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by altar
Sun Dec 02, 2018 11:07 pm
Forum: Samatha Bhāvana
Topic: Unrequited love
Replies: 4
Views: 178

Unrequited love

Qualifies as metta?

More like contemplation of dukkha - this longing I feel is it a wholesome thing to dwell on? But I feel as long as I am not permanently fixated on this “wish” it is kind of a starting point for metta. Thoughts?
by altar
Tue Oct 30, 2018 4:34 am
Forum: General Theravāda Meditation
Topic: retreat
Replies: 2
Views: 396

retreat

I am thinking of doing a retreat. probably it will be a Vipassana retreat. if I go I will basically have to conform to all the retreats guidelines. although there may be room in my mind for personal discretion, basically that kind of self reflection will be forfeited. nevertheless it seems like its ...
by altar
Sun Oct 07, 2018 12:24 pm
Forum: Sīla
Topic: perfection vs practicality
Replies: 5
Views: 442

perfection vs practicality

is the perfection of virtue compatible with the incredible "practical" side of life, i.e. a "got-to-do-it-why-not-i'll probably enjoy it anyway" attitude? That covers things like walking the dog and cooking? a "virtuous enough" attitude seems kind of un-buddhist, or is it buddhist? and then its like...
by altar
Wed Aug 01, 2018 5:20 pm
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Sorry for being disruptive
Replies: 4
Views: 748

Re: Sorry for being disruptive

i would not be too hard on yourself. it is hard to reach the point where you know with certainty that something was definitely wrong to say. if saying something has the chance of being beneficial it is, in my opinion, okay to say it. it is also an exercise in letting go to just let your words stay o...
by altar
Tue Jun 12, 2018 1:56 am
Forum: Pāli
Topic: restraint
Replies: 8
Views: 559

Re: restraint

thx
by altar
Wed Jun 06, 2018 9:48 pm
Forum: Pāli
Topic: restraint
Replies: 8
Views: 559

restraint

what is the pali for restraint?

in english i've come up with one alternative: moderation
by altar
Mon May 28, 2018 2:38 pm
Forum: Lounge (Archive)
Topic: crabs for dinner.......
Replies: 15
Views: 800

Re: crabs for dinner.......

Well in the end she understood me not wanting to eat them but would not allow for them to go in the river...
by altar
Sun May 27, 2018 6:52 pm
Forum: Lounge (Archive)
Topic: crabs for dinner.......
Replies: 15
Views: 800

Re: crabs for dinner.......

rightview,
instead of teaching my mom not to kill living beings i am teaching myself that these things are out of my power.
by altar
Sun May 27, 2018 6:31 pm
Forum: Lounge (Archive)
Topic: crabs for dinner.......
Replies: 15
Views: 800

Re: crabs for dinner.......

they are a purchase but my mom bought them! we have different standards for cooking so i eat meat etc. when she buys it (i buy it but not as much as her) but now that its something live i'm not sure what to do... but i've basically realized that im not doing anything wrong by just leaving them there...
by altar
Sun May 27, 2018 6:08 pm
Forum: Lounge (Archive)
Topic: crabs for dinner.......
Replies: 15
Views: 800

crabs for dinner.......

i opened the refrigerator, saw a box of food, pulled it out, and opened it, and ... live crabs!. i have no idea what to do... my options are: - just forget about it. - look forward to eating crabs - put them in the river across the street. obviously the crabs are not "mine," but i feel kind of lost,...
by altar
Tue May 22, 2018 5:38 pm
Forum: Lounge (Archive)
Topic: Topicless Friendly Banter
Replies: 57
Views: 2318

Re: Topicless Friendly Banter

hope you enjoy massachussetts. that is where i live. i live in the Berkshires.
by altar
Wed Mar 21, 2018 3:49 pm
Forum: Wellness, Diet & Fitness
Topic: Environmental trigger
Replies: 11
Views: 660

Re: Environmental trigger

or is it because we feel the opportunity is still somewhere out there?
by altar
Wed Mar 21, 2018 3:33 pm
Forum: Wellness, Diet & Fitness
Topic: Environmental trigger
Replies: 11
Views: 660

Re: Environmental trigger

i can sympathize. i never had money issues so i have never envied the rich. but i have made social mistakes in the past. and frequently my mind returns to that moment. what if i had gone along with something instead of not? and it is an ongoing thing. at the moment my mind is fluid concerning such t...
by altar
Sat Dec 23, 2017 2:47 pm
Forum: Sīla
Topic: Ignoring jury duty request
Replies: 29
Views: 3057

Re: Ignoring jury duty request

my request was denied...