I support your decision 100% and the best of luck to you. Just do it.oncereturner wrote: ↑Wed Mar 28, 2018 12:02 amI agree, despite my determination, and all willpower, I drank a lot of beer. Quite remember how many. I can't even tell why, it happened. It's obvious, that I shouldn't drink a drop of beer rest of my life. One drink, and everything starts again. It's impossible to do it on my own, just like the doctor and Bodom said. It's a disease, doctor said the same as Bodom, he didn't see anyone to do it on his own. I've already informed my boss that I have to go to "medical examination ". I don't like to go into futile discussions, whether it's a disease or not, it is. I want to regain my health, I will do my best to get into rehab. There's no option, no choice, however I like my job, but health is foremost. It's not my job to manage work, boss will do this. It's very likely I will not lose my job, because I'm considered as a good workforce, they need me. I'd like to recover and do my job as a healthy person, and of course I don't want to die. I guess they don't want it too. It's not about keeping precepts, it's about life or death. Managers still don't know what is coming, but again if they want they can rearrange workforce, as it's a big company. Everyone can suffer from health issues. By the way, they are responsible ruining my life, burdening me with impossible deadlines and stress. And additcion ran out of my control.bodom wrote: ↑Tue Mar 27, 2018 5:11 pm Those of us in recovery from alcohol have a saying. Once a cucumber becomes a pickle, it can no longer go back to being a cucumber.We have pickled ourselves. There's no going back.
I am an alcoholic and have long term sobriety free from from alcohol. I work with others who are struggling and on the verge of death due to there alcoholism. In my experience I tried over and over and over, for many years, to drink like a normal person. It never happened for me. It never happened for the people I have worked with. It never happened for those who have already drunk themselves to death. I have never seen it done.
If an alcoholic wishes to be free from alcohol for good, such as oncereturner has said, over and over on this thread, then to tell him that it would be OK to return to drinking after a period of time is almost certainly signing his death warrant.
If one wants to give advice then give advice on complete abstinence. That is what is being sought by oncereturner, not how he may be able to drink again in the future .
I will go to addiction specialist, it's the most important now, to get help at rehab.
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Thank you. It's officially labelled as a disease, called alcohol use disorder (AUD), here in Europe it's also considered as an illness. In my experience, it's one of the worst addictions.No_Mind wrote: ↑Wed Mar 28, 2018 1:41 amMy error. I did not know the disease theory of addiction was taken so seriously in the West. I thought it is taken as a basis but human free will is not totally done away with.bodom wrote: ↑Tue Mar 27, 2018 7:43 pmHi no-mind.No_Mind wrote:Alcoholism is not a disease and alcoholic can return to social drinking.
I should have written "In my experience alcoholism is not a disease and alcoholic can return to social drinking."
That does not warranty that the whole 350 word post be deleted. Those words could have been added or that line deleted.
Telling an alcoholic seeking help from alcohol that they can someday return to normal drinking is very dangerous advice. And at the least it is encouraging someone to break the fifth precept. Unacceptable on a Buddhist forum.
I do not know if I can make you understand but anyone saying that here (India) is going to get one hard slap from parents, spouse or friends. It is a cultural difference.
I wish oncereturner all the luck. I hope he becomes sober soon and has a long, alcohol free life.
My apologies for this line. It was written in haste and anger. Not desirable qualities when conversing on a Dhamma forum.At times moderators can be unusually daft.
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Sometimes, a third party is less problematic than a first party. Trusting others is necessary when one doesn't have the skills or knowledge to sort things out for oneself, and is often a very uplifting and wholesome experience.
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Then may it be more so in future.
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Except alcoholism, craving run rampant, is perfectly inline with paticcasamupaddha. I am one of the few alcoholics that does not necessarily hold the view that alcoholism is a disease. I don't know if it is or not. I prefer to look at it as dis-ease. All I know is that if I pick up a drink I'm screwed and I will not stop. So it is better to never pick up the first drink. That's enough for me.binocular wrote:In the context of Buddhism, there is also no reason to think that alcoholism is somehow one of those things that are not impermanent; or that when it comes to alcoholism and depression, we must forget about Buddhism and unquestioningly subscribe to the currently popular notions about these things.
Liberation is the inevitable fruit of the path and is bound to blossom forth when there is steady and persistent practice. The only requirements for reaching the final goal are two: to start and to continue. If these requirements are met there is no doubt the goal will be attained. This is the Dhamma, the undeviating law.
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Whether alcoholism is a disease or not is really not the point. It is what is and is not skillful to say to those struggling with what could broadly be called an addiction or substance abuse problem, and what is and is not right speech from a Buddhist perspective. This isn't a geographic or cultural thing.
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dharmacorps wrote: ↑Wed Mar 28, 2018 6:12 pm Whether alcoholism is a disease or not is really not the point. It is what is and is not skillful to say to those struggling with what could broadly be called an addiction or substance abuse problem, and what is and is not right speech from a Buddhist perspective. This isn't a geographic or cultural thing.
