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by Laurens
Mon Jul 15, 2019 8:32 pm
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Guidance on Anger
Replies: 14
Views: 274

Re: Guidance on Anger

I find metta meditation is a good practise to stop anger from arising when otherwise it might. When it does arise, however, try to let it go, and replace the thought of ill will with a thought of goodwill. Remember something you appreciate about her and direct some thoughts of kindness towards her. ...
by Laurens
Mon Jul 15, 2019 8:26 pm
Forum: General Theravāda Meditation
Topic: Mantra in Theravada (aside from Buddho)
Replies: 3
Views: 52

Mantra in Theravada (aside from Buddho)

I find mantras a very useful practise for staying centred and mindful when doing work or going about my day when the breath is not necessarily as easy to focus on. I am aware of the use of Buddho among the Thai Forest Tradition, but was just wondering whether there were any different mantras used in...
by Laurens
Mon Jul 15, 2019 6:37 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Is disliking certain people consider an extreme ?
Replies: 23
Views: 215

Re: Is disliking certain people consider an extreme ?

But I supposed this stupid things not only in reality but is happening in the buddhism forums as well . Isn't this is exactly what everyone is experiencing , if you are Theravada buddhist you dislike Mahayana buddhist , vice versa , whenever Mahayana buddhist encounter with Theravada buddhist , whe...
by Laurens
Mon Jul 15, 2019 4:29 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Is disliking certain people consider an extreme ?
Replies: 23
Views: 215

Re: Is disliking certain people consider an extreme ?

I see , but not because based on single person action . Perhaps , another example (not sure right or not) you are white , you surrounded by a group of Indian , probably being treated badly in the past by many Indian , feeling alienated and fear , feeling dislike then aversion arises . So , whenever...
by Laurens
Mon Jul 15, 2019 3:33 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Is disliking certain people consider an extreme ?
Replies: 23
Views: 215

Re: Is disliking certain people consider an extreme ?

I don't know about what the Buddha said, but you'd have to be pretty ignorant to think along those lines. Some would be inclined to say 'ignorant' is too soft a term. :anjali: What do you mean ? You're original post seems to be asking whether disliking a certain ethnic group based upon the actions ...
by Laurens
Mon Jul 15, 2019 3:08 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Is disliking certain people consider an extreme ?
Replies: 23
Views: 215

Re: Is disliking certain people consider an extreme ?

I don't know about what the Buddha said, but you'd have to be pretty ignorant to think along those lines.

Some would be inclined to say 'ignorant' is too soft a term.

:anjali:
by Laurens
Sun Jul 14, 2019 3:43 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Enough?
Replies: 24
Views: 386

Re: Enough?

Fair enough. My experience has been quite different, and I've more often observed an ambivalence towards jhana. For example, I used to attend a Thai Forest group, and was told that the jhanas were a "distraction", and not to waste time on them. I remember being surprised by this attitude, since eve...
by Laurens
Sun Jul 14, 2019 1:40 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Enough?
Replies: 24
Views: 386

Re: Enough?

Who are all these people getting "hung up" on jhana? I haven't met any. And who are all these people just aiming for jhana to get a bit of bliss? Again, I haven't met any. I really don't understand why this patronising rhetoric is aimed at people practising jhana, and not at people practising other...
by Laurens
Sun Jul 14, 2019 12:04 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Enough?
Replies: 24
Views: 386

Re: Enough?

But according to the suttas, jhana is required for liberation. Or are you saying that jhana isn't required? And would you argue that we shouldn't "aim" to develop insight, or "aim" to develop ethical behaviour? I think the point is, if you aim at jhana because you are hung up on the idea of getting...
by Laurens
Sun Jul 14, 2019 11:52 am
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Enough?
Replies: 24
Views: 386

Re: Enough?

Something Ajahn Chah said resonated with me in regards to clinging to ideas about jhana and such. He said something along the lines of "don't aim for Samadhi, aim for Nibbana" (I don't recall where I read it I'm afraid). Any other aim can keep you tied down to attachment and aversion. I think he sa...
by Laurens
Sun Jul 14, 2019 8:33 am
Forum: Wellness, Diet & Fitness
Topic: Dangers of Marijuana
Replies: 23
Views: 1111

Re: Dangers of Marijuana

I believe that the effect of weed is very different from the effect of alcohol. If alcohol becomes dull, provokes aggressive behavior and disinhibits, then weed on the contrary stimulates creativity, the desire for knowledge and soothes (indica). If alcohol unambiguously provokes bad behavior, then...
by Laurens
Sat Jul 13, 2019 11:59 am
Forum: Sīla
Topic: Right Speech
Replies: 10
Views: 157

Re: Right Speech

Sounds like maybe you should consider finding other employment.......perhaps consider it a bit more seriously.... chownah Yes, I will consider this more seriously. My job definitely is not satisfying. Part of me has resigned to this, and decided to use my work as grist for the mill in terms of my p...
by Laurens
Fri Jul 12, 2019 6:00 pm
Forum: Sīla
Topic: Right Speech
Replies: 10
Views: 157

Re: Right Speech

Perhaps you will have a tendency for more solitude, since gossip and empty conversations can be found in actually any community, and even monasteries are no exception. Yeah I am quite reclusive outside of work. However, I tend to have to interact at work, as much of the day is in close proximity to...
by Laurens
Fri Jul 12, 2019 3:26 pm
Forum: Sīla
Topic: Right Speech
Replies: 10
Views: 157

Re: Right Speech

Gossip and such is due to boredom aka restlessness. Better to move your attention to either 1) The Dhamma (4NT, 3C) or 2) Meditation object like the breath Yeah as I kinda realised whilst making the above response. I do actually do this a lot. My work doesn't rely on thinking a lot, so I tend to pr...
by Laurens
Fri Jul 12, 2019 3:15 pm
Forum: Sīla
Topic: Right Speech
Replies: 10
Views: 157

Re: Right Speech

What comes to mind: You already have enough mindfulness that you notice when you get sucked into the gossip -- better than not noticing it at all. Just practice mindfulness and restraint more, and eventually those slips will be less and less frequent. If you have a very agreeable temperament, then ...