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by Fede
Sun Mar 18, 2012 11:46 am
Forum: General Theravāda Meditation
Topic: Tongue Placement Question
Replies: 7
Views: 5076

Re: Tongue Placement Question

when i attended my local monastery, where i used to live, I sat in meditation, and a lady asked the same question... her problem was that her mouth, tongue and what was in between her teeth - became an irritating distraction... (we very often had a meditaton session after lunch, and it wasn't always...
by Fede
Fri Mar 16, 2012 8:05 am
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: sacrifice
Replies: 3
Views: 586

Re: sacrifice

Well, I'm looking at the first Precept here, and wondering how your question fits in with that.... I don't think the dying of the Buddha in a previous life, to feed himself to a tigress is a question of self-sacrifice. It hinges more on compassion....the feeling of compassion over-rode any sense of ...
by Fede
Fri Mar 16, 2012 7:59 am
Forum: Lounge
Topic: A Burning Question...
Replies: 7
Views: 728

Re: A Burning Question...

Hi everyone, So if its true the time is money, then does it follow that ATMs (AutoMatic Teller Machines) are time machines? :buddha2: Well, as i never seem to have enough time to do anything, i can see the logic in your question.... When i go to an ATM, I can't get any time out of that at all - so ...
by Fede
Mon Mar 12, 2012 8:53 am
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Dhamma vs. Self Help Industry
Replies: 6
Views: 1002

Re: Dhamma vs. Self Help Industry

Oh yes, I agree.
It was due to all these little 'baby steps' that i eventually found myself in a healthier mind-frame for actually joining the Path..... :)
by Fede
Sun Mar 11, 2012 4:12 pm
Forum: Wellness, Diet & Fitness
Topic: I'm so depressed
Replies: 27
Views: 4101

Re: I'm so depressed

It's also worth considering gaining a 'second opinion'... a friend of mine nearly took his own life on more than one occasion, and was put onto several different meds.... but eventually his diagnosis was revised, confirmed and he was subsequently given the correct medication. Medication he was 'comp...
by Fede
Sun Mar 11, 2012 3:56 pm
Forum: Sīla
Topic: Bedbugs and the 1st precept
Replies: 29
Views: 5110

Re: Bed Bugs

.......once you have finished, do some form of memorial specifically for them? I have tried posting this several times now :tantrum: Well, you finally made it.... :twothumbsup: Kahil, Lama Surya Das recounts in one of his 'Awakening Trilogy' books that a USA-based monastery, which i believe had act...
by Fede
Sun Mar 11, 2012 1:00 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Dhamma vs. Self Help Industry
Replies: 6
Views: 1002

Re: Dhamma vs. Self Help Industry

Again this is a commentary more than a question but I suppose I can state my question first: Have any of you experienced this realization and how do you process it now? Well for many years i have been discovering the spiritual side of life. And like an onion, it obviously has many layers. They say ...
by Fede
Sat Mar 10, 2012 10:18 am
Forum: Sīla
Topic: Frivolous talk
Replies: 8
Views: 1870

Re: Frivolous talk

First do no harm.
If what you say, is harmful - don't say it.
if what you say is harmless - it's ok.


"If it feels good, do it.
When in doubt - don't."

She said...... :thinking: :roll:
by Fede
Mon Mar 05, 2012 7:33 pm
Forum: Announcements
Topic: OpenDhamma Hot Topic Posts being Reviewed
Replies: 27
Views: 4631

Re: OpenDhamma Hot Topic Posts being Reviewed

Taking the unilateral decision to lock a thread without consulting or advising the OP that it is being considered is authoritarian and bad mannered. I wish to voice my strongest objection. this is curtailing free speech. you are moderators, not censors. the fact that this has caused such heated deba...
by Fede
Mon Mar 05, 2012 6:16 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Not 'man bashing' but legitimate protest.
Replies: 41
Views: 11709

Re: Not 'man bashing' but legitimate protest.