Liberation is the inevitable fruit of the path and is bound to blossom forth when there is steady and persistent practice. The only requirements for reaching the final goal are two: to start and to continue. If these requirements are met there is no doubt the goal will be attained. This is the Dhamma, the undeviating law.
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Definition says that if you can't stop at free will, then its a disease. However it's a discussion in vain, because we both know it's about life of death. Craving, craving... neverending.. until death. I'm in the following situation, every conditions are present:bodom wrote: ↑Wed Mar 28, 2018 2:48 pmExcept alcoholism, craving run rampant, is perfectly inline with paticcasamupaddha. I am one of the few alcoholics that does not necessarily hold the view that alcoholism is a disease. I don't know if it is or not. I prefer to look at it as dis-ease. All I know is that if I pick up a drink I'm screwed and I will not stop. So it is better to never pick up the first drink. That's enough for me.binocular wrote:In the context of Buddhism, there is also no reason to think that alcoholism is somehow one of those things that are not impermanent; or that when it comes to alcoholism and depression, we must forget about Buddhism and unquestioningly subscribe to the currently popular notions about these things.
"In a medical context, alcoholism is said to exist when two or more of the following conditions is present: a person drinks large amounts over a long time period, has difficulty cutting down, acquiring and drinking alcohol takes up a great deal of time, alcohol is strongly desired, usage results in not fulfilling responsibilities, usage results in social problems, usage results in health problems, usage results in risky situations, withdrawal occurs when stopping, and alcohol tolerance has occurred with use."
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Yes get professional help. Also try and meditate everyday if possible. This will train your mind to just observe the craving arise and pass away without acting on it.
You may only be able to observe the craving for a minute or two to start with, but that's OK. The more you meditate the stronger your mental discipline becomes.
You may only be able to observe the craving for a minute or two to start with, but that's OK. The more you meditate the stronger your mental discipline becomes.
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It doesn't work, Bodom was right, it's like a runaway train, absolute madness, no way to stop this. Only hope is rehab now. I'm about to lose my job, but health is foremost.one_awakening wrote: ↑Thu Mar 29, 2018 3:03 am Yes get professional help. Also try and meditate everyday if possible. This will train your mind to just observe the craving arise and pass away without acting on it.
You may only be able to observe the craving for a minute or two to start with, but that's OK. The more you meditate the stronger your mental discipline becomes.
My body is trembling, my head explodes, I feel pain everywhere.
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Yes you absolutely will need medical intervention in order to stop drinking if it has gotten to this point. Have you spoken with any detox facilities yet?oncereturner wrote: ↑Mon Apr 02, 2018 10:09 pmIt doesn't work, Bodom was right, it's like a runaway train, absolute madness, no way to stop this. Only hope is rehab now. I'm about to lose my job, but health is foremost.one_awakening wrote: ↑Thu Mar 29, 2018 3:03 am Yes get professional help. Also try and meditate everyday if possible. This will train your mind to just observe the craving arise and pass away without acting on it.
You may only be able to observe the craving for a minute or two to start with, but that's OK. The more you meditate the stronger your mental discipline becomes.
My body is trembling, my head explodes, I feel pain everywhere.
Liberation is the inevitable fruit of the path and is bound to blossom forth when there is steady and persistent practice. The only requirements for reaching the final goal are two: to start and to continue. If these requirements are met there is no doubt the goal will be attained. This is the Dhamma, the undeviating law.
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Yes, I agree. Next week I have an appointment in the rehab facility for an interview. Basically there's no real detox in this country.bodom wrote: ↑Mon Apr 02, 2018 10:26 pmYes you absolutely will need medical intervention in order to stop drinking if it has gotten to this point. Have you spoken with any detox facilities yet?oncereturner wrote: ↑Mon Apr 02, 2018 10:09 pmIt doesn't work, Bodom was right, it's like a runaway train, absolute madness, no way to stop this. Only hope is rehab now. I'm about to lose my job, but health is foremost.one_awakening wrote: ↑Thu Mar 29, 2018 3:03 am Yes get professional help. Also try and meditate everyday if possible. This will train your mind to just observe the craving arise and pass away without acting on it.
You may only be able to observe the craving for a minute or two to start with, but that's OK. The more you meditate the stronger your mental discipline becomes.
My body is trembling, my head explodes, I feel pain everywhere.
In the meantime I'm sober for 35 hours, at the moment I'm better.
I have a dilemma. If I go to rehab for 1-2 months, my boss told me that I will lose my job, and it's serious. It's a stressful job. It means joblessness and financial problems. I don't know what to do. And suggestions?
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Do you have any friends/family who can help you in case you end up without a job??
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No, I have have to find for another job on my own, which is not easy.
I hate this job (a Buddhist shouldn't say this, but lying is unwholesome too). It's hard to explain, this company is like a maffia, and I feel a sinner for working for these people. If I continue with this job, it's guaranteed alcoholism, and feeling of anger. They force people to buy unwanted stuff, you know telemarketing, and all we get back that we are like rats, a criminal gang. I feel it's true. I can't practice dhamma in these circumstances.
"And what is right speech? Abstaining from lying, from divisive speech, from abusive speech, & from idle chatter: This is called right speech."
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