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by altar
Sun Oct 07, 2018 12:24 pm
Forum: Sīla
Topic: perfection vs practicality
Replies: 3
Views: 85

perfection vs practicality

is the perfection of virtue compatible with the incredible "practical" side of life, i.e. a "got-to-do-it-why-not-i'll probably enjoy it anyway" attitude? That covers things like walking the dog and cooking? a "virtuous enough" attitude seems kind of un-buddhist, or is it buddhist? and then its like...
by altar
Wed Aug 01, 2018 5:20 pm
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Sorry for being disruptive
Replies: 4
Views: 409

Re: Sorry for being disruptive

i would not be too hard on yourself. it is hard to reach the point where you know with certainty that something was definitely wrong to say. if saying something has the chance of being beneficial it is, in my opinion, okay to say it. it is also an exercise in letting go to just let your words stay o...
by altar
Tue Jul 03, 2018 8:28 pm
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Father question
Replies: 12
Views: 698

Re: Father question

one thing you can do is find some middle ground. is there some wholesome activity that your parents would like to see from you that you would be okay doing? there may not be - because, as far as i see it- there simply aren't that many things to do in the world. i do gardening. but patience is necess...
by altar
Tue Jul 03, 2018 8:11 pm
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Father question
Replies: 12
Views: 698

Re: Father question

hospitals can be very boring and cold. they are bad for your mental health. the motivation to get out of them forces people to conform because they may not let you out without your consent. family dynamics will become very awkward and worse if you are forced to do these things against your will. you...
by altar
Tue Jul 03, 2018 8:03 pm
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Father question
Replies: 12
Views: 698

Re: Father question

i do not know your situation well but the development of wholesome activities is important. if you are perceived as ill one thing you can do is cultivate health.
it is difficult when we do not know what health is, or it seems unobtainable.
by altar
Tue Jul 03, 2018 7:56 pm
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Father question
Replies: 12
Views: 698

Re: Father question

friend,
i have experienced the same situation.
the cultivation of right view regarding this is an ongoing process.
i hope the problem resolves as swiftly as possible for you.

the development of patience and forbearance, and perhaps understanding.
by altar
Tue Jun 12, 2018 1:56 am
Forum: Pāli
Topic: restraint
Replies: 8
Views: 427

Re: restraint

thx
by altar
Wed Jun 06, 2018 9:48 pm
Forum: Pāli
Topic: restraint
Replies: 8
Views: 427

restraint

what is the pali for restraint?

in english i've come up with one alternative: moderation
by altar
Mon May 28, 2018 2:38 pm
Forum: Lounge (Archive)
Topic: crabs for dinner.......
Replies: 15
Views: 428

Re: crabs for dinner.......

Well in the end she understood me not wanting to eat them but would not allow for them to go in the river...
by altar
Sun May 27, 2018 6:52 pm
Forum: Lounge (Archive)
Topic: crabs for dinner.......
Replies: 15
Views: 428

Re: crabs for dinner.......

rightview,
instead of teaching my mom not to kill living beings i am teaching myself that these things are out of my power.
by altar
Sun May 27, 2018 6:31 pm
Forum: Lounge (Archive)
Topic: crabs for dinner.......
Replies: 15
Views: 428

Re: crabs for dinner.......

they are a purchase but my mom bought them! we have different standards for cooking so i eat meat etc. when she buys it (i buy it but not as much as her) but now that its something live i'm not sure what to do... but i've basically realized that im not doing anything wrong by just leaving them there...
by altar
Sun May 27, 2018 6:08 pm
Forum: Lounge (Archive)
Topic: crabs for dinner.......
Replies: 15
Views: 428

crabs for dinner.......

i opened the refrigerator, saw a box of food, pulled it out, and opened it, and ... live crabs!. i have no idea what to do... my options are: - just forget about it. - look forward to eating crabs - put them in the river across the street. obviously the crabs are not "mine," but i feel kind of lost,...
by altar
Tue May 22, 2018 5:38 pm
Forum: Lounge (Archive)
Topic: Topicless Friendly Banter
Replies: 57
Views: 1317

Re: Topicless Friendly Banter

hope you enjoy massachussetts. that is where i live. i live in the Berkshires.
by altar
Wed Mar 21, 2018 3:49 pm
Forum: Wellness, Diet & Fitness
Topic: Environmental trigger
Replies: 11
Views: 504

Re: Environmental trigger

or is it because we feel the opportunity is still somewhere out there?