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by Jechbi
Tue Mar 22, 2011 4:02 pm
Forum: Suggestion box
Topic: Taking members seriously
Replies: 85
Views: 13663

Re: Taking members seriously

Retro, I recommend that you do some research into the phenomenon of scapegoating. The group dynamic at play here in this thread and elsewhere on this board is a good illustration of it. If you look at the discussion referenced in the OP, you will see exactly that phenomenon at play. The tag-team res...
by Jechbi
Mon Mar 21, 2011 3:54 pm
Forum: Suggestion box
Topic: Taking members seriously
Replies: 85
Views: 13663

Re: Taking members seriously

Thanks, Jhana. The same could be said of anyone who posts here. Does that mean any time we post in a thread in which we've faced disagreement, we're not "letting go"? I understand that you don't mean to insult me. But you also are not able to see whether I'm letting go or not. These things rise and ...
by Jechbi
Mon Mar 21, 2011 3:34 pm
Forum: Suggestion box
Topic: Web removal tools
Replies: 8
Views: 1792

Re: Web removal tools

I think you might be doing it wrong. So if I understand you correctly, if someone makes defamatory remark about another person, it's because the target of the remark was "doing it wrong." The person who made the defamatory remark is not the problem. In any case, I don't see why a person who is the ...
by Jechbi
Mon Mar 21, 2011 2:38 pm
Forum: Suggestion box
Topic: Web removal tools
Replies: 8
Views: 1792

Web removal tools

I feel members should be aware that this tool exists to help them mitigate potential damage from any personal or defamatory messages that happen to appear on a discussion board for a short while and are cached by Google before the mod/admin team has a chance to take them down.
by Jechbi
Mon Mar 21, 2011 2:34 pm
Forum: Suggestion box
Topic: Taking members seriously
Replies: 85
Views: 13663

Re: Taking members seriously

Some of the responses and name-calling in this thread illustrate why it's so difficult to participate here. Different people are treated differently. I have always tried to maintain a positive approach and show gratitude for others. Fede, the fact that you are a moderator on three other boards yet f...
by Jechbi
Sun Mar 20, 2011 11:40 am
Forum: Announcements
Topic: Open invitation: Help us improve your DW experience!
Replies: 253
Views: 25771

Re: Open invitation: Help us improve your DW experience!

Here is some advice if anyone else is ever subject to a signature attack. It includes these directions for removing a page or site from Google's search results.
Best wishes.
by Jechbi
Fri Mar 04, 2011 4:45 pm
Forum: Suggestion box
Topic: Taking members seriously
Replies: 85
Views: 13663

Re: Taking members seriously

Tilt, earlier you told me: No one is telling you do not have legitimate grievances So there are different possible focal points for comments in this tread, including: 1) The underlying concerns about things that sometimes happen on this board; and 2) My manner if conveying those concerns. Many of th...
by Jechbi
Fri Mar 04, 2011 4:32 pm
Forum: Suggestion box
Topic: Taking members seriously
Replies: 85
Views: 13663

Re: Taking members seriously

Even better yet, through a little metta meditation in there towards Tilt and see what happens. Absolutely. I certainly have done this. For me, it's very good practice to deliberately send metta and thoughts of good will not only to myself and the people I care about, but also to people I am neutral...
by Jechbi
Fri Mar 04, 2011 3:51 pm
Forum: Suggestion box
Topic: Taking members seriously
Replies: 85
Views: 13663

Re: Taking members seriously

tiltbillings wrote:What exactly do you want here?
In this thread, I wanted what I thought had been offered: a helpful discussion. I wasn't looking for or expecting more fireworks.
by Jechbi
Fri Mar 04, 2011 3:45 pm
Forum: Suggestion box
Topic: Taking members seriously
Replies: 85
Views: 13663

Re: Taking members seriously

No doubt, Jhana4, and there are times of course when I have done just that. We've all done that, I'm sure, because it's in the nature of life to face those types of situations sometimes. I completely misunderstood the invitation to post in this suggestion box, thinking that in this one case, it woul...
by Jechbi
Fri Mar 04, 2011 3:19 pm
Forum: Suggestion box
Topic: Taking members seriously
Replies: 85
Views: 13663

