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by No_Mind
Wed May 22, 2019 4:26 am
Forum: Wellness, Diet & Fitness
Topic: Coping with growing old
Replies: 33
Views: 712

Re: Coping with growing old

A Solution For Loneliness: Get Out and Volunteer, Research Suggests Just for clarification, I am not lonely. What I am saying is approximately this - If I were born in 1850, then in 1900, my 80-year-old father and I would have shared the same tastes in food, clothing, and music. This more or less c...
by No_Mind
Tue May 21, 2019 5:01 pm
Forum: Wellness, Diet & Fitness
Topic: Coping with growing old
Replies: 33
Views: 712

Re: Coping with growing old

Gee not again! Not my Hindu birth! I thought we were past that. And .. are you saying because I am an upper caste Hindu with benefit of western education .. I should therefore feel what I am feeling? That whites and upper castes Hindus have no right to feel angst or sense of despondency? That is a ...
by No_Mind
Tue May 21, 2019 4:38 pm
Forum: Wellness, Diet & Fitness
Topic: Coping with growing old
Replies: 33
Views: 712

Re: Coping with growing old

In subtle ways society has begun to tell me (and everyone else my age .. born towards end of Vietnam War) that we are no longer needed, our needs and aspirations (human needs .. emotional needs) no longer matter. It is extremely difficult to come to terms with being cast aside by society. You live ...
by No_Mind
Tue May 21, 2019 4:22 pm
Forum: Wellness, Diet & Fitness
Topic: Coping with growing old
Replies: 33
Views: 712

Re: Coping with growing old

You are attached to "The Godfather", but not to "Game of Thrones"; probably because you were exposed to the former at a time in your life when you were forming an attractive sense of who you are. Technically, these are all tragedies: GoT is about royals and aristocrats and lots of them dying by mur...
by No_Mind
Tue May 21, 2019 8:51 am
Forum: Wellness, Diet & Fitness
Topic: Coping with growing old
Replies: 33
Views: 712

Re: Coping with growing old

In this, and other examples of popular culture, I think the trick is to see how much of us there is invested in the memories and the appreciation. When you let that go, the rather syrupy and self-indulgent feelings of sadness and loneliness are replaced by a feeling of uprightness and calm. Exactly...
by No_Mind
Tue May 21, 2019 8:48 am
Forum: Wellness, Diet & Fitness
Topic: Coping with growing old
Replies: 33
Views: 712

Re: Coping with growing old

You're getting upset that people have newer toys? :D I sometimes get upset thinking about how people I love continually suffer and there's nothing I can do about it. I am not upset at people. I am trying to cope (like many others) with growing old and becoming more and more disconnected from societ...
by No_Mind
Tue May 21, 2019 8:18 am
Forum: Wellness, Diet & Fitness
Topic: Coping with growing old
Replies: 33
Views: 712

Re: Coping with growing old

Ow I have the exact same moment at restaurants.it's where my contemplation of impermanence gets triggered really bad it's a sad event for me except, I'm not old.but I can already see the end coming.I can i swear I'm not being philosophical i trully see it coming I feel so much grief and nostalgia f...
by No_Mind
Tue May 21, 2019 7:19 am
Forum: Wellness, Diet & Fitness
Topic: Coping with growing old
Replies: 33
Views: 712

Coping with growing old

Last nine months has been rather topsy-turvy for me. A lot of changes, a lot of suffering, a lot of samsara. No matter how Dhammic and strong and stoical one is, it does leave an enduring mark as one goes through darkness stumbling at every footstep, never knowing what the next day will bring. A pro...
by No_Mind
Sun Feb 17, 2019 6:49 am
Forum: Connections to Other Paths
Topic: Sufism and Western Vipassana Meditation
Replies: 12
Views: 449

Re: Sufism and Western Vipassana Meditation

We don't know if Tolle is fully enlightened, but without a doubt people do have deep insights even outside formal Dhamma practice. My impression of hearing a bit of Tolle is that what he teaches is in line with the Dhamma, but as far as him actually being liberated, who can really tell? Just as a c...
by No_Mind
Sat Feb 16, 2019 5:11 pm
Forum: Connections to Other Paths
Topic: Sufism and Western Vipassana Meditation
Replies: 12
Views: 449

Re: Sufism and Western Vipassana Meditation

This is the meaning of ‘Die before you die’. The rewards come after you die, not before. You can scheme all you like, but dying is the only means of attaining Divine favour. And a single Divine favour is better than any kind of personal effort, for personal effort can entail all sorts of trickery. ...
by No_Mind
Mon Jan 28, 2019 1:31 pm
Forum: Wellness, Diet & Fitness
Topic: Dealing with tragedy
Replies: 22
Views: 939

Re: Dealing with tragedy

Sabbe_Dhamma_Anatta wrote:
Mon Jan 28, 2019 9:50 am

Hello friend,
Aloka wrote:
Mon Jan 28, 2019 12:39 pm
Dear No_Mind,

I wonder if this article by Ajahn Amaro (which is a transcript from a talk given at Amaravati Monastery), might possibly be of some help to you, I hope so. :
Thank you SDA and Aloka.

:namaste:
by No_Mind
Mon Jan 28, 2019 1:24 pm
Forum: Wellness, Diet & Fitness
Topic: Dealing with tragedy
Replies: 22
Views: 939

Re: Dealing with tragedy

The Stoic Epictetus is pretty good for that sort of thing: Venerable, I came across a video about Stoicism and since then have been reading up about it. It is very interesting and has several similarities with Buddhism. I have made my way through "Meditations" by Aurelius and hope to take up Epicte...
by No_Mind
Mon Jan 28, 2019 4:21 am
Forum: Wellness, Diet & Fitness
Topic: Dealing with tragedy
Replies: 22
Views: 939

Re: Dealing with tragedy

Hello, How do you investigate into a feeling? [Just my personal view] I would investigate "feeling" as it is. As it occurs to my awareness, contemplating experientially, with its impermance and its natural-ness in mind. (Here, I mean feeling in general sense, because, currently, my mind is just not...
by No_Mind
Mon Jan 21, 2019 3:06 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Back to self!
Replies: 84
Views: 2245

Re: Back to self!

...How does one get past this paradox?... :namaste: FWIW, Thanissaro Bhikkhu acknowledges a paradox. The word is in the title of one of his books, The Paradox of Becoming . I have not yet gotten beyond the first chapter, so can't offer much, but here is a little from the Preface [ italics added]: T...
by No_Mind
Mon Jan 21, 2019 9:14 am
Forum: Wellness, Diet & Fitness
Topic: Dealing with tragedy
Replies: 22
Views: 939

Dealing with tragedy

How is a Buddhist to deal with great trauma/tragedy and huge, unspeakable amount of stress?

Is one to retract and become like a rock?

:namaste: