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by Cittasanto
Tue Mar 12, 2019 9:16 pm
Forum: Theravāda for Beginners
Topic: How to not be dissapointed by other people in your path to englightenment?
Replies: 18
Views: 1001

Re: How to not be dissapointed by other people in your path to englightenment?

Hi MrLearner Ignorance is the way of the world. How do you know they, and not you are the ignorant ones? To expect others to be at the same place, understanding, way of life... as yourself is not really helpful for people in general, and a daily mantra of low expectations is helpful to not become di...
by Cittasanto
Fri Dec 14, 2018 10:46 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: How to practise sati ?
Replies: 64
Views: 2017

Re: How to practise sati ?

Ardent alert and mindful, setting aside pain and distress in regards to the world.
It's the satipatana refrain. Try to apply that and you will be more mindful.

In truth
Cittasanto
by Cittasanto
Fri Dec 14, 2018 10:42 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: What's happening to me. Help please!
Replies: 32
Views: 1612

Re: What's happening to me. Help please!

Sometimes things happen. I try to frame things in a context that help to understand things in a useful light. Odin's ravens (or big crowd) are though and memory simulate to the satipatana refrain 'ardent alert and mindful setting aside pain and distress in regard to the world. I would advise framing...
by Cittasanto
Fri Dec 14, 2018 10:30 pm
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Hey Hi Hello
Replies: 6
Views: 427

Re: Hey Hi Hello

Welcome aboard
by Cittasanto
Thu Aug 02, 2018 4:53 pm
Forum: Sīla
Topic: How to deal with ignorant brutes in a discussion
Replies: 69
Views: 6063

Re: How to deal with ignorant brutes in a discussion

Greetings, I'll take that at face value, but let's just say that there's a lot of whinging and moaning from certain people, who aren't doing their cause any favours by exhibiting many of the same behaviours they complain about in others. Is it so hard just to be decent and civilized? Is it really s...
by Cittasanto
Fri Jul 06, 2018 7:43 pm
Forum: Sīla
Topic: Abortion
Replies: 54
Views: 10717

Re: Abortion and the first precept

Life starts at conception, and abortion is therefore against the first precept of the lay precepts even though I do not know where this is explicitly spelled out in the Suttas. As said the Vinaya does explicitly state this is murder in the parajika rule, and the suttas do state when life begins the ...
by Cittasanto
Mon Jun 11, 2018 9:31 pm
Forum: Sīla
Topic: Sexual intercourse with other woman with the consent of wife
Replies: 58
Views: 7499

Re: Sexual intercourse with other woman with the consent of wife

What about if you are out of town and you have an encounter with a woman that knows you are married. If your wife doesn't ask how bad would this be?? The op has a context of the couple both being involved in the discussion. So without that context it would be lying to the wife and a breach of that ...
by Cittasanto
Thu May 03, 2018 6:52 am
Forum: Sīla
Topic: Sexual intercourse with other woman with the consent of wife
Replies: 58
Views: 7499

Re: Sexual intercourse with other woman with the consent of wife

the op does not deal with that, as the situation as presented only indicates a discussion has been had between the two. That is up to those involved to consider. There are obviously potentially three people involved here, rather than two, unless they discussed the following: And again up to the cou...
by Cittasanto
Mon Apr 30, 2018 10:01 pm
Forum: Sīla
Topic: Sexual intercourse with other woman with the consent of wife
Replies: 58
Views: 7499

Re: Sexual intercourse with other woman with the consent of wife

no, however that argument doesn't negate the situation being put forward. One where the conversation could easily have been brought up by the wife. This appears to still not change the lack of consideration about who & what will this other woman be and the consequences upon her. You seem to have th...
by Cittasanto
Mon Apr 30, 2018 9:29 pm
Forum: News, Current Events & Politics (Archive)
Topic: Contemporary threats to free speech
Replies: 584
Views: 44251

Re: Contemporary threats to free speech

I believe the alphie Evans situation involved threats of violence not just someone being called a name because they happened to work at the hospital and may or may not have been involved in the care of Alphie. I do not agree with threatening staff of the hospital. And, I also do not believe that all...
by Cittasanto
Mon Apr 30, 2018 8:30 pm
Forum: Sīla
Topic: Sexual intercourse with other woman with the consent of wife
Replies: 58
Views: 7499

Re: Sexual intercourse with other woman with the consent of wife

lay people (what this thread is about) are part of the world... The term "the world" has different meanings. For example, just because sexual promiscuity, pedophilia or lying is practised by "the world" does not mean lay Buddhists should practise promiscuity, pedophilia or lying. no, however that a...
by Cittasanto
Fri Apr 27, 2018 10:34 pm
Forum: Sīla
Topic: Sexual intercourse with other woman with the consent of wife
Replies: 58
Views: 7499

Re: Sexual intercourse with other woman with the consent of wife

Oh i am pretty sure this is a fact. I'm pretty sure what I wrote is also fact, namely, the ways of Dhamma are not the same as the ways of the world (Mara). lay people (what this thread is about) are part of the world, and this issue is relevant to a precept that deals with how a layperson should ac...
by Cittasanto
Tue Apr 24, 2018 8:41 am
Forum: Lounge (Archive)
Topic: Sattva/Louise
Replies: 21
Views: 2077

Re: Sattva/Louise

I will be keeping you in my citta while I meditate.

Much Metta
by Cittasanto
Tue Apr 24, 2018 8:33 am
Forum: Sīla
Topic: Sexual intercourse with other woman with the consent of wife
Replies: 58
Views: 7499

Re: Sexual intercourse with other woman with the consent of wife

being prohibited by law. I find this term is tricky, what does women who are "protected by law" mean? If the local laws prohibiting your sexual behavior, for example, no sexual intercourse outside marriage but you do it, does it mean you have sexual intercourse with those who are "protected by law"...
by Cittasanto
Tue Apr 24, 2018 7:55 am
Forum: Sīla
Topic: Sexual intercourse with other woman with the consent of wife
Replies: 58
Views: 7499

Re: Sexual intercourse with other woman with the consent of wife

Hi Steve. There are a couple of angles one can look at this from within the texts so I will deal with them. Acording to the wording of the precept and other textual explanations of the precept the situation is not a breach even without her permission. Although if the situation was reversed it would ...