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by befriend
Mon Mar 18, 2024 4:46 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: If we can't control the five clinging-aggregate, how do we attain Nibbana?
Replies: 14
Views: 294

Re: If we can't control the five clinging-aggregate, how do we attain Nibbana?

This is what I don't understand also. how can good thoughts, generosity, good speech be not self if they accumulate into well being. Goodness builds up. So how can it be impermanent? If goodness were permanent, why is there a need to build it up? If things can be accumulated, are they permanent or ...
by befriend
Mon Mar 18, 2024 4:56 am
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: How can Annica Dukkha Annata exists with kamma vipaka?
Replies: 3
Views: 100

How can Annica Dukkha Annata exists with kamma vipaka?

How can Annica Dukkha Annata exists with kamma vipaka? Unless seeing the three characteristics stops kamma from being created??
by befriend
Mon Mar 18, 2024 4:48 am
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: If we can't control the five clinging-aggregate, how do we attain Nibbana?
Replies: 14
Views: 294

Re: If we can't control the five clinging-aggregate, how do we attain Nibbana?

This is what I don't understand also. how can good thoughts, generosity, good speech be not self if they accumulate into well being. Goodness builds up. So how can it be impermanent?
by befriend
Wed Mar 13, 2024 1:23 am
Forum: Early Buddhism
Topic: Ahara Sutta, Son's Flesh
Replies: 136
Views: 8893

Re: Ahara Sutta, Son's Flesh

Sex and good food literal food are a huge source of greed not sure if they are the strongest types of greed maybe rebirth in immaterial realms is. Repulsiveness of food is a common theme in the suttas. you can eat with greed or without greed. Eating with greed is wolfing down your meal because it's ...
by befriend
Sun Mar 10, 2024 1:31 am
Forum: Sīla
Topic: resentment
Replies: 11
Views: 760

Re: resentment

i googled unconditional love, and it said everyone makes mistakes and has flaws. this was a big eye opener for me, if everyone makes mistakes, non arahants, then you can still love people despite their mistakes. mistakes and flaws are part of everyone. unconditional love takes practice and patience ...
by befriend
Wed Mar 06, 2024 4:31 am
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: The relationship between kamma and sankharas
Replies: 12
Views: 259

Re: The relationship between kamma and sankharas

is kamma vipaka always about your next life?
by befriend
Sat Mar 02, 2024 7:28 pm
Forum: Wellness, Diet & Fitness
Topic: How i cured Depression
Replies: 8
Views: 497

Re: How i cured Depression

Tons of my anxiety goes away too when I spend 30 45 minutes in nature. The trick is to be aware of what your seeing hearing smelling feeling. The plants give off healing chemicals or something it's called forest bathing. Or the nature pill. I got a book on it it's a little different than mindfulness...
by befriend
Wed Feb 28, 2024 6:53 pm
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Advice for Beginning Practice
Replies: 6
Views: 594

Re: Advice for Beginning Practice

Try replacing marijuana with a wholesome activity like reading suttas, exercize, practicing charity or start slowly with a mindfulness meditation. I'm trying to quit smoking cigarettes too I find it helps to roll your own to taper off real cigarettes, rolled cigarettes have less addictive quality in...
by befriend
Wed Feb 28, 2024 6:47 pm
Forum: Connections to Other Paths
Topic: Differences of theravada and mahayana for the lay.
Replies: 2
Views: 339

Re: Differences of theravada and mahayana for the lay.

The late thich nhat hanh teaches original buddhism through a Mahayana lens he calls it. It's good stuff. Not complicated.
by befriend
Mon Feb 26, 2024 11:07 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Your Dhamma Verses Here.
Replies: 12
Views: 595

Re: Your Dhamma Verses Here.

I will think kind thoughts about people I will not think bad thoughts about people or get angry I will benefit others as much as I can" Dalai Lama
by befriend
Sun Feb 25, 2024 3:20 am
Forum: General Theravāda Meditation
Topic: Gocara
Replies: 7
Views: 392

Re: Gocara

i think ajahn Lee means staying in a vihara dhamma is exclusively focusing on one kammathana. without insight its just samatha. for wisdom to arise one needs to see the impermanence of the five aggregates, not just watching the breath. if you spent your whole life contemplating the buddhas attribute...
by befriend
Sat Feb 24, 2024 6:31 pm
Forum: Theravāda for Beginners
Topic: How does an animal obtain a human rebirth?
Replies: 14
Views: 762

Re: How does an animal obtain a human rebirth?

my pit bull died about 2 years ago, he would sit on the couch and stare at you with love and affection in his eyes/gaze., dogs are protectors for people. i imagine a loving dog has a good chance at acheiving a good rebirth. every beings kamma is so different. my dog was a better being than i am, bec...
by befriend
Thu Feb 22, 2024 1:25 am
Forum: Sīla
Topic: resentment
Replies: 11
Views: 760

Re: resentment

its hard to deal with people sometimes, but i think talking about how your feeling in a productive gentle way, is better than keeping things pent up, and feeling angry. its hard to have tough conversations with people and it makes me sad but being sad is better than being mad.
by befriend
Wed Feb 21, 2024 1:31 am
Forum: Sīla
Topic: resentment
Replies: 11
Views: 760

Re: resentment

i was thinking today, when people hurt me in the past, its not the hurt they caused thats making me suffer, its the memory of it and the opinion i have of them based on the memory. so today i saw someone be mean to someone else, i was mad at them, but the situation is just a memory now, and a memory...
by befriend
Thu Feb 15, 2024 4:33 am
Forum: Sīla
Topic: resentment
Replies: 11
Views: 760

resentment

Buddha gave some instructions on removing resentment in anguttara nikaya, one of them is understanding whoever harmed you is heir to their kamma, related to their kamma, they are owners of their kamma vipaka. i dont understand how this removes feelings of resentment. i can see how it removes feeling...