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by Laurens
Wed Jun 06, 2018 11:19 am
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Dealing with break ups
Replies: 16
Views: 1482

Re: Dealing with break ups

About eight months ago I came out of a four year relationship. That kind of big change is always difficult especially if you didn't intend upon it. You will feel lonely, remorseful, angry, hurt, and worried sometimes. Just as the relationship did not last, those will not last either. At some point o...
by Laurens
Fri Jun 30, 2017 5:54 am
Forum: General Theravāda Meditation
Topic: Chanting Meditation
Replies: 6
Views: 587

Re: Chanting Meditation

Greetings, Thanks all for the responses and advice. I tried noting in my half hour meditation this morning. It wasn't the optimal conditions as I hadn't slept too well so was quite tired. I felt like I was able to maintain a good level of awareness for about a third of the session, however as I got ...
by Laurens
Tue Jun 27, 2017 6:15 am
Forum: General Theravāda Meditation
Topic: Chanting Meditation
Replies: 6
Views: 587

Chanting Meditation

I have tried Buddho meditation in the past, but have always had an issue with the Bud on the in Dho on the out method. The best way I can describe it would be that I go onto autopilot mode wherein once I've settled into the meditation the chanting becomes automated so that I reach a point where I am...
by Laurens
Tue Jun 13, 2017 6:15 am
Forum: General Theravāda Meditation
Topic: Earworms
Replies: 10
Views: 617

Re: Earworms

I used to get this a lot. In essence the song in your head is not a problem. Its just the memory of a song! It can't harm you. The problem is that when you sit down to meditate you think it ought to bring you a still, quiet mind. So when you find that its like a party in there with songs you don't e...
by Laurens
Mon Jun 12, 2017 10:44 am
Forum: General Theravāda Meditation
Topic: Calming the mind
Replies: 12
Views: 912

Re: Calming the mind

In my limited experience whether or not thoughts occur is almost irrelevant, its the part of us that gets frustrated or excited by them that requires attention and practise. I am by no means an expert at meditation so please don't take this as gospel, but I find developing an attitude of not being f...
by Laurens
Fri Dec 23, 2016 9:59 am
Forum: General Theravāda Meditation
Topic: Buddho
Replies: 235
Views: 33733

Re: Buddho

I use Buddho sometimes if my mind is particularly unfocused. The issue I have is that the instructions tend to state "repeat untill no longer needed". I will use Buddho until the attention seems fixed on the breath but then when I drop it I go back to square one. Does anyone with a bit more experien...
by Laurens
Fri Dec 23, 2016 9:47 am
Forum: General Theravāda Meditation
Topic: Spreading a simple piece of advice that has helped me with Metta
Replies: 6
Views: 604

Re: Spreading a simple piece of advice that has helped me with Metta

Another thing that has helped me direct metta toward myself, or perhaps more accurately to let go of self hatred is to ask myself the following: Would I be this hard on my parents/partner/close friend? We tend to be overly hard on oursleves over tiny insignificant things. Say you were to break a pre...
by Laurens
Fri Dec 23, 2016 9:33 am
Forum: General Theravāda Meditation
Topic: What has helped your concentration the most?
Replies: 12
Views: 1105

Re: What has helped your concentration the most?

Another thing that helps with mindfulness in general is to treat everything like its the first time you've ever done it. Look at the breath (and everything else) like it is a new and interesting experience. We've all been breathing our whole lives, its easy to view all breaths as the same. Viewing e...
by Laurens
Thu Dec 22, 2016 9:51 am
Forum: General Theravāda Meditation
Topic: What has helped your concentration the most?
Replies: 12
Views: 1105

Re: What has helped your concentration the most?

Oddly for me it comes when I get less hung up on concentrating. If I sit with an attitude of "I have GOT TO concentrate now" my mind tends to go "no thanks" and I end up with little to no consistent concentration. If I sit with an attitude of "sometimes I will lose my meditation object, sometimes I ...
by Laurens
Thu Dec 01, 2016 6:59 am
Forum: General Theravāda Meditation
Topic: Is it essential to have a specific point of awareness?
Replies: 6
Views: 687

Re: Is it essential to have a specific point of awareness?

dhammarelax wrote: For extensive research on this point you can consult Thanissaro Bhikkhu and for practical meditation advice Bhante Vimalaramsi.

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Dhammarelax
Thank you.

Could you point me in the right direction towards some practical meditation advice

Cheers

Laurens
by Laurens
Wed Nov 30, 2016 8:07 pm
Forum: Wellness, Diet & Fitness
Topic: Helping someone with depression
Replies: 14
Views: 1301

Helping someone with depression

My partner is currently quite severely depressed. I am trying my best to support her in whichever ways that I can, however it seems that in her state of mind most of my suggestions, and offers for help are rejected. It is hard for me to constantly be there to support her, yet deal with my own feelin...
by Laurens
Wed Nov 30, 2016 1:15 pm
Forum: Connections to Other Paths
Topic: Secular theravadan
Replies: 96
Views: 7398

Re: Secular theravadan

Theravada is appealing to me because it is a path focused on this life. I am a secular person in that I am not religious. I also hold values that one might expect from such a person. I value science and empiricism. I value reason and critical thinking. I don't call myself a Buddhist let alone a Ther...
by Laurens
Wed Nov 30, 2016 10:29 am
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: the great rebirth debate
Replies: 6108
Views: 470206

Re: the great rebirth debate

I do not believe that rebirth does not occur, however currently I see no reasons to believe that it does. Just like the question of whether or not there was ever life on Mars. To say there definitely was given the level of evidence that we currently have would be foolish. But to say there definitely...
by Laurens
Tue Nov 29, 2016 9:20 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: "Online Buddhists aren't real Buddhists" - Yes or No?
Replies: 122
Views: 9804

Re: "Online Buddhists aren't real Buddhists" - Yes or No?

I think discourse on the internet about anything is awkward and difficult. The written word is so open to misinterpretation that you often see people who actually agree with each other arguing fervently because they're just talking past each other. You can't see the people there, thus you can percei...
by Laurens
Mon Nov 28, 2016 8:27 pm
Forum: General Theravāda Meditation
Topic: Is it essential to have a specific point of awareness?
Replies: 6
Views: 687

Is it essential to have a specific point of awareness?

I have been reading Mindfulness in Plain English, in which the author instructs to focus on the breath at the nostrils. I have trouble maintaining focus at a single point, it seems my mind tends to veer off and distractions are somehow more stirring when I do so. I experimented a few times with simp...