Re: Taking members seriously

btw, Annapurna, thanks for the sutta link. It is familiar to me: http://dhammawheel.com/viewtopic.php?f= ... 30&p=45459" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;
by Jechbi
Fri Mar 04, 2011 3:09 pm
Forum: Suggestion box
Topic: Taking members seriously
Replies: 85
Views: 13663

Re: Taking members seriously

I wasn't motivated by self pity so much as a sense that others might have had the same kind of experience here that I've had and that I've seen. I understood Retro's invitation to be this: If I felt there were problems worth addressing and discussing, then I was invited to come here to the suggestio...
by Jechbi
Fri Mar 04, 2011 10:38 am
Forum: Suggestion box
Topic: Taking members seriously
Replies: 85
Views: 13663

Re: Taking members seriously

As much as I sometimes disagreed with Namdrol, he had some remarkable things to offer. He's still a member here, I believe.
by Jechbi
Fri Mar 04, 2011 8:52 am
Forum: Suggestion box
Topic: Taking members seriously
Replies: 85
Views: 13663

Re: Taking members seriously

No one is telling you do not have legitimate grievances ... Then I misunderstood. I thought that's what I was being told. ... you have gotten a lot of strongly negative feedback here on the Dhamma Wheel and on your blog, which really may be telling you something about how you are going about it. I ...
by Jechbi
Fri Mar 04, 2011 8:41 am
Forum: Suggestion box
Topic: Taking members seriously
Replies: 85
Views: 13663

Re: Taking members seriously

Thank you, Annapurna. But I think this offer is best applied to 'fresh' cases. You're probably right, but I understood Retro's invitation differently: Clearly you feel there are grievances unresolved about how things work here - would it help you to frame each as a suggestion in the Suggestion Box? ...
by Jechbi
Fri Mar 04, 2011 8:08 am
Forum: Suggestion box
Topic: Taking members seriously
Replies: 85
Views: 13663

Re: Taking members seriously

No rant was intended.

I'm glad other people have had a much more positive experience here. Best wishes.
by Jechbi
Fri Mar 04, 2011 8:00 am
Forum: Announcements
Topic: Open invitation: Help us improve your DW experience!
Replies: 253
Views: 25771

Re: Open invitation: Help us improve your DW experience!

tiltbillings wrote:As an exercise, why don't you go back and reread what you have written as if someone else wrote it.
I have done that.
tiltbillings wrote:Do you always put so much energy into quibbles?
I've tried to respond to you respectfully. I don't mind exerting energy to make that effort. Best wishes.
by Jechbi
Fri Mar 04, 2011 7:35 am
Forum: Suggestion box
Topic: Taking members seriously
Replies: 85
Views: 13663

Re: Taking members seriously

I was concerned that this would happen. Tilt, your post is off topic. One thing to clarify: The issue wasn't that I was unhappy with how the complaint was adjudicated. The issue is that after I made the complaint (in which I also cited examples of how others were treated, not just myself), things ju...
by Jechbi
Fri Mar 04, 2011 7:04 am
Forum: Announcements
Topic: Open invitation: Help us improve your DW experience!
Replies: 253
Views: 25771

Re: Open invitation: Help us improve your DW experience!

The praise is rendered meaningless by the ongoing negativity of what you are saying. Can you be more specific about this ongoing negativity? Also, you really did not respond to mindyourmind; you, again, offered another justification for what you are doing. There is no dialogue in that. I felt that ...
by Jechbi
Fri Mar 04, 2011 6:57 am
Forum: Suggestion box
Topic: Taking members seriously
Replies: 85
Views: 13663

Re: Taking members seriously

Well this hasn't worked out very well so far. To those who have criticized me for creating this suggestion, please be aware that DW invited me to do so. To those who say it is bad form, I disagree. If a member has a legitimate concern, from their perspective, about something occuring that appears to...