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how to meet buddhist singles

Post by Sovatthika » Mon Nov 06, 2017 10:58 pm

now that i've essentially given up on hookups, according to my recent post, but i'm not committed to full celibacy and i don't know what i could have in common enough with any puthujjanas to start dating them i wondered if there was anything like a buddhist dating site. i didn't actually really wonder that more of a joke but btw is there anything like that
anyway this thread is supposed to be a joke but also there could be a good discussion here
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Re: how to meet buddhist singles

Post by Garrib » Mon Nov 06, 2017 11:05 pm

Sovatthika wrote:
Mon Nov 06, 2017 10:58 pm
now that i've essentially given up on hookups, according to my recent post, but i'm not committed to full celibacy and i don't know what i could have in common enough with any puthujjanas to start dating them i wondered if there was anything like a buddhist dating site. i didn't actually really wonder that more of a joke but btw is there anything like that
anyway this thread is supposed to be a joke but also there could be a good discussion here
I think people sometimes meet at meditation groups - but you probably shouldn't go there with that kind of single minded purpose...but there are people out there around your age in the same boat (obviously).

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Post by SarathW » Tue Nov 07, 2017 9:24 am

but btw is there anything like that
anyway this thread is supposed to be a joke
I think this is a great idea to attract more members.
Perhaps we should have a separate sub-index for singles to mingle.
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Re: how to meet buddhist singles

Post by chownah » Tue Nov 07, 2017 11:50 am

Lots of single buddhists in thailand....hard to meet a single who is not buddhist. In thailand the christians are wondering how to meet single christians.
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Post by SarathW » Wed Nov 08, 2017 4:02 am

There are lot of single Buddhist in Sri Lanka too.
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Post by Alexander____ » Wed Nov 08, 2017 5:22 pm

Just use a dating website and filter by religion or search for keyword Buddhist. As long as you're in a large enough city there is almost definitely other meditators/Buddhists about.

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Post by binocular » Wed Nov 08, 2017 6:48 pm

Singles, shingles ...

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Post by LG2V » Wed Nov 08, 2017 6:56 pm

You'll likely be able to find some Buddhist singles here: https://www.meetmindful.com/
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Post by dharmacorps » Thu Nov 09, 2017 12:55 am

I don't see anything wrong with match.com even. Its got a ton of people on there, I am sure you can specify your religious interests there. I met my wife there :)

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Post by _anicca_ » Thu Nov 09, 2017 5:49 am

Whenever you feel lonely, just meditate to end that desire!

Also, I would not hunt for relationships. In my experience, any relationship that I have forced ultimately crumbles. Desire has no use.

My most succesful romantic relationships happened out of spontaneity!
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Post by ryanM » Thu Nov 09, 2017 9:31 pm

Sovatthika wrote:
Mon Nov 06, 2017 10:58 pm
i don't know what i could have in common enough with any puthujjanas
Kindness?
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Re: how to meet buddhist singles

Post by manas » Mon Nov 13, 2017 12:31 am

Try walking in the opposite direction: practice celibacy in body and mind, and women seem to come to YOU. It sucks but this is how it happened for me, the last two times.
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Post by SarathW » Mon Nov 13, 2017 2:51 am

Try walking in the opposite direction: practice celibacy in body and mind, and women seem to come to YOU.
This is my experience too.
This is all Mara's trick I suppose.
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Post by Sovatthika » Mon Nov 13, 2017 5:40 am

if i'm going to be rid of lust then it has to be done the right way
currently i am not ready just to let it go i don't think but aspects of it i really detest
aspects of it are extremely stressful
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Re: how to meet buddhist singles

Post by mikenz66 » Mon Nov 13, 2017 7:39 am

manas wrote:
Mon Nov 13, 2017 12:31 am
Try walking in the opposite direction: practice celibacy in body and mind, and women seem to come to YOU. It sucks but this is how it happened for me, the last two times.
In a similar vein, when I first started going to a Thai Wat, I already had a Thai girlfriend, but she was in another country. I went to learn more about Thai culture and language, but got sucked into the Dhamma... :buddha2:

The fact that I was interested in Dhamma, didn't smoke, drink, etc, and wasn't hitting on anyone (since I had a remote relationship) was then quite a powerful magnet...

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Post by SarathW » Mon Nov 13, 2017 7:55 am

but got sucked into the Dhamma... :buddha2:
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Re: how to meet buddhist singles

Post by ieee23 » Tue Nov 14, 2017 4:49 pm

Sovatthika wrote:
Mon Nov 06, 2017 10:58 pm
now that i've essentially given up on hookups, according to my recent post, but i'm not committed to full celibacy and i don't know what i could have in common enough with any puthujjanas to start dating them i wondered if there was anything like a buddhist dating site. i didn't actually really wonder that more of a joke but btw is there anything like that
anyway this thread is supposed to be a joke but also there could be a good discussion here
Volunteer at your local temple. A lot. Get as involved in the place as you can.
Whatever a bhikkhu frequently thinks and ponders upon, that will become the inclination of his mind. - MN 19

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Re: how to meet buddhist singles

Post by binocular » Tue Nov 14, 2017 7:00 pm

mikenz66 wrote:
Mon Nov 13, 2017 7:39 am
In a similar vein, when I first started going to a Thai Wat, I already had a Thai girlfriend, but she was in another country. I went to learn more about Thai culture and language /.../
That explains a lot then! Up until learning this, I've always felt shitty when you'd say how you went to your local temple and just felt good there, while I can't even imagine feeling good there. Well, you had motivations for going there other than the Dhamma, and I don't have such motivations.
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Re: how to meet buddhist singles

Post by mikenz66 » Tue Nov 14, 2017 7:15 pm

binocular wrote:
Tue Nov 14, 2017 7:00 pm
Up until learning this, I've always felt shitty when you'd say how you went to your local temple and just felt good there, while I can't even imagine feeling good there. Well, you had motivations for going there other than the Dhamma, and I don't have such motivations.
I had various motivations for going there. The first time the main motivation was that I was going through a rather difficult time.

My motivations changed with time, and the Dhamma motivation is certainly the most important one at this point.

I'm sorry that you don't feel good when visiting temples. Clearly different people have different experiences, preferences, and motivations.

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Re: how to meet buddhist singles

Post by mikenz66 » Tue Nov 14, 2017 7:16 pm

ieee23 wrote:
Tue Nov 14, 2017 4:49 pm
Volunteer at your local temple. A lot. Get as involved in the place as you can.
That's good general advice for all aspects of life...

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