind is inherently awakened. But in context the Buddha is simply saying that the mind, once stained, is not permanently stained. When the conditions for the stains are gone, the mind becomes luminous again. But this luminosity is not an awakened nature. As the Buddha states, this luminous mind can be developed. In the scheme of the four noble truths, if something is to be developed it's not the goal; it's part of the path to the goal. After this luminosity has been developed in the advanced stages of concentration, it's abandoned once it has completed its work in helping to pierce through ignorance.
Thanissaro Bhikkhu: Freedom From Buddha Nature
Hic Rhodus, hic salta!
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Having struggled with addiction and having gotten sober, yes, I can speak with confidence. I have answered your question as to what worked for me from my own experience. I cannot provide anyone else there reason for wanting to get clean. All I know is that I wanted to stop suffering.binocular wrote: You don't have to provide me with such an answer, but it would be nice if you would.
You speak with great confidence, hence I assume you have an answer to my question (but for some reason refuse to reveal it).
Which is why I've been saying from the get go that if one is unable to stop on there own, despite all the negative consequences, one needs medical intervention through detox and rehab.By the time a person gets tired of all the suffering caused by their addiction, it could be too late and their addiction kills them, or at least incapacitates them to the point of no return.
That is your perception. For myself I either got sober or I would die. Bottom line. I chose to get sober. I put the drink and drugs down and I did the work. I didn't make excuses and I didn't need to be coddled (enabled) until I decided I was ready to get clean. I needed to get my ass kicked an say enough is enough. That is my own experience. If you and anyone else can find an easier softer way then great. Whatever works works.don't take this the wrong way, but I think what you're suggesting is perfectionist and hopeless (although can be often heard in recovery circles).I do believe there has to be another way, something more actionable than waiting for enough motivation to accumulate.
Liberation is the inevitable fruit of the path and is bound to blossom forth when there is steady and persistent practice. The only requirements for reaching the final goal are two: to start and to continue. If these requirements are met there is no doubt the goal will be attained. This is the Dhamma, the undeviating law.
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Yes, I was talking more about the issue of ignorance, rather than its absence. It seems to play a similar role in the teachings of the Buddha as sin does in some types of Christianity, in that it is the fundamental besetting condition.binocular wrote: ↑Sat Dec 09, 2017 9:33 pm
It is, insofar as there is no notion of "true nature" in Theravada the way there is in some Mahayana teachings.
There is AN 1.49-52, and this luminosity gets interpreted in different ways.
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Re: A thought on advice about quitting addictions and bad habits
Because they didn't work for you, they aren't intent on helping people? Those are 2 different things entirely...binocular wrote: ↑Sat Dec 09, 2017 8:36 pm
I was once in a SMART recovery group. I had some doubts and questions about their approach; I think they glossed over and took for granted precisely those things that I think would need to be addressed in detail. Their approach didn't seem like it could help me at all. I expressed my concerns. The leader of the group told me that I am not allowed to ask questions about their methodology, and that if I will continue to do so, I will have to leave.
So, frankly, they struck me as yet another clique, not as a group actually intent on helping people.
Seems to be a recurring theme in your posts. Sounds like a lot of things don't work for you because of your doubts and questions, and you find yourself disappointed and sad about it (MBSR, many points on dhamma, ordained people). Sorry to hear that. I hope you find some things that do work for you.
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Some people think that addicts are just normal people who have come under the spell of an addictive substance. I think that this is wrong and that thinking this will not lead to helpful advise for most addicts. Every year there are millions of people who take very addictive drugs in their treatment of disease and physical injury and yet it is a tiny minority of those people who have issues with addiction. Every study that I have read points to the fact that there is something going on (or not going on) in a minority of individuals which is the basis of the emergence of their addiction.
If society was compassionate it would view addiction as a sign that someone needs help with their life view and that the addiction is not the problem but only a sign of the problem.
chownah
If society was compassionate it would view addiction as a sign that someone needs help with their life view and that the addiction is not the problem but only a sign of the problem.
chownah
Re: A thought on advice about quitting addictions and bad habits
Absolutely. Drinking and drugging are but a symptom of much deeper underlying problem. Most notably low dopamine and serotonin levels. Majority of addicts, myself included in the past, self medicate to alleviate depression. There is also the genetic factor.chownah wrote: ↑Sun Dec 10, 2017 2:38 am Some people think that addicts are just normal people who have come under the spell of an addictive substance. I think that this is wrong and that thinking this will not lead to helpful advise for most addicts. Every year there are millions of people who take very addictive drugs in their treatment of disease and physical injury and yet it is a tiny minority of those people who have issues with addiction. Every study that I have read points to the fact that there is something going on (or not going on) in a minority of individuals which is the basis of the emergence of their addiction.
If society was compassionate it would view addiction as a sign that someone needs help with their life view and that the addiction is not the problem but only a sign of the problem.
chownah
Liberation is the inevitable fruit of the path and is bound to blossom forth when there is steady and persistent practice. The only requirements for reaching the final goal are two: to start and to continue. If these requirements are met there is no doubt the goal will be attained. This is the Dhamma, the undeviating law.
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