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by Buckwheat
Sat Oct 25, 2014 3:53 am
Forum: Sīla
Topic: watching porn can be adultery?
Replies: 78
Views: 10986

Re: watching porn can be adultery?

I was watching a movie a while ago and the love scene pretty much turned into pornography... I did not masturbate.

Also, even more to the point, last night I clicked over to site with nude ladies, but after a few minutes I realized that I did not need to be doing that and left without masturbating.
by Buckwheat
Sat Oct 25, 2014 3:45 am
Forum: Shrine Room
Topic: A request for metta for Stephen K
Replies: 25
Views: 4126

Re: A request for metta for Stephen K

alan wrote:If Stephen is so poor, how can he afford time on a computer?
The OP did not say Stephen is poor. It said he is in a dark place. I don't know exactly what that means, but he has proven himself to be kind and caring. He deserves our best wishes.
by Buckwheat
Fri Oct 24, 2014 1:44 pm
Forum: Shrine Room
Topic: A request for metta for Stephen K
Replies: 25
Views: 4126

Re: A request for metta for Stephen K

I hope Stephen is feeling a little better...
by Buckwheat
Fri Oct 24, 2014 1:12 pm
Forum: Vipassanā / Satipaṭṭhāna Bhāvana
Topic: Mindfulness
Replies: 3
Views: 972

Re: Mindfulness

If you are having difficulty knowing your breath (as I often do) then you will probably have difficulty with the others as well. But the breath is the easiest to know if you are doing it right, to build some confidence, and to calm many of the really course bad habits so that you will have the clari...
by Buckwheat
Mon Oct 20, 2014 10:06 pm
Forum: Shrine Room
Topic: A request for metta for Stephen K
Replies: 25
Views: 4126

Re: A request for metta for Stephen K

:console:
by Buckwheat
Wed Oct 15, 2014 3:33 am
Forum: Connections to Other Paths
Topic: Revealing a cheating spouse: Wrong Speech?
Replies: 37
Views: 2296

Re: Revealing a cheating spouse: Wrong Speech?

I thought about this more, and this is the honest truth, but it is not based on morality. It is based on my personality and what I would likely do based on my own predispositions to avoid conflict yet to be supportive... If I am closer friends with the cheater, I would keep the secret and council hi...
by Buckwheat
Wed Sep 17, 2014 3:21 am
Forum: Connections to Other Paths
Topic: Revealing a cheating spouse: Wrong Speech?
Replies: 37
Views: 2296

Re: Revealing a cheating spouse: Wrong Speech?

If possible, I would convince the adulterer to confess their own crimes. Hearing from a third party evokes so many more confusing emotions. Denial and anger grow stronger. Also, they have time to grow more angry without the cheater having the chance to apologize. Of course, I realize this approach i...
by Buckwheat
Fri Sep 12, 2014 3:31 pm
Forum: General Theravāda Meditation
Topic: Giving up....
Replies: 81
Views: 6568

Re: Giving up....

Try sitting at a different time of day...? in the morning I either fall asleep or ruminate, but in the evening I sit with some success.

May you find the path that works for you :anjali:
by Buckwheat
Wed Sep 03, 2014 2:33 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Word Association Game
Replies: 11959
Views: 611028

Re: Word Association Game

Flip-flops (sandals)
by Buckwheat
Sat Jan 18, 2014 3:09 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Spaced out...
Replies: 7
Views: 587

Re: Spaced out...

Wow.
by Buckwheat
Sat Jan 18, 2014 2:58 pm
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Introduction
Replies: 8
Views: 701

Re: Introduction

:hello:
by Buckwheat
Sat Jan 18, 2014 2:57 pm
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Hello from New Jersey
Replies: 8
Views: 644

Re: Hello from New Jersey

:hello:
by Buckwheat
Sat Jan 18, 2014 2:26 pm
Forum: Announcements
Topic: Daverupa ~ global moderator!
Replies: 14
Views: 3150

Re: Daverupa ~ global moderator!

Thanks for taking on this task, Dave.
by Buckwheat
Sat Jan 18, 2014 2:20 pm
Forum: Announcements
Topic: Thanks for everything Ben!
Replies: 24
Views: 9116

Re: Thanks for everything Ben!

Thanks, Ben! Looks like a pretty awesome gig.
by Buckwheat
Thu Jan 02, 2014 7:19 am
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Cannabis goes on legal sale in US state of Colorado
Replies: 13
Views: 969

Re: Cannabis goes on legal sale in US state of Colorado

It is not actually legal. It is still against federal law to buy / sell / possess marijuana in Colorado. The feds claim they are not going to fight the Colorado law, but they said the same thing about medical marijuana. There have been major crack downs when the feds are jonesing for a fix.
by Buckwheat
Thu Jan 02, 2014 7:01 am
Forum: Ordination and Monastic Life
Topic: Metta or Abhayagiri monastery?
Replies: 36
Views: 2421

Re: Metta or Abhayagiri monastery?

You have to pay for pretty much everything before you become a novice, if that's what you mean. As a resident, you only follow the 8 precepts — not 10. When you're a novice, you follow the 10 so there's no way to pay off anything. So before you become a novice, all debts must be payed off. I almost...
by Buckwheat
Thu Jan 02, 2014 6:44 am
Forum: Ordination and Monastic Life
Topic: Metta or Abhayagiri monastery?
Replies: 36
Views: 2421

Re: Metta or Abhayagiri monastery?

You really need to visit both monasteries for about 1 week each and discuss the matter with monks at the monastery. The monasteries don't accept online application or anything like that. You will have to get to know them and they will have to get to know you to make sure everybody is a good fit for ...
by Buckwheat
Sun Dec 29, 2013 8:41 am
Forum: General Theravāda Meditation
Topic: Choosing to be unmindful
Replies: 7
Views: 960

Re: Choosing to be unmindful

Do you just designate times to be mindful? Yes. Right now. Don't be too hard on yourself if mindfulness is inconsistent. Just do the best you can. With more practice, you can easily make this question a moot point. Once you see the depth of benefits from mindfulness, you will probably lose the desi...
by Buckwheat
Fri Dec 27, 2013 7:06 pm
Forum: General Theravāda Meditation
Topic: Choosing to be unmindful
Replies: 7
Views: 960

Re: Choosing to be unmindful

Less wholesome than mindfulness... less harmful than a heroine bender.