First and foremost you have not experienced what you have not experienced, and unless you are over 1000 years old you only have a gripe with your perceived injustices you have internalised, you have not experienced them! and if there is inaccuracies in my post prove them wrong, show how they are wr...
by Fede
Mon Mar 05, 2012 6:02 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Not 'man bashing' but legitimate protest.
Replies: 41
Views: 11709

Re: Not 'man bashing' but legitimate protest.

There is no question that women have been mistreated over the past several thousands of years or more. I think some men here may be posting in a defensive way because they feel the OP and other posts are directed at them. But I don't think it necessarily is directed at all men. I have not directed ...
by Fede
Mon Mar 05, 2012 10:33 am
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Not 'man bashing' but legitimate protest.
Replies: 41
Views: 11709

Re: Not 'man bashing' but legitimate protest.

read the book. first and foremost, read the book. then defend mankind's inhumanity towards his constant partner. both in the past, and in the present, both in the west and elsewhere. You see, until men have systematically known millennia of persecution simply because of their gender, to the same ext...
by Fede
Mon Mar 05, 2012 8:00 am
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Not 'man bashing' but legitimate protest.
Replies: 41
Views: 11709

Re: Not 'man bashing' but legitimate protest.

.....Also if being opposed to the blatant misandry in this and the other thread implies little understanding, i'm not sure what ideology you espouse but it certainly isn't Buddhist. Misandry is an interesting word. permit me: .....the archaic roots misrepresent misandry’s status as a new word, a ne...
by Fede
Mon Mar 05, 2012 7:35 am
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Not 'man bashing' but legitimate protest.
Replies: 41
Views: 11709

Re: Not 'man bashing' but legitimate protest.

Fede how would you feel if I said the following (and humour me, read it slowly and with an open mind): <>snip<> Of course, this is just what you have written with "men" replaced by "Italians". Mind you if I had used "Jewish", "Black" or "gay" the indignation is likely to be even stronger but I know...
by Fede
Mon Mar 05, 2012 6:54 am
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Not 'man bashing' but legitimate protest.
Replies: 41
Views: 11709

Re: Not 'man bashing' but legitimate protest.

But, in terms of your practice, remember that men, regardless what has been done by them, have feelings. Of course they have. that they have expressed them warmly, equilaterally and positively, is unfortunately again, a recent phenomenon. Once upon a time in the not so dim and distant past, to have...
by Fede
Sun Mar 04, 2012 11:41 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Not 'man bashing' but legitimate protest.
Replies: 41
Views: 11709

Re: Not 'man bashing' but legitimate protest.

Unfortunately, from my PoV it's mainly one-sided... the men i speak of specifically wouldn't know, understand or accept the Dhamma if it jumped out at them with big day-glo-orange foam rubber hands and whupped them over the head... so it's largely a mono-lateral effort.... It's an utterly demoralisi...
by Fede
Sun Mar 04, 2012 11:17 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Not 'man bashing' but legitimate protest.
Replies: 41
Views: 11709

Re: Not 'man bashing' but legitimate protest.

Please, please believe me when i tell you that honestly and sincerely, i am mindful of that, and have so tried to practice it. Why is it then, that every time i feel i am beginning to conquer my emotional aversion to the male of the species - some dominating, arrogant, heavy-handed male chauvinist c...
by Fede
Sun Mar 04, 2012 10:36 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Not 'man bashing' but legitimate protest.
Replies: 41
Views: 11709

Not 'man bashing' but legitimate protest.

a spin-off from a current thread elsewhere.... Have you thought some men may feel the same about women for good reason? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZGDTDawB4wE&feature=share it's a pertinent point you make, but this kind of brutality is a fairly recently-aired phenomenon. Rightly, it fills people...
by Fede
Sun Mar 04, 2012 2:24 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Almost silent thread
Replies: 33
Views: 2337

Re: Almost silent thread

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by Fede
Mon Feb 20, 2012 9:38 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: RIP - Rest in Peace
Replies: 7
Views: 1372

Re: RIP - Rest in Peace

I don't personally buy that notion... not until I get to sit under the Bodhi tree......