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by Laurens
Mon Oct 08, 2018 5:28 pm
Forum: Sīla
Topic: Lying precept
Replies: 28
Views: 354

Re: Lying precept

No, I am not saying must lies. Working in a place of politics Not everyone is good in handling everything . I have seen two staff clashed and became enemy . You are always assuming and thinking from your position , just like you tried here to view or judge from your angle that everyone concerned ov...
by Laurens
Mon Oct 08, 2018 4:27 pm
Forum: Sīla
Topic: Lying precept
Replies: 28
Views: 354

Re: Lying precept

For example , Maybe you can't understand if someone about same position in the same company knows of your salary which is higher than s/he , they will create problem and perhaps will bring it to the manager , what do you think will the manager question why I revealed it to others ?! I don't underst...
by Laurens
Mon Oct 08, 2018 1:13 pm
Forum: Sīla
Topic: Lying precept
Replies: 28
Views: 354

Re: Lying precept

Buddha walks away when he saw devadatta coming towards him doesn't mean he was afraid of him. I am trying my best not to violate the precept , everyone is not perfect but since we are learning dhamma , we have to consider many things . Maybe you are very good in dhamma and training , I don't know ,...
by Laurens
Mon Oct 08, 2018 12:51 pm
Forum: Sīla
Topic: Lying precept
Replies: 28
Views: 354

Re: Lying precept

Why does it matter for you ? Instead why not focusing on how to practise not lying precept ? You seems interested in others privacy overstepped people boundary . It doesn't matter to me. You can lie to them for all I care. I'm asking because maybe you have a good reason to be concerned about them k...
by Laurens
Mon Oct 08, 2018 8:38 am
Forum: Sīla
Topic: Lying precept
Replies: 28
Views: 354

Re: Lying precept

Why does it matter that these people don't know your actual salary?

What are you trying to protect yourself from?
by Laurens
Sat Oct 06, 2018 7:50 am
Forum: Connections to Other Paths
Topic: Buddhism is radically diffrent from other relegions is a wishful thnking?
Replies: 36
Views: 714

Re: Buddhism is radically diffrent from other relegions is a wishful thnking?

I'd be curious to know whether anyone can relate to my experience. Yes, I can understand where you coming from even though I never had the experience of hedonism. But I had enough life experience to understand Dukkha. I suppose more specifically I meant experience of getting Buddhism wrong, rejecti...
by Laurens
Fri Oct 05, 2018 6:07 pm
Forum: Connections to Other Paths
Topic: Buddhism is radically diffrent from other relegions is a wishful thnking?
Replies: 36
Views: 714

Re: Buddhism is radically diffrent from other relegions is a wishful thnking?

From another post: 3- Sometimes i feel that Buddhists are not so different from other human beings except the terminology they use. Maybe the wishful thinking i have that Buddhism is radically different can be a cause of disappointment. https://dhammawheel.com/viewtopic.php?p=487365#p487365 I can b...
by Laurens
Fri Oct 05, 2018 5:58 am
Forum: Abhidhamma
Topic: homosexuality
Replies: 16
Views: 422

Re: homosexuality

Hi Forgive me if this is in the wrong place. I have been working my way through the Digha Nikaya and have come across something that has got me rather upset. As a gay man, I came to Buddhism for it's welcoming friendly, humanistic approach, imagine my dismay reading the cakkavatti sutta only to rea...
by Laurens
Wed Oct 03, 2018 5:54 am
Forum: Sīla
Topic: How much entertainment should we allow?
Replies: 10
Views: 248

Re: How much entertainment should we allow?

I think a better way to view it, rather than using words with heavy connotations like 'abstain' would be to attempt to be more entertained by less stimuli.

By this I mean to develop a practise whereby sitting on a chair in your room doing nothing can make you feel contented, or entertained.
by Laurens
Wed Oct 03, 2018 5:25 am
Forum: Samatha Bhāvana
Topic: Eyes Open Or Closed During Practice?
Replies: 29
Views: 1049

Re: Eyes Open Or Closed During Practice?

I close my eyes during meditation. I have tried meditation with open eyes, but I find it difficult to fix them on a single point, without glancing around. Then I start to feel like the glancing is interfering with my concentration, so it tends to just distract me too much to meditate with my eyes op...
by Laurens
Thu Aug 23, 2018 4:48 pm
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Being Offended
Replies: 45
Views: 1331

Re: Being Offended

I agree that the sense of self has a lot to do with being offended. Sometimes though, its not a strength in the sense of self that leads to offence, rather it is a weakness. It is a confrontation with something that a person finds difficult. For example. If you were to say to somebody; 'God doesn't ...
by Laurens
Wed Aug 22, 2018 8:51 pm
Forum: Sīla
Topic: Compassion fatigue
Replies: 26
Views: 859

Re: Compassion fatigue

What is it that makes you tired of acting compassionately? What is the part of you that needs the pep talk trying to tell you? Maybe you are grasping at this idea that to fit in with the idea of being a good Buddhist you need to continually act in a selfless and compassionate manner. If we are doing...
by Laurens
Thu Aug 09, 2018 5:52 am
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Why do we have resentment towards the people are very close to us?
Replies: 18
Views: 412

Re: Why do we have resentment towards the people are very close to us?

Sometimes its a reflection of things that we resent in ourselves. The reason, I believe, that the Buddha said there is no one in the entire universe more deserving of your love than you (to paraphrase) is because once you let go of those inner judgements that you hold towards yourself, they stop bec...
by Laurens
Fri Aug 03, 2018 5:28 am
Forum: Wellness, Diet & Fitness
Topic: Insomnia
Replies: 11
Views: 444

Re: Insomnia

Try to stay awake and keep your eyes wide open all night.

Reverse enthusiasm can be quite powerful for some people
by Laurens
Thu Aug 02, 2018 5:46 am
Forum: Sīla
Topic: How to deal with ignorant brutes in a discussion
Replies: 69
Views: 2183

Re: How to deal with ignorant brutes in a discussion

I tend to find that you can turn a debate from a 'slagging match' to a 'discussion' by doing the following: Actually being interested in their viewpoint even if from your perspective it is wrong. This usually breaks down people's barriers. Especially if their viewpoint is usually subject to derision...