I feel unfairly attacked.
A true Buddhist will feel compassion with me and will want to keep suffering from me and, so I hope I have everybody's attention for this:
The irony of this debate is, that I get attacked for something I didn't even say.
I am getting attacked with something that was taken out of context and thus distorted.
Violence against others can have many faces.
Sometimes it's rape, and sometimes, it's distorting of what others said.
It's always violence, however subtle, but don't blame me.
We are practising Buddhists and I am appealing to all of you now, to give me the courtesy of right speech, and the good will to acknowledge what I really said, before a sentence was singled out and used to give this thread another focus, away from a rape victim that we are mourning, towards a question that should be agreed upon in any discussion amongst intelligently debating Buddhists:
We don't generalize and so we don't see all men as rapists. That is agreed upon as a minimum level of discussion, as a self understood reality.
We all know it, -so let's calm down and get over this now and proceed on a higher level, I honestly wouldn't even react if some guy said that some women killed their newborn infants, -what's this got to do with me? I won't put on shoes that don't fit.
And to insinuate that any of our members, me in this case, is on such a low level of thinking as to generalize is not kind, it is offensive, I hope you understand I do not accept this gift in form of an insult, it stays with you.
Here is my original post and please give me the kindness and good will to see what I really wrote in context:
Seriously, I too am afraid.
Know the nature of the beast....that's all I say.
If you know, that some men are willing and able to rape, and that they don't only live in big cities, then you better know the deal.
After the horse ran away it's too late to lock the stable, caution is the mother of the procellain box.
You don't want an elefant trampling around in your temple, would you?
So make sure he can't get in.
I escaped 2 attempted rapes, each time I was in mortal fear, each time I was saved by incredibly fortunate circumstances, but the unspeakable shock I went though has marked me.
I've become even more cautious since.
The Buddha said: "What do you expect?"
Expect the nature of man and better be cautious.
What is wrong with it when parents teach their daughters caution of a man's strength and sexdrive?
What is wrong with being stronger and having a sex drive?
There would be something wrong with denying certain unpleasant facets of reality, however, and there would be something wrong with taking things personally that are generally spoken.