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by No_Mind
Tue Nov 12, 2019 3:26 am
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: How to recover after heartbreak
Replies: 25
Views: 673

Re: How to recover after heartbreak

Regarding what you have been through, a general rule of thumb applies: Always be kind and never be naive. Thanks for the kind response. How I wish someone reminded me about this on day 6. But I guess I needed to learn a lesson the hard way. What really hurts is I can't tell anyone. I can't take thi...
by No_Mind
Mon Nov 11, 2019 6:55 am
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: How to recover after heartbreak
Replies: 25
Views: 673

Re: How to recover after heartbreak

If its broken and painfull, then just lay down this burden and live freely :) Thank you for your response. There is no burden. The immediate hurt has passed. In past 48 hours I have done a rethink and re-framed it as a great opportunity to explore the self, shadow, anima and animus I now believe th...
by No_Mind
Sat Nov 09, 2019 5:00 pm
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: How to recover after heartbreak
Replies: 25
Views: 673

Re: How to recover after heartbreak

No. I regret being caught in a situation where my "goodness" is used as a weapon to hurt me with. Why do you regret that? Better to quote from literature than write myself, "Droll thing life is -- that mysterious arrangement of merciless logic for a futile purpose. The most you can hope from it is ...
by No_Mind
Sat Nov 09, 2019 5:24 am
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: How to recover after heartbreak
Replies: 25
Views: 673

Re: How to recover after heartbreak

I regret being caught in a situation where my "goodness" is used as a weapon to hurt me with. Goodness done with real wholesome intent cannot be used as a weapon against the giver. There's that common philosophical question about how one'd feel when one's good was stolen by a thief, and then how on...
by No_Mind
Fri Nov 08, 2019 5:01 am
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: How to recover after heartbreak
Replies: 25
Views: 673

Re: How to recover after heartbreak

Now being a Buddhist, I can't raise my voice or be vehement let alone be verbally abusive. And she knows that. And used it to its hilt. That rankles deeply .. It can rankle only if one regrets being a Buddhist. No. I regret being caught in a situation where my "goodness" is used as a weapon to hurt...
by No_Mind
Thu Nov 07, 2019 4:05 pm
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: How to recover after heartbreak
Replies: 25
Views: 673

Re: How to recover after heartbreak

So in some respect, you should thank the woman for providing a hands-on test of your strong practice. It's like a martial art practitioner who used to think highly of himself because he could perform all kinds of complex and flowery kata movements... That had crossed my mind too. Hmm .. I am taking...
by No_Mind
Thu Nov 07, 2019 2:04 pm
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: How to recover after heartbreak
Replies: 25
Views: 673

Re: How to recover after heartbreak

My dear Binocular .. What loans? Did you also co-sign something? I mean, is there any financial or other legal obligation for you based on whatever financial transactions etc. you got involved in with this woman? No. I meant the amount I loaned her. On a serious note: Not everyone falls prey to soci...
by No_Mind
Thu Nov 07, 2019 12:41 pm
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: How to recover after heartbreak
Replies: 25
Views: 673

Re: How to recover after heartbreak

hey man, we'e all thrown money after women. Sometimes the wilder they are the more money is tossed - attachment ( emotion) and feeling- they make the world go round. able to tell the difference between a brogue and a brolly) just for my own interest, what is the difference? I meant as a test of Eng...
by No_Mind
Thu Nov 07, 2019 11:51 am
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: How to recover after heartbreak
Replies: 25
Views: 673

Re: How to recover after heartbreak

It is always very difficult to work out exactly what is wrong in another person's situation, especially on line. But there are a number of features about what you wrote that make me think that it might be useful for you to work out exactly where the suffering is coming from. Are you unhappy: 1) bec...
by No_Mind
Thu Nov 07, 2019 10:41 am
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: How to recover after heartbreak
Replies: 25
Views: 673

Re: How to recover after heartbreak

What I've observed in many people is this impossible dichotomy between their notion of the Noble Path and the reality of their minds. Eventually the bubble bursts and a 'lapse' like yours happens. Which isn't really a lapse, as such, but life reasserting itself. Thanks Dan for your kind words and a...
by No_Mind
Thu Nov 07, 2019 10:03 am
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: How to recover after heartbreak
Replies: 25
Views: 673

Re: How to recover after heartbreak

I came across and fell in love with a woman who is a full-blown sociopath. I have previously urged others to stay away from sociopaths but didn't follow my own advice. She blended her sociopathic tendencies with a sob story (that is as far as I can tell at least partially real). :rofl: This is mara...
by No_Mind
Thu Nov 07, 2019 6:50 am
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: How to recover after heartbreak
Replies: 25
Views: 673

How to recover after heartbreak

Hi, I need you guys .. really .. like never before. I would be turning 50 in about 8 months. I had developed remarkably strong practice from September last year (that was why I became infrequent here). I was so happy, so calm. Everyone was amazed by the change they saw in me. Anyway, then the 49th b...
by No_Mind
Fri Aug 30, 2019 5:17 am
Forum: Connections to Other Paths
Topic: Did Adi Shankaracharya defeat Buddhism?
Replies: 51
Views: 2297

Re: Did Adi Shankaracharya defeat Buddhism?

I do not think any video (from India) would adequately explain the debate between Adi Shankara and Buddhist monks. Well educated Indians are a shy bunch who prefer to keep to themselves and read dusty books. Also, this country revels in hagiographies and any claim of X defeated Y .. is bit irrelevan...
by No_Mind
Wed May 22, 2019 4:26 am
Forum: Wellness, Diet & Fitness
Topic: Coping with growing old
Replies: 33
Views: 1577

Re: Coping with growing old

A Solution For Loneliness: Get Out and Volunteer, Research Suggests Just for clarification, I am not lonely. What I am saying is approximately this - If I were born in 1850, then in 1900, my 80-year-old father and I would have shared the same tastes in food, clothing, and music. This more or less c...
by No_Mind
Tue May 21, 2019 5:01 pm
Forum: Wellness, Diet & Fitness
Topic: Coping with growing old
Replies: 33
Views: 1577

Re: Coping with growing old

Gee not again! Not my Hindu birth! I thought we were past that. And .. are you saying because I am an upper caste Hindu with benefit of western education .. I should therefore feel what I am feeling? That whites and upper castes Hindus have no right to feel angst or sense of despondency? That is a ...