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by Lazy_eye
Tue Apr 19, 2016 3:41 pm
Forum: General Theravāda Meditation
Topic: Attachment to family
Replies: 32
Views: 5608

Re: Attachment to family

I think that some may be misunderstanding metta. Metta allows one to be more caring for their family members as it's caring without expecting anything in return from the other party. Good will without any expectations. Wishing the best for others, regardless of how they are acting in the present. W...
by Lazy_eye
Tue Apr 19, 2016 1:07 pm
Forum: General Theravāda Meditation
Topic: Attachment to family
Replies: 32
Views: 5608

Re: Attachment to family

I honestly don't think children or spouses will miss any lack of affection if you practice loving-kindness (metta). Bhante, I think that they will. The parent and/or spouse who behaves this way will be perceived as disengaged, and family/marital life will suffer. Affection is the necessary "glue." ...
by Lazy_eye
Mon Apr 18, 2016 10:20 pm
Forum: General Theravāda Meditation
Topic: Attachment to family
Replies: 32
Views: 5608

Re: Attachment to family

Loving-kindness (metta) and compassion (karuṇā) are wholesome dhammas — affection (pema) is an unwholesome dhamma. To distinguish the two, develop insight. There is a whole chapter of the Dhammapada about Affection (Piyavaggo) Just a quick note -- it's been my experience (and I believe this is born...
by Lazy_eye
Wed Apr 06, 2016 4:11 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: the great rebirth debate
Replies: 6109
Views: 515510

Re: Poll: Belief in rebirth

Dear Dhammacoustic, It seems like we're all more or less in agreement here, then. :) Thank you for clarifying your point. The only thing I might add is that it does matter to Elizabeth whether or not John suffers a consequence -- because we've evolved in a way that causes us to place a strong value ...
by Lazy_eye
Wed Apr 06, 2016 3:10 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: the great rebirth debate
Replies: 6109
Views: 515510

Re: Poll: Belief in rebirth

Lazy_eye Extending it to the natural world seems, to me, like a category error. If John steals Elizabeth's car and neither returns it nor suffers any consequences for the theft, then I would say there is an injustice. If a cat eats another cat's food, this is not injustice -- just observable behavi...
by Lazy_eye
Wed Apr 06, 2016 12:55 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: the great rebirth debate
Replies: 6109
Views: 515510

Re: Poll: Belief in rebirth

it belongs to one's subjective mental world of ideas, so, for any type of justice to be brought into existence, you have impose it on the natural world. I don't quite follow you. Why shouldn't we just impose it on those domains where it is applicable -- i.e. human society? Extending it to the natur...
by Lazy_eye
Tue Apr 05, 2016 11:28 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: the great rebirth debate
Replies: 6109
Views: 515510

Re: Poll: Belief in rebirth

The only hope we may have of addressing the question is through the philosophy of mind and science. If it can be demonstrated that mental phenomena depend on brain states, or are independent of them, then we might be able to address the question of post mortem existence. Until then it seems that ei...
by Lazy_eye
Tue Apr 05, 2016 7:21 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: the great rebirth debate
Replies: 6109
Views: 515510

Re: Poll: Belief in rebirth

There seems to be a false dichotomy here. It's not the case that someone either believes in rebirth, or totally disbelieves it. There is the third option of remaining skeptical, in the sense of withholding assent to any non-evident propositions. I don't see it really as a matter of making a dichoto...
by Lazy_eye
Tue Apr 05, 2016 2:40 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Poll: Belief in rebirth
Replies: 143
Views: 17116

Re: Poll: Belief in rebirth

I used to be quite a convinced christian before. The reason why I moved away from christianity was the fact that there can be no justice in that system of belief. The only way justice can exist is if rebirth is real. But you want justice to be something that is inherent in the universe, right? You'...
by Lazy_eye
Tue Apr 05, 2016 1:41 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: the great rebirth debate
Replies: 6109
Views: 515510

Re: Poll: Belief in rebirth

If one does not believe in rebirth and karma, then one does not believe in justice. If one does not believe in some form of justice, then he does not believe in the notions of good/skillful an bad/unskillful actions. That sounds like a version of the argument one hears from various religions: "if y...
by Lazy_eye
Tue Apr 05, 2016 1:18 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: the great rebirth debate
Replies: 6109
Views: 515510

Re: Poll: Belief in rebirth

cappuccino wrote:Lack of trust in the dhamma.
But what is your reason for taking up the Dhamma in the first place? is it based on the premise that rebirth happens?

In that case, we have a circular argument: "one should believe in rebirth because otherwise one will never escape rebirth."
by Lazy_eye
Mon Apr 04, 2016 3:44 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Poll: Belief in rebirth
Replies: 143
Views: 17116

Re: Poll: Belief in rebirth

I really have no idea. I don't see any good reason why it would happen (and countless discussions here and elsewhere haven't shown me any compelling basis for belief), but that doesn't necessarily mean it's not true. We still lack a definitive explanation of why and how consciousness arises, so the ...
by Lazy_eye
Sat Apr 02, 2016 8:21 pm
Forum: Connections to Other Paths
Topic: In your view, understanding, Parinibbana is:
Replies: 149
Views: 14396

Re: In your view, understanding, Parinibbana is:

Hello friends -- haven't posted in awhile...just wanted to offer a small observation, which is that when we ask "what happens at parinibbana," what we're usually asking is "what happens to consciousness?" That might not be true for everyone, but I suspect it's true for most people. For that reason, ...
by Lazy_eye
Sat Nov 07, 2015 2:15 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Does Kalama Sutta Allow Doubt?
Replies: 10
Views: 684

Re: Does Kalama Sutta Allow Doubt?

If you didn't have any doubt, wouldn't this mean you had achieved sotāpanna (stream entry)?
by Lazy_eye
Sat Nov 07, 2015 1:41 am
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Eel wriggling vs inappropriate attention?
Replies: 12
Views: 1163

Re: Eel wriggling vs inappropriate attention?

Ok. I don't know Pali and wouldn't have the requisite scholarly tools even if I did, but what stands out for me is that the phrase comes immediately after "there is no fruit or result of good or bad actions." To me, that indicates that it's referring to a (wrong) belief that there is no fruit of kam...