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by Laurens
Sat May 30, 2020 11:07 am
Forum: Sīla
Topic: What are The Benefits of Sila?
Replies: 27
Views: 649

Re: What are The Benefits of Sila?

People can trust you not to harm them if they get to know you. In reality people might abuse you also if they get to know you , it became your weakness . Being someone who can be trusted not to cause harm doesn't mean you have to become the sort of person who would naively be open to abuse by other...
by Laurens
Fri May 29, 2020 11:40 am
Forum: Sīla
Topic: What are The Benefits of Sila?
Replies: 27
Views: 649

Re: What are The Benefits of Sila?

People can trust you not to harm them if they get to know you.
by Laurens
Wed May 27, 2020 8:06 am
Forum: Samatha Bhāvana
Topic: Is jhana a dream or real?
Replies: 17
Views: 420

Re: Is jhana a dream or real?

jhana occurs between wakefulness and sleep where 5 sence dont use and no deep sleep where no awareness.. is jhana is dream or rreal or lucid dream ? As others have said, I think you misunderstand Jhana. My advice to you would be to stop worrying about Jhana. They sound great don't they? These state...
by Laurens
Wed May 27, 2020 7:43 am
Forum: Samatha Bhāvana
Topic: no thought sitting
Replies: 4
Views: 135

Re: no thought sitting

can no thought sitting or (neither perception not non perception) sitting prior to jhana helps to enter first jhana? Thought is generally beyond our control, and can also be very subtle. In my experience trying to attain a state of no thought is impossible and therefore inevitably frustrating. It's...
by Laurens
Tue May 26, 2020 2:34 pm
Forum: General Theravāda Meditation
Topic: Can we attain Jhana while we have a sexual relationship?
Replies: 115
Views: 9207

Re: Can we attain Jhana while we have a sexual relationship?

Hi, The Jhana fixation is a problem that still afflicts me, but I think that it is for good reasons. As we can read in MN14: “I myself, before my self-awakening, when I was still just an unawakened bodhisatta, saw as it had come to be with right discernment that sensuality is of much stress, much d...
by Laurens
Tue May 26, 2020 2:10 pm
Forum: General Theravāda Meditation
Topic: Can we attain Jhana while we have a sexual relationship?
Replies: 115
Views: 9207

Re: Can we attain Jhana while we have a sexual relationship?

if i lie on bed and think of lustful scences in my mind and enter in to doing xx in thoughts, do u think it will be impossible to enter jhana the same night in same bed in same sleep posture? I don't know the specific answer to that. Probably not. But I also think obsessing over jhana is probably j...
by Laurens
Tue May 26, 2020 7:51 am
Forum: General Theravāda Meditation
Topic: Can we attain Jhana while we have a sexual relationship?
Replies: 115
Views: 9207

Re: Can we attain Jhana while we have a sexual relationship?

Personally I think it's these kind of questions that highlight the problem with Jhana fixation. People study the suttas and hear Dhamma talks about these states of meditative absorption and think "wow that sounds amazing, I need to try to get some of that in my practice!" And then they might hear, a...
by Laurens
Mon May 25, 2020 10:50 pm
Forum: Theravāda for Beginners
Topic: devas visited indian people ancient time but not now?
Replies: 29
Views: 1053

Re: devas visited indian people ancient time but not now?

ancient time in india both in hindu as well as buddhist tradition, devas visited them to tell even small matter but now no one sees them nor deva appear before them voluntierly. why is this ? There are lots of possible explanations from all different kinds of world views from sceptical to believer....
by Laurens
Sun May 24, 2020 12:04 pm
Forum: Sīla
Topic: Fourth precept question
Replies: 9
Views: 346

Re: Fourth precept question

I don't think its a problem. The system exists to prevent underage people form purchasing alcohol (and also yourself from being penalised for selling alcohol to underage people) if someone is clearly over the age of 21 then its unnecessary to ask for their date of birth. You're not deceiving anybody...
by Laurens
Wed May 13, 2020 11:31 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: corrupt view of arhants ability by non arhants
Replies: 19
Views: 359

Re: corrupt view of arhants ability by non arhants

Is it even physiologically possible to stop anger from ever arising? I agree that an arahant would never get angry. They wouldn't pick it up, identify with it, and get embroiled in a story about it. I don't think it's necessarily the case that they never experience anger arising in their field of aw...
by Laurens
Tue May 12, 2020 9:01 am
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Do we have an idealised image of Nibbana and the Buddha?
Replies: 36
Views: 608

Re: Do we have an idealised image of Nibbana and the Buddha?

I've never understood the state of enlightenment to mean that one's is no longer subject to getting annoyed or not having preferences and such. The Buddha was visited by Mara many times after his awakening. The defining factor is that the Buddha recognises Mara and thus can act with wisdom rather th...
by Laurens
Fri May 08, 2020 7:51 pm
Forum: General Theravāda Meditation
Topic: buddo meditation
Replies: 9
Views: 274

Re: buddo meditation

thanks i am using it for breathing meditation. during breathing meditation i sometimes breath with mindfullness but sometimes drift to day dream where my mind voice starts to come. i use buddo to avoid day dream and mental voice in day dream it works but still trying to do it fully and see if it ca...
by Laurens
Fri May 08, 2020 7:10 pm
Forum: General Theravāda Meditation
Topic: buddo meditation
Replies: 9
Views: 274

Re: buddo meditation

Yes, I have practised it both in conjunction with anapanasati, and on it's own as a mantra. I can't speak for whether it would work for everyone, or whether my experiences with it are universally applicable. In conjunction with the breath, I didn't find it added to or subtracted from the meditation....
by Laurens
Fri May 08, 2020 3:44 pm
Forum: Theravāda for Beginners
Topic: Sense restraint
Replies: 8
Views: 439

Re: Sense restraint

Hello, I have recently discovered that the Buddha was right about sensual pleasures. They are harmful. I was wondering if anyone has any tips on practicing sense restraint? How should I avoid watching television? How do I stay in one room all day? Thank you for listening. Generally when we have add...
by Laurens
Wed May 06, 2020 7:56 am
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: idle chatter and irritation
Replies: 21
Views: 975

Re: idle chatter and irritation

... I think we mostly agree. I don't think avoidance is bad. I don't drink so I avoid bars. I don't try to go to bars to strengthen my ability to not drink. Likewise I don't go to spend my time with people who annoy me with their idle chatter. However since irritation is the main thrust of what the...