James the Giant wrote:My friend persuaded me to try her kind of Buddhism, Nichiren Buddhism, for a few months.
I could tell her the reasons I don't like it, but I feel that would be rude to her, as they are quite serious and fairly insulting reasons, from her perspective anyway.
(To describe the reasons here would definitely be sect-bashing and against the terms of service of any good Buddhist forum.)
One possibility would be to focus the discussion on practices rather than beliefs. That is, rather than getting into a fight over true Dharma and the Lotus Sutra, you could say, for instance, that you prefer meditation to chanting, or that Vipassana has helped you reduce your suffering and you want to stick with the prescription offered by good old Dr. Gautama. When you raised this topic on e-sangha awhile back, I seem to remember you saying that Nichiren chanting made you depressed.
You could say the Buddha taught different methods to people with different capacities and the dharma door of daimoku isn't the one for you.
If you start arguing over beliefs, she's just going to defend her position and get angry with you. It's basic human nature. You're never going to persuade her on doctrinal grounds, as there are thousands of pages of Mahayana scripture (including many passages in the Lotus Sutra) intended to counter such challenges.
If Nichiren doesn't do it for you, then it doesn't do it for you. And if she really needs it to do it for you, then maybe your friendship faces some constraints.