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What everyone participating in forums should understand

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Greetings Stiphan,

... except that the precursor of the whole Noble Eightfold Path is Right View, not Harmony View.

8-)

Now, obviously I'm being a little cheeky there, but when non-comforming views are suppressed, any harmony that arrives from that pressure to conform, is truly superficial, restrictive and unstable. (Unless someone goes to the effort of establishing a community as a cult... the manipulation and authoritarianism used in such communities is designed to offset that instability)

There's something to be said for the ability to tolerate diverse viewpoints, because if we can't cope with other people's views, then a fragile peace can only be obtained, when isolated from the world. (One of the Western Thai Forest monks used to recount stories of the ilk, from his early days... from memory I think it may have been Ajahn Sumedho).

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except that the precursor of the whole Noble Eightfold Path is Right View, not Harmony View.
Agree.
We should be able to discuss what is right and wrong without compromising the harmony.
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retrofuturist wrote: Thu Dec 07, 2017 9:05 pm Greetings Stiphan,

... except that the precursor of the whole Noble Eightfold Path is Right View, not Harmony View.

That is not entirely right :tongue: . The idea of samma being translated as harmonious pops up here and there as an alternative translation, with some support from the dictionary:

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In any event, I don't see why being right and being harmonious are mutually exclusive.

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Greetings Polarbear101,
polarbear101 wrote: Thu Dec 07, 2017 11:40 pm In any event, I don't see why being right and being harmonious are mutually exclusive.
Like you, and Sarath above... I agree entirely.

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polarbear101 wrote: Thu Dec 07, 2017 11:40 pm ...I don't see why being right and being harmonious are mutually exclusive.
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Yeah, being wrong and harmonious is the tough one. ;)
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JohnK wrote: Fri Dec 08, 2017 12:36 am
Yeah, being wrong and harmonious is the tough one. ;)
:rofl: Here in the UK we're used to seeing it, John: we had Tony Blair as Prime Minister.
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Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it is time to reform (or pause and reflect).

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Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it is time to reform
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This is how forums should be?:

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Recently, I asked a Buddhist friend (who's also looking to ordain) whether he knew of Dhamma Wheel. When he asked what's that and I explained it's a forum, he said he doesn't participate in forums because there's just too much arguing going around there and he already gets a lot of that at home.

I guess what Ajahn Brahm is trying to say is that harmony between people, peace and love are much more important than trying to prove that your opinion alone is true by means of arguing. It's true that people are very argumentative on forums in general and not loving enough, which can cause even pain to some. But it doesn't mean you shouldn't state your opinion, or disagree with others, but just do it in a kind and courteous manner without hurting others' feelings through the way you are saying it.

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“‘Whereas some ascetics and Brahmins remain addicted to disputation such as: ‘You don’t understand this doctrine and discipline - I do!’ ‘How could you understand this doctrine and discipline?’ ‘Your way is all wrong — mine is right!’ ‘I am consistent - you aren’t!’ ‘You said last what you should have said first, and you said first what you should have said last!’ ‘What you took so long to think up has been refuted!’ ‘Your argument has been overthrown, you’re defeated!’ ‘Go on, save your doctrine — get out of that if you can!’ the ascetic Gotama refrains from such disputation."
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JohnK wrote: Fri Dec 08, 2017 12:36 am Yeah, being wrong and harmonious is the tough one. ;)
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Stiphan wrote: Fri Dec 08, 2017 6:37 am Recently, I asked a Buddhist friend (who's also looking to ordain) whether he knew of Dhamma Wheel. When he asked what's that and I explained it's a forum, he said he doesn't participate in forums because there's just too much arguing going around there and he already gets a lot of that at home.

I guess what Ajahn Brahm is trying to say is that harmony between people, peace and love are much more important than trying to prove that your opinion alone is true by means of arguing. It's true that people are very argumentative on forums in general and not loving enough, which can cause even pain to some. But it doesn't mean you shouldn't state your opinion, or disagree with others, but just do it in a kind and courteous manner without hurting others' feelings through the way you are saying it.

DN 1:

“‘Whereas some ascetics and Brahmins remain addicted to disputation such as: ‘You don’t understand this doctrine and discipline - I do!’ ‘How could you understand this doctrine and discipline?’ ‘Your way is all wrong — mine is right!’ ‘I am consistent - you aren’t!’ ‘You said last what you should have said first, and you said first what you should have said last!’ ‘What you took so long to think up has been refuted!’ ‘Your argument has been overthrown, you’re defeated!’ ‘Go on, save your doctrine — get out of that if you can!’ the ascetic Gotama refrains from such disputation."
Agreed. I think there should be a limit on how many times someone can post in the News forum per day/week/month etc :tongue:
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chownah wrote: Fri Dec 08, 2017 3:20 am This is how forums should be?:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W3XNmHe4AQw
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I guess a forum could have harmony like that....but....is it the only way that a forum could have harmony?.....maybe there is another way....


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Stiphan wrote: Fri Dec 08, 2017 6:37 amI guess what Ajahn Brahm is trying to say is that harmony between people, peace and love are much more important than trying to prove that your opinion alone is true by means of arguing.

Was he talking about online forums?

What you're quoting from him applies well to ordinary day-to-day situations. But online discussion forums which are devoted to discussion are a quite different environment, and different principles apply.
It's true that people are very argumentative on forums in general and not loving enough, which can cause even pain to some.

But it doesn't mean you shouldn't state your opinion, or disagree with others, but just do it in a kind and courteous manner without hurting others' feelings through the way you are saying it.
That's missing the purpose of online discussion forums. Generally, online discussion forums are _not_ meant to be like families, or like communities, but are highly specific environments dedicated to discussion, not to living together. As far as online discussion forums go, the living together is incidental, secondary, not essential.